I like the way he looks, and the way he treats me. He claims he loves me, the way he acts proves that claim. But...still I am not happy, since i don't love him. Am I too not-sensitive or cruel to this guy? I feel like braking up, but my brain says - he's the one shut up! What should i do?
How long have you been together? I mean, do you think you could love him? Are you beyond waiting a bit longer to see what might happen with your feelings? I think it's important to be upfront with him. He should know how you really feel. Does your brain say "he's the one" because he is or because you don't want to hurt him?
Well if you were a guy the answer would be easy. Well you can wait for a bit and see what next your mind throws at you and how you feel about him but i don't think much will change. How long have you been dating?
oooh i sorta feel like this right now . dont know really what to tell you. depending on how long you've been together would make the advice easier. sometimes love has to grow, or you have to open yourself up to loving him. if you can see yourself being with him for a longer period of time, dont break up with him. but dont get caught up in the moment. I know a guy that will fall for any girl that gives him attention. he acts like he loves the girl, says he loves her, and will basically do anything for that particular girl. the bad thing is, is that he's done with several times already.. ya know. made claims to be in love, wanting to marry which ever girl he was with at the time. i dont think he's a liar. he just gets caught up in the excitement and joy of having someone. whatever you do, dont let this guy fool you into believe the love for you is real. i'm not trying to question him, just simply stating that the "L" word shouldnt be thrown around like it is.. hope that helps.
bat for lashes - the fact that he says he loves me is not the reason why i am still with him. We date for 2 months, since everyone asked the thing is, the time we spend together kissing, loving is my time of my life...but the time we spend talking makes me wanna sream and run fast. It is that bad how we are different. So, its des10e i waited to see what happens to my feelings and cought myself making fun of his words.
Well if you make fun of him, you don't respect him. And personaly i can't be with a person that i don't respect.
Oh, this is a simple matter, i see this all the time. Dump him. You've already got him loving you, so the fun part is over. He's dominated, conquered, broken to your alliance, therefor uninteresting, right? OOOH! Maybe you should go out and find yourself a nice asshole! That'd be great. Maybe, when you're 30 or 40 and regretting all of your shitty decisions, you can go looking for the guy that was boring or too nice, and hope for your own sake, that he's still single and willing to forgive you. Heres my real advice: If you have a good thing going, LEARN to love it. Trust me, you can.
ToXicaSTtesTeR, say I don't make that "shitty" decision and don't brake up. Then I get myself 30 or 40 sitting infront of a patetic man with whom I have nothing to talk about, nothing to share. THEN, I'll feel sorry for makeing a shity decision and staying with him. ...Defiinetly i "go". "If I stay it would be trouble, if i go it would be..." I hope better
Sounds to me like you are in too much pressure to be 'in love'. Let me guess, he probably gets mad when you don't show him the same. This is what happens. Sometimes a person feels comfortable enough with another to feel 'love'. Its happened to me, in both ways, I have fallen for people that I felt close enough to that I thought it wouldn not drive them away, and had girls do the same to me when I didn't feel that way about them. Its not a good place to be. I for one, I am in a similar situation right now, I didn't go to the point of telling this girl I loved her, but she may have thought that by my actions, because it was perfect(too perfect now that I think about it) Spend some time apart, and that should clarify what to do.
should i stay or should i go....well i've been seeing this lad off and on for nearly 6 or so months who i mostly see on the weekends when i'm out and around, we get on and that and awlays have somethig to say to each other, just before christmas i asked him to take me out but he said he didn't want to lend me on....feel rather gutted cos i do like him and he knows that. through out this whole thing i've told myself and by friend too, to drop him but its when they push certain buttons :s i know i should be move on and forget about our whole thing....i just wanted to know what you'd do!?
If you really like him, you shouldn't let him go just like that. Not FIGHT for hi, but push a little harder, make him know that you can give him the attention he needs. I can't escape asking you whether you asked me this in order to put myself in my bf's position? Yes, I have done that, but still, i decide to go. Tell me what happens with your man.
thanks WM. yep i'll keep you informed on what happens in the next couple of months i do like him but i'm a need to know girl, who likes to know where she stands and in some ways his told me but still we manage to get back together boys hi....*rolls eyes*
Do boys love you more if you are less sensitive? In this relationship I was a total "whatever". When I told him I wanna break up, he broke down... He said he loved me with all his hearth!!! How did I deserve that? I feel bad about him. Still happy since I'm not with him any more
Not to sound like a cliche or old song, but breaking up is hard to do. You'll be better for it, though. You know you did the right thing.
i say that if you don't love him, you should really end it. if you don't see a future where you would be happy or happier; if the thought of marrying him and having kids doesn't make you very happy and you sort of dread it, then i'd leave him. there's no point in dragging it on and breaking his heart more, Unless you still see a spark. If there's just something there, then it could grow, and you wouldn't want to lose that. but if you really just dont see it happening, i'd end it
