So since the relationship forum is dead...

I kind of have a question for the ladies. uh, is there such thing as the "Friend Zone", where, if you become good friends with a girl, you're stuck their forever? Because I met this girl over the summer, and she and I kind of it it off, but then she basically became a regular friend, and I've liked her, but she alluded to other people that her and I are doomed to be friends.

 

cut her off if you dont want to be friends.
ignore every call, text, email, what not. its easy

 

but i mean, i want to be more than just friends. i've contemplated backing off totally until next year (my senior year, her sophomore year), to see if she'll view me like a guy, and not just her friend

 

The relationship forum isn't dead-you just can't see the latest post by looking at the index. You have to click 'relationships' and then it will take you inside the forum-that's if you're in Love and Sex. You can see the latest post in Relationships if you look at the main index-it's in the Alternative Lifestyles section.

 

ah ok, my mistake, sorry

 

yup once you are in the friend zone , you are considered safe, for things like cuddling that will not go anywhere . and we can talk to you about boys we like , without worring about you getting jelouous. its great becuse we then can ask for your advice and get a guys point of view. but ive never seen a guy go from a safe friend to a boyfriend .

 

damn.

 

of course, it all depends on the girl

but typically if you act more relationship-y and sexual around a girl that is a friend, she will begin to consider you as a potential relationship again.
just act really flirty, compliment her lots and such

 

Do this: Tell her you like her affectionately. Don't ever let her tease you. And if she does, act REALLY affectionate with her (unambiguously boyfriend-like).


If it doesn't work, you have two choices:

1) accept and suffer;

2) cut her off;

For future reference: state your intentions FROM THE VERY BEGINNING. The friend zone is the most brutal and demoralizing of positions. Haven't been there since I was like 17, even though women always try. It's cute...

 

Goddamn friend zone. Got stuck there myself a few years ago.:&