Guys,if you date exclusively older women or have just have a natural attraction towards them this one's for you. What is it about them that draws you to them? I'm not so much looking for reasons such as: ~more experienced ~don't complain as much ~less drama,etc. I'm just asking to look a little deeper & see if there's something that goes back to when you were young & maybe had a non-sexual experience with say....your mother's female friend (just an example). I have always been asked this by numerous people,mostly women why I go for older women. When I was 22-24 I was in a sexual relationship with a 42 year old woman as well as with a 37 year old woman. I never had an answer as to why I sought out the older women. But lately I've been thinking a lot about my childhood & certain experiences & feel like I'm finding answers little by little. I actually remember being about 4 or 5 years old & my mother's friend had a teenage daughter about 16 years old & blonde (which would also explain my affinity for blondes,lol). I remember her always telling me how handsome I was & if I would be her b/f. All in just being cute of course,nothing sexual or weird at all. Just the way teenage girls can be with a cute little boy around that age. I also had a female cousin that was about 10 years old older than me. Growing up,she was always so sweet to me,never treated me like a kid. Despite the age difference,we got along great,always joking around. She would tell me that I was going to be a little heartbreaker when I grow up (she was right ). She has since passed due to cancer a few years ago at the age of 32 & I miss her dearly. So I think it's experiences or "relationships" like that that have steered me more towards older women when it comes to dating. And my success with them has been near perfect. Only one woman has ever told me that I was too young for her & it broke my heart,lol. Otherwise,I've had no problem asking out older women & they just about all said yes & they've all said I was the youngest they've ever gone out with. Not saying I wouldn't fuck a chick younger than me,I just would never date one. Maybe I'm rambling here but I've just been thinking a lot about it & felt I could get some more opinions or answers here. Thanks.
I too have always dated older ladies. When I was 18 I had a wild relationship with a woman who was 38. Most of the women I dated though were between 1 and 5 years older than I. I'm not quite, sure why I dated older ladies, in some cases it was just luck of the draw. The lady who I was attracted to just happened to be older than I. My wife is 5 years older than I, seems to have worked out quite well (almost 10 years and 2 kids). There's always the supposition that older women are more experienced, but two of the ladies I've been with I have been far more experienced. Often older women "have their head together" so to speak. When I was in my early 20's a lot of the gals that were younger still wanted to play all those stupid relationship games high school girls are famous for playing. Perhaps the older ladies had gotten out of that phase and I didn't have to play games to enjoy their company. Plump Lvr
I have been attracted to older women as well. They are the only ones that I can express myself with. I am bored with women my age.
Definitely turned on by attractive older women. I like to talk in her ear and tell her the things i'm going to do to her.
Not my experience. Actually they have worked out a lot of the baggage from younger years (mistrust from being cheated on the first time around, etc.). Plus, older women are USUALLY more independent (read: low-maintenance). But I've also met some pretty immature older women actually.
Obviously we're defining independence differently. You tend to associate it with lack of sensitivity and self-worship --- and we all know the type; But what I meant by independence was women who do not lean on their partners or use dependence as one of the ingredients in cooking up a gender recepie. Women who have their own lives to live, but are also willing to share it, and willing to compromise. Women who do not need to be taken out, but are willing to go out together, etc. etc. et al ad infinitum
Hey everyone, In my experience's with older women, or MILF's as the younger people call them, I've found that they've learned more about life and are good to talk with on a mature level, unlike the average 18-25 range which only think they know a lot, but haven't lived it. Not everyone ofcourse, but I've known a lot of "know-it-all's" at that age. Also, if you're in a friends with benefits type relationship, basically just some fun with sex without the other life stuff mixed in, women usually between 37 and 50 are going through menopause, which may mean their sex drive triple's and are more active and vigorous in bed. But watchout for the mood swings, they may just need someone to talk to or vent frustration. And guys, learn to listen without reacting and take off your Mr. Fix it hat, they just want your ear, not your mouth(not until later that is...lol). Another factor that may also be is many women have raised families and gave up their social life and alone time for their kids and possibly exhusbands, so when the kids and husbands move out, she wants to enjoy life again and have fun. Hope that helps a bit... Peace everyone
I've always chosen older lovers and partners. My current wife is 22 years my senior and the sex is great, the mental connection is great, and the marriage is great. You can usually be more open about your sexuality with older women, I have found. With my wife, since she came of age sexually in the 1970's, she is much more open-minded than women my age or younger. Oh, and the fact that she is much more sexually expierenced than younger women can't hurt things either, lol.
