My boyfriend and i have been together for almost 2years we have a daughter together. Lately weve been fighting. Most of the time i am the one who causes the fight and usually it is over dumb little things. I dont know why ive been getting so upset. Its just sometimes it doesnt seem like he is listening to me or he doesnt care. Yesterday we almost broke-up but we worked things out so things are ok. Im just so scared that he might leave me soon. I dont know what to do.
Stop causing arguments and work on your communication skills. When you feel you need to talk . Shut the tv off shut music off and have 1-1 time there should be no distraction. You have a daughter and there should be absolutely no fighting in front of her what do you think she feels when you guys fight TENSION. When you need to talk Tell him i really need your attention can you plz hear me out.
why don't you feel he's listening to you? maybe you're starting arguments to get some communication going between the two of you. i've seen this before. if you have concerns get some time alone, without distractions and air them. you should know then if he's listening or not. the important thing is not to be scared and remember that your relationship with him will unfold as it should. that this is just a rough place that the two of you are in right now and eventually it will pass.
what else in your life is stressing you out? i know im a lot more short tempered with my bf (especially over stupid shit) when i have other major stressors in my life like lots of homework or working too much
the tension in you might as well be from your stress. What about a vacation together? Nice, quiet nature...where he could listen only to you
yea just try and chill out a bit. imagine that you to had broken up & think of the things you might regret, and change them.
You might want to figure out why you are starting petty fights with him. Do you have valid reasons, but are too nervous to fight about the actual issue? Or, are you throwing mini tantrums to try to get him to pay attention to you? As for tuning you out.....if he is used to you starting fights or nagging he doesn't want to listen to it. No one does. Think of your parents lecturing you for the 20th time about homework. You tune them out, because you've heard it all before...blah blah blah. He is no different. We all do it at some point or another (spouse, parent, school, boss, etc) Look inside yourself and be honest about what you do. Then work to fix the problem.....
