My boyfriend's dad is a really cool guy. He was a huge Beatle's fan,He moved to the US from England when he was 18, worked hard and made a name for himself. In general he's a great guy. He's a funny, sweet little british man who's content with rading the newspaper, drinking his tea, and reading the newspaper with a dog curled at his feet in front of the TV. He's sweet and funny and very intelligent. Sad thing is though, as he's aged he's become quite conservative. He's been a sheriff for some time now, and its has noticably changed him; given him kind of a sad arrogance and cockiness. Before I met him, I strongly disliked cops or anything of the sort. But I think of this guy like my father-in-law! I ask, how best should I deal with him? I don't agree with his views, he seems to get uncomfortable whenever I talk about The Beatles (he was once a huge fan), peace, the hippy movement (Which he was at one time very much apart of), etc. I can hardly relate to him sometimes; yet literally when he takes off the uniform, he's back to his old self. Opinions?
My soon to be father-in-law is a total prick- and he's not even involved in law enforcement! Lol! He's got this attitude that he's right about everything and anyone who disagrees w/ his ultra-conservative views MUST have something wrong w/ them- they're stupid, ignorant, whatever he wants to label them as. I've accepted this fact- but I also realize I'm not marrying him; he's only going to have a small role in my fiance and my life together. We're going to move out of state once I graduate and go to grad school. Then we'll go where ever my future education/job takes us. There isn't a lot of geology in Indiana! Peace and love
He's your boyfriends dad and future father-in-law, noy your friend and peer, and in these cases it is probably better to stay away from conversations that involve anything hippie. By this I mean that it will probably do no one any good by getting into phylisophical, ideological, political or religious discussions with the man. Avoid controversial subjects and find common ground things to talk about. The last thing I want to hear from or talk about with my son's girlfriend are her neo-conservative views on the world. Many times with family, especially in-laws and extended, it's best to bite one's tongue and opt out of certain discussions. You can have a great relationship with your future father-in-law, just don't rock the boat. Sound like denying ones self? I prefer to think of it as self-preservation. My wife and I learned a long time ago that discussions with my parents or hers regarding politics, marijuana laws, abortion, touring with the Grateful Dead, paganism, environmentalism etc., etc, got us nowhere. Thankfully they realized that discussions on their part involving Jesus, politics and abortion had the same results.
Cops are just regular people. Don't let the bad ones spoil your image of them. My best friend's sister is a deputy sheriff. About 3 xmas's ago, she walked in on us during a smoke session. Heard her calling from the kitchen. "Helloooo?" My friend met her there. She was on duty too. She could smell the weed, no doubt. She just wished us a merry xmas and left. Years ago, I actually double dated with a cop. We went to his house, and there on the mantle was about 2 dozen bongs from raids he'd been on. He didn't smoke himself, but he was sympathetic, ya know? x
ohh i dont envy you!!! but try to cut the guy a bit of slack,he probably feels it is his duty to be a little conservative when he is in his uniform,a sheriffs job is full of responsability towards the younger generation and he probably just doesnt want to encourage you in doing thins that the law sees as wrong. try to make an effort to talk to him when hes off duty and relaxed and try to remember he is is probably thinking that the way he is behaveing will benifit you. big sunny smiles and happy vibes comeing your way love jo xxx
Just talk to him. Say you have noticed his change over the years ect ect and ask why? I could think of reasons that are simple but its him that has changed not I.
it's because he's british. we're all like that. i guess you could just talk to him, if he's a big beatles fan then chat about that and then ask if his views on them have changed or anything?
