Hello all, thought I'd share my story to see if there are others out there going through this pain. I have a 13 month old son, his father has not seen him since June. A lengthly mediation was had in which my sons father wanted joint custody and visitations. Well we worked out an agreement and then 5 dys before his first visit he called me said he wanted to sign his rights over and not see our son. I left my son's father cause he was verbally, emotionally ect abusive. Now I know I should prolly be grateful for the fact he is not gonna be involved but it hurts everyday that he blames me for not seeing his son and that he rejects our flesh and blood. He then said he would call the mediator in a few months and discuss possibilities then. More stringing along... as it is I have sole custody and he hasn't called or written to check on him. The holidays were painful, my sons birthday, just every thing hurts. Any other single parents out there know what I'm talking about? How long does it take to get over? Love, Sheila
I have never been able to understand how someone would not do anything they could to be part of their kids loves. I have a couple of step children whose father felt he was too hurt by their mother (my wife) leaving him that he couldn't bear to see his kids. My step daughter has no memory of him whatsoever and my step son had troubles dealing with it, most likely blaming himself somewhat. If your childs father is going to be that much of a deadbeat it is possibly better that he is never in the picture and you son has no memory of him than to remember some good times and have to wonder why dad didn't want to see him. Just don't blame yourself and keep doing what you are doing by being a good mother to your son. Be very cautious when it comes letting your ex back in your sons life. Peace and love
Im a single father, my son is just over 2 years, and I only can wish that I could have him more often! Right now I have split custody right down the middle, 3.5 days each a week. I cant imagine helping usher a soul into existance and then turning my back and not helping a young child deal with the troubles of growing up. But I can imagine how people are so truly blind as to not realize how important their actions are. I also know what it's like to have it done to me by my own father, and from experience, I would have to agree that being rid of him is the best bet for your child, unless he grows up which I hope he does. Good luck Sheila and good health to your family. Namaste *
