I'm tired of been a virgin and the fact that I've never had a girlfriend before

I absolutely hate this. Everyone around me right now has already lost their virginity, is in a relationship...ahhh FUK I'm going crazy, I can't take this any fucking more. And I'm working tomoroww, I so don't feel like going and school is starting soon..man. Why me? God I hate this and please don't say, well you're young or you'll find your love one day( that might be in 5 years from now). I've met two girls that became friends with me and asked me if I was a virgin, what was I supposed to tell them? I just told them the truth in shame. I hate this so fucking much. I just can't get this off my head, it bugs me too much and I'll be 18 next December. No NO...this is bad.

Other teens lose their virginity at 14-15 and me..aha me still a fucking one. I guess seriously, the only one you can count is yourself, no help, no nothing. Fuk I just wanna kill myself, not only because of this, of everything, school, life, society, how everyone is, how people function. Ah..but the truth is, what I really want is to love and feel loved.The virgin issue is important too though..

Why am I like this? And please, if you're gonna make fun of me, then spend you're time somewhere else. I am going no where with my pathetic life, hell why can people just be people? Just fuck this..

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Stop complaining and do something about it if you're so concerned. People aren't just going to come to you and say "Have sex with me", you have to get out and meet people and actively work to create relationships.

Besides, sex is just a part of life. Why does it matter that you loose yours early? The age you loose your virginity at is just another number that has no relevance in the grand scheme of things

If it's any consolation, I lost mine at 18 because I waited until I was with someone that I loved, and I'm still with her to this day. Waiting was one of the better decisions I've made in my life.

And yeah, the world's a fucked up place, but killing yourself won't solve anything. If you kill yourself you'll only devastate your family and friends. Oh, and you'll stop producing carbon emissions to maintain your lifestyle which will help the environment some, but I still wouldn't recommend killing yourself

 

You're still young... HAHA, I SAID IT!

Anyway, it's not that big of a deal. You said you'll be 18 next December, so you just turned 17... you'd be surprised how many people are still virgins at 18-20 and older. Maybe if you didn't seem so ashamed of it, it wouldn't be such a big deal to anyone... say it proudly. And, like Wolf said, you have to actually get out there and meet people to start a relationship. And trust me, a lot of them will fail before you find the right one, that's just how it works.

And I'm SO fucking sick of all these young people saying "I want to kill myself, I hate everything, the world is too fucked up" How is our generation supposed to change the world when half of the people that want to have no motivation and just want to kill themselves?

 

I was the last of my friends to lose it, and they all respected me for it. they probably respected me because I wasn't at all ashamed of it, and I waited out of respect for myself.

Its a GOOD thing to wait until you're really ready and have met the right person to do that with. Don't lose it just because you think you should or have to, or because you're sick of being a virgin.

Lose it because the timing's right and it feels right. This is cliche...but it really SHOULD be special.

Its soooooo worth waiting for.

 

im in same situation an im a shamful TWENTY hahaa , i uster get real stressed bout it when i 16 - 18 , now i arnt botherd bout the status anxiety* , just horny. for me , it has to feel right or i cant rise to the occasion hahaaa , ive tried

 

so i'm almost 19 and i havent lost it.. not beating myself up either.

 

1 word: Hooker

Thats if you are THAT desperate. Otherwise get a hobby or something. It seems your life revolves around your virginity.

 

just try waiting until age 37.

 

I lost mine when I was 19.


Did you at least mess around?

If not, I'd ask myself why. Do you have friends, a social life?

 

Yeah man its just a matter of willpower. Find a girl you like, dosnt have to be the most attractive girl but something to fuck with.

 

make friends with a girl first.
"Now, did we, or did we not, do vaginal juices? Name two ways of
getting them flowing, Watson."
"Uh... Rubbing the clitoris, sir?"

"How about a kiss, boy? How about a nice kiss? ....we have many
other options before we stampede toward the clitoris!"

make some friends, and it will happen. if you are romantic it will happen faster.

 

"Yes, sir. Sorry, sir."



Seriously though, it's supposed to be fun, not so stressful. After you've done it, you don't feel any different. It's made out to be such a big deal but it really isn't.

If there's someone you care about, then go for it. I'm not going to do the "wait until you find someone special" thing even though that's what I'm leaning towards, but it doesn't help anything to say that. You may find someone to have sex with meaninglessly, and you won't feel bad about it and that's fine. That's sex. But whether or not you want to wait, you're still saying you want a relationship. You're not likely going to find someone you want to be with if you're pursuing it like a mission or something. You'll find someone somewhere...probably where you least expect it.

It's not very difficult to find someone to have sex with, no matter how much you think people hate you or think you're a loser, or don't understand you and no matter how fat or scrawny or ugly or whatever you think you are. But keep that in mind when you're looking for someone to have an actual relationship. Maybe you shouldn't judge them either.

And lastly, if you do decide to have meaningless sex with someone you just met, USE PROTECTION!! cause you never know what kind of awful diseases they've got. And how bad would it be to get someone you don't even like/know pregnant.

I don't know...I guess it's something to think about. But then again, I'm only 17 with limited experience in these matters, so I don't really know anything.

 

You want to kill yourself because you are 17 and haven't lost your virginity yet? Take some advice from me, because it sounds like your teenage years are a lot like mine have been. I'm 19, still a virgin, haven't really had a real relationship. It bothers me, but I'm working on it. I'm pretty shy and I have low self confidence, and I used to be depressed a lot because of my situation. I didn't think any girl would want to be with me. It is not that I'm undesirable except for the fact that I'm so worried about being undesirable. High school blows, you'll be so much happier once you leave. And the social pressures won't be so terrible. My advice is, if talking to girls is your problem, try your best to project an image of self confidence, bite the bullet, and get it over with, because you get used to it and it gets easier.

 

All you have to do is get pissed and go to a club with your mates. Ask one of your mates to hook you up.

 

Shit, I'm 2o (gonna be 21 this june) and I havent lost it yet. I have a feeling that its going to happen soon though.