About a Birthmark of mine...Im a guy.

Im a virgin and have been in a loving relationship for a little bit over 2 months now. Were moving at a steady pace and we've been getting more and more intimate, touching, etc, but always her, never me, because I won't let her.

Why?

Because since birth, I've had this sort of "stud" under the skin of my penis, on the right side of the upper shaft, near the head. Its completely solid and in the shape of a sphere and it is noticable.

Sorry for the details...

This is the reason I won't let her touch me...

Now, Im just afraid. I don't want her to think im deformed or have an STD or anything, so I really don't just want her to find out for herself but im also afraid to talk about it in fear that she won't find me attractive anymore.

Sorry for asking and bothering you all, but please, tell me what I should do?

 

ah, no worries Wraithform.

I am familiar with what you speak of because there's this pornstar I frequently see with that same thing on his dick....and he gets all those babes.

You are obviously very self conscious about this spot on your body.
It isn't healthy to be that way, mate.
It's your identity. Accept it.
Be honest with your girl, tell her how you feel.
Don't worry about it!!!
It's not a big deal.
I know you think it is.
But it really isn't.

Ladies of hipforums,
how would you feel about this?
I know I wouldn't mind.

 

Thanks, but I just don't know how to explain it. Im just afraid that she is going to think im lying about it being a birthmark or something, even though I don't know any diseases that cause a singular rock hard stud on you...

I guess your right though, but I would like more feedback.

Another thing that just came to mind is could this damage her? Its not extremely large, probably about 1 centimeter.

I know I probably sound whiney, but as a virgin, I really don't know much...my apologies.

 

As long as you infuse your love into your cock and into her,
a 1cm stud isn't going to matter much at all.

 

um... depending on the size and placement of this stud, you've actually got quite a nice accessory. if you don't believe me, go look at dildos. they aren't all shaped like penises, some of them have studs and are ribbed. Why? because they are for added sensations in her vagina. someday, you might be proud of that bump.

me, personally, my dick, it's bent a little bit upwards, and to the left, and my girl thanks me for it every time. I used to be self-conscious of it, but when it comes down to it, it's a dick. it does it's job, and mine is a little bit different from the rest, so it hits her spots in ways she hadn't experienced yet.

I'd say, tell her about it. I think you'll be surprised with how accepting of it she'll probably be. if you're nervous about it, maybe start with talking to her about vibrators or dildos, and how interesting the shapes can be...

 

You might have a doctor check it out. It is probably nothing, but if it bothers you, have a doctor examine it. Don't be embarrassed - doctors deal with things like this all the time. It may be scar tissue from an injury when you were a baby, or from your circumcision, if you are cut. Is it about at the place where the circumcision scar would be?

I have some extra skin (remaining foreskin) from my "loose cut" circumcision on the underside just below the inverted v of the glans, which is different than most guys, but my girlfriend loves it - she calls it "my trademark".

 

I actually have had a doctor check it out about 5 years ago when I was concerned if I had grown up with an STD or not, and all she said was that it was a birthmark. She didn't offer up any explanation behind it and said its harmless.

But I guess you all are right. I mean, its not like I can just lob it off, so im going to have to live with it.

 

Now that you are grown and ready for intercourse, I would consult a urologist to see if he has another opinion, or you can see a dermatologist if it is a skin condition. A birthmark is a coloring of the surface of the skin different from the surrounding skin color, or blood vessels coming close to the skin surface (such as a port-wine stain). A hard "stud" under the skin is something different. If it were near the base of your penis, it could be an ingrown hair that left some scar tissue after it healed, but you said it was higher up near the glans. Sounds more like a circumcision scar.

 

That might feel nice...

You gotta realize though that not letting her see you naked is not exactly a long term solution.

 

It seems like you have a really solid relationship with her. Like someone above me said, you'll probably be surprised at how little she minds - from where I'm sitting I don't think she'll care at all, curious sure. And you don't have to turn it into a big formal discussion, just hang out on the low with her for a while and just bring it up like, Hey, I wanted to ask you about somethin'. It could be a good thing, anyway. The vagina can handle it - and remember that lube is your friend.