Fallen for someone, but not sexually/physically attracted

Im at university at the moment and ive fallen for a lad who lives a couple of doors down from me. We have the exact same taste in music, same philosophies on life and think the same way, we get on so well and i feel like we know each other completely already, we knew we were the same the first time we spoke. He said that to me and i just clicked with him. He makes me laugh so much. However, this is going to sound really shallow and conceited but im not physically attracted to him at all, or sexually, and quite frankly, id get the mick taken out of me if i started going with him. But i cant stop thinking about him and im slowly starting to love him anyway for what he looks like. Ive been really emotional lately aswell. This has been going on for about 3 weeks and i dont know whether its just a phase.
He also has a bit of a bad reputation. Apparently, he had a bad childhood and he takes shit from no-one, some people are wary of him, i kind of like him more for that and it just makes me wanna help him and take care of him even more!
But i just cant imagine being with him, i know i should free myself of the chains of societies 'ideal' of physical attractiveness and i feel like im betraying myself...and him. im ranting now...
What should i do?
What would you do in this situation?
Please dont give me any crap either!!! I really feel guily as it is =(

 

most people don't want to be in relationships with people who find them physically repulsive.

 

he doesnt know? obviously! i wouldn't say that to him

 

Me and my buddy Ryan are kind of like that, I love him sooo much, but the idea of sleeping with him, ugh ! He and I both feel the same way, so we are best friends. I totally think that if Ryan and I were to date, we would be very happy together, but there is no way that we could have sex lol.

 

i bet he'd figure it out eventually.

 

I was in this same problem. I was able to be with the person and actually have good sex eventually, but it didn't work out in the end. Not bc of that, though- but because he was just too different from me in other ways.

 

just be friends with him then

 

sometimes a good friend is more important than a lover
and if you are not sexually attracted to him - having him as a lover most likely won't work out too nicely
continue the relationship but make it clear you are interested in just being friends, to avoid any issues (don't put it on too strong though, you might push him away a tad)

 

hey...girl i feel your pain. I just got myself out of that situation with a good friend of mine. One word of advice...trust your gut instinct. If you feel like something is missing, it doesn't matter if its physical or not, then its missing. Don't find out the hard way like i did, and end up hurting someone you care about. Also, Sex matters, its not superficial or shallow, but attraction and sex is what separates friends and partners...
Its really nice to be needed, but you cant save anyone...and its not your job. It will only end up hurting you.
take care

 

Maybe you should go out with him for a little and see if your feelings change or just be friends. Theres nothing better than a friend thats there when you need them the most. Its hard to have a relationship with someone if your not physically/sexually attracted to them.

 

dont go out with him a bit if you dont feel attracted. i did that with someone who was a great friend and now we hardly talk, totally killed our friendship and i really wish i hadnt have gone out with him

 

Well it depends on whether or not you atually WANT a sexual relationship regardless of looks, if the answer is yes, theres usually at least ONE thing about people you can find attraction, once you find it, focus on it.