Yeah, I don't know what to do.. I masturbate like once a day but try not to masturbate the day of having sex but I find my girlfriend very attractive but she just doesn't know how to be 'sexy'. Like if she's giving me a bj she won't do anything no eye contact just sits and asks how close I am to coming i'll give her a %. I told her about that, cuz she feels she does not pleasure me, and she said it's because she is self concious. I can sit here and watch porn for like 2 mins and cum. It'll get to the point after like 6-8 minutes of having sex she'll ask me if I am done yet because it starts to hurt her while im not even close to cumming. I think that problem was because we never really do much foreplay just basically kiss then fuck. But still I don't know what to do I want to have her be able to last longer so it can be more pleasureable for her. Any suggestions? I would stop masturbating, but I honestly can't not do it some days I just get horny and when I am horny and don't masturbate I get sorta cranky.
Try a lot of foreplay before actual penetration. If it hurts her you're not putting her in the proper state of mind and it sounds like you're not in the proper state of mind either. I've had sex for hours (6 being my record so far) and it never was "uncomfortable" during it. (Afterwards I was pleasantly sore, but that is a good feeling.) I love when a guy goes down on me before actual penetration. I'd try this -- if you can give her at least one orgasm prior to penetration I think you'll find she doesn't notice any discomfort. Foreplay is incredibly important. Sex is, I think, over 80% mental. Another thing you could play with is changing of positions. In my experience the best position for a girl if you consider just how well it pleases us is the Girl-On-Top/Cowgirl position. We can do a little snake dance thing on your pelvis which provides very pleasant clitoral stimulation.
I have done that but she says my breath stinks like vagina.. lol to be honest I actually like going down on her sometimes. Like a urge to do it, but she doesn't like to kiss after my tongue has been all up and down in her vagina lol. Any suggestions for this problem as well? Also i'd like to add, that when she gives me a bj it takes a long time.. like 15 mins what can I tell her to do? I want to make it shorter for her.. cuz she always complains about how her mouth gets tired and dry.
Uhmm...save going down on her for just prior to penetration? Thats how I like it anyway. Only downside is I guess you can't kiss her while fucking.
might want to try some (extra) lube for her maybe more comfortable scenario if it's kinda rigid seems like just a mental thing on her end, of course always be considerate and stuff
