There's only one thing wrong in my relationship - my partner and I have completely different sex drives. While he'd love to have sex 3 times a day or more, I'm just not interested. It's not that I don't find him attractive, it's just that I've never been highly sexed. I think it has something to do with the abuse in my past. Anyway, it makes me feel horrible because I want him to be happy and I feel I'm not providing enough sex. (Although, being pregnant at the moment, I obviously did something right in that department) What can I do about this?
All I can say is I'm a woman and I was in the opposite situation in my former marriage. I have a high sex drive and my ex did not. It eventually caused conflict. There were other things that caused us to separate, but this didn't help. Differences in sex drives can be serious and not sure you can change them. If you're hardwired to lean one way or the other, it's just the way it is. I respect the differences, however I think it's challenging if one partner continually feels frustrated or the other potentially guilty or some other emotion. It's a tough situation to be in. I don't want to focus on all of the negatives, but I think it takes an incredible amount of communication to overcome it if there are different sex drives. You are already clearly in a solid relationship, so I would just say communicate with one another and try to reach some understanding and a happy medium if you can. There are other ways to be intimate, so maybe look into this. As a very sexual person, I have learned to channel my sexual energy in other ways. Tantra may really help you guys! Look into taking a class after your little one arrives. It did wonders for me and my boyfriend. You will learn a lot about each other's sexuality and gain a better appreciation for one another. It helps. Fortunately, my boyfriend and I are well matched, but the tantra learnings really helped us in more than our physical relationship. Good luck with it and congratulations on your pregnancy.
