free love poll

the options are simple.. is free love
purely promescuity
loving freeely
a mix of both
or
love aint free i pay $___ a year for my lovin (or get paid?)

for me free love is loving freely but id love to hear others opinions & discussions on what free love really means

 

Loving freely is a cop out to not have any commitments to anyone. Love isn't seeing someone from across the room and running in slow motion toward each other. Love grows with your relationship. If you don't stick around long enough, you'll never know what real love is.

That said, there's a lot to be said about pure and simple (free) sex.

 

wait what? why is loving freely a cop out to not having commitments to anyone? i have commitments to those i have commitments to, & love everyone freely
& your right love does build over time, i just never felt the concept of free love had time restraints, a few hours with each partner then move on..
i just dont understand why one love would have to be destroyed for another to begin
& just have found that in a really freely loving relationship all that crazy creepy crap just never creeps in & without allthe crazy creepy crap that tends to always be at least a minor part of most traditional relationships ifind im the happiest ive ever been..just sharing love freely with the deepest respect & honnesty to those i share commitments with

 

free love is loving freely if all parties signed on for that type of relationship. too often people use it as an excuse to be irresponsible towards others though. they make promises of exclusivity they actually don't take very seriously. that's why it's earned a bad rep with alotta people. the monogamists don't really do any better though. the majority of 'monogamous' people are actually serial monogamists, and a heck of alot of them don't even succeed at limiting their sexual relationships to one person at a time. *shrug*

 

couldnt agree more pansy
thats why openness & honnesty is so important in freely loving relationships

 

whats free about love?

 

I think free love, for many, is just an excuse to get some extra on the side.

 

I haven't figured it out yet.

 

Free lovin' keeps people from trying to completely own one another in relationships, so I'm all for it. And there are different kinds and varying degrees of love. I feel you can fall in love for just a few moments, and you can revel in that and then let it pass, without it having anything to do with other loves you've felt. Loves shouldn't have to compete.

 

You're a Coxsman, admit it.

 

I still don’t understand why people keep confusing the two words love and sex! Love is how you FEEL about another person. Sex is something you DO with another person. To say that the two are the same is demeaning to the word Love. Where as, love is an emotion, sex is a simple bodily function like eating, sleeping or defecating. There are literally millions of things that you can do to show that you love someone without ever having sex with them. Sex on the other hand, although it can be used as a display of love, can also be used to demean and show a despising and hatred of another. So please stop using them interchangeably, so people don’t get confused and think that to be a hippie and display Free Love they have to have sex with everyone they meet.

Free love means learn to show affection to everyone, NOT have sex with everyone!

 

I would say that being able to achieve a truly legit form of "free love" takes a very unique individual with alot of charm in the right departments, because all the people I currently know would never be able to even come close to something such as free love in the true sense of the words.

Then again I live in a very conservative part of the country, free love might be more easily attained in a more liberal society setting, definatly around here someone who went around saying they were a free lover wouldnt last very long heh..

 

I haven't been trying to get laid lately, but I was wondering. Do any girls just fuck to fuck, or do you gotta go through the whole relationship thing. It seems in my area, they will only go for the fake relationship.... I guess because they don't wanna look like whores?

 

a big problem with trying to live the free love ideal is that women are reluctant to trust men they don't know very well and/or they don't have a loving relationship with. for example, if you'd ever sweated the arrival of your next period because a guy waited until you were in a compromising position before ditching the condom...you'd understand.

 

I really don’t like to tell people that they are wrong but I’m sorry your comment is wrong in so many ways; I don’t even know where to begin. You might try rereading your comment and ask yourself, what does this comment say about me and who I am?

 

I'm not trying to make sex sound bad by saying "fuck". I do not see it as most people see it I guess. I view it as two people bonding and somewhat connecting spiritually. I'm in high school, and I have seen very VERY few relationships that are even reasonable. Yeah, girls have sex, but it seems to be looked down upon if you do it with a friend who you aren't "talking" to/dating/or whatever. I'm not trying to be an asshole, and to the question.... "Do you know who you are?"

The answer would be that I'm learning, and will always be learning til I die. So no, I don't know who I am, it would be quite ignorant to say that I do.

 

Good answer!

Your first comment caught me off guard and it upset me a little so I thank you for your explanation. I too believe that sex is or should be two people bonding and connecting spiritually. So going through the whole relationship thing just makes sex so much better especially, when the two of you are friends and have a real relationship.

As for the word fuck, it’s a shame that such a beautiful thing has been denigrated to a curse word. Really, like Lenny Bruce said: If someone says, “fuck you” you should smile and say, “Why thank you and I hope you get fucked too”.

And as for whores, liking sex doesn’t make a person a whore, it just makes you someone who likes sex.

 

Sorry for the misunderstanding. Also, I see your point, "fuck" is not a good word at all and I apologize for using it in replace of something so beautiful. I understand you completely and agree with all of it. Thanks.

 

well... everyone has his/her fantasies, and i don't believe you should suppress your emotions. it's healthy in a relationship to at least be able to talk about fantasies, even if you don't act on them. you can have a 3some, swing, get into an orgy... whatever, and the relationship can be wonderful, maybe even better than before, if both parties are open and honest, trusting and loving. it's hard to do in a way, but it's also very easy if you can let go. it's something my man and i have been thinking about a lot lately. yes, of course, he might want some action on the side...it's only natural... i'd rather know about it than have him hide it from me

 

I like the word "fuck"! And it's one of my fantasies to be fucked by more than one guy at once. I agree that it's never okay to hide things from your partner, too. Everyone's into something kinky...I wish we all had the guts to just say it. I think the world would be a much freakier place if we did. And I think that would be great.

(Okay, I can still taste my guy's cum in my mouth but it's time for me to go to bed and fantasize about having a guy on either side of me, until I fall asleep.)