Butter's Girl Issues...Again

awww... you're young still.

Don't give up yet. I know plenty of lonely girls who could use a sweet guy, they are everywhere!

 

Hey, thanks everyone. Makes me feel better. I guess why I'm so sad is that I do just what evreyone else does. I'm nice, I make compliments, I try never to talk about myself too much, and I also try hard to be fun, and have a great personality. I see guys every freaking day do the same things, and it works for them , everytime. I do it, and nothing ever works. Is there just something wrong with me? I've said it before, I really don't look that bad. I'm average, or a little bit above, so why does nothing work for me, but for everyone else it does?! These other guys I see also just care about sex, and nothing more. I don't, I care about having a companion. I'm just at a loss here!

 

Perhaps these guys only get the girls who just want sex. Getting laid is easy; finding a companion takes a little more effort, imo

 

well put... but then again, companions take longer to have sex with as well

 

Okay...Then any advice on how I can help my situation? Am I doing anything wrong? Am I too nice, or what?

 

Just relax... take up sculpting, work out, swim, run, hike, climb mountains, play an instrument, draw, hitch-hike, throw a paper airplane around, sleep on your fridge, yell out "FUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!".

It may come as the ultimate surprise, but women are not everything. In fact, they make up a very small part of 'what can be'. Some people dedicate themselves to a life of celibacy so as to pursue other facets of life not bothered you know?

Seriously, all will come if you just relax. I know how hard it is to take your mind off this one person, and that makes me sad to be reminded how lonely people are when there are so many of us. But, keep your chin up man. Every little thing will be all right.

Whether or not she's playin with you, i guarantee you it'll be a good thing in your life to get into something different. Women are always there, they won't go away don't worry! And if she sees that she's not the focus of your life, maybe she will try harder to make you a focus in hers! Be comfortable with yourself, question your fears and anxieties, what makes you tick, why you are sad or unhappy, what makes you happy and flourish in that! C'mon man, the world ain't over... the sun will always shine. (atleast in this life so fucking enjoy it bitch!) - jus playin', but no, seriously, keep ya chin up.

 

I don't know what to tell ya that'll help Butters... I don't think you should tie such importance to it, though. I'd simply ask her out; you've taken phone calls from her when you're home alone, right? Ask her then. Just don't take it bad if she says no, it's really no big deal in the long run. I can say this: most every girl I know likes confidence. I think it may tie into that whole thing where you're single forever, get a girlfriend, then are gettin hit on left and right... and that shit's for the birds!

Oh yeah, and G Rebel above said what else I was gonna say... do your own thing, be selfish, do the things you like... it's when you're not looking that it falls in your lap

 

so i was wondering.. did you actually get the words out of your mouth? I couldnt really tell from your post after mine. (but i bet you havent).

moments come and moments go, maybe ignore her, i dont know.

 

No, I never actually told her I liked her, but she didn't seem to interested in me. I mean, she's a great frienda and all, but I didn't want her as a friend. She also one of those incredably nice girls, so maybe she's just really shy too? Could that be why she avoids me at times?

 

You haven't told her how you feel yet? Come on man, you have us all in suspence here. LOL!

It's like the "Butter's girl issues" soap opera that never ends. "Will Butter tell his true love how he feels? Tune in tommorow...."

Love you

 

hahaha, i was right. regarding your question about her avoiding you - it is entirely possible that she's getting frustrated because shes taken all this time to be nice to you and you STILL havent said anything to her. Girls, am i right here? do you not pick us up in fact? we just fall into the traps you set for us? it wouldnt suprise me if she was mad at you for not taking the bait. i know exactly how hard it is dude but just tell yourself it isnt - because its not! how much physical effort does it take to utter a sentence? .01 calories worth? share your feelings with this mystery girl. you're hiding the truth inside of you right now and thats what hurts - you've got to set it free man! think about how good it would feel to let this secret see the sun. the words will float out of you and take that twisting knife with them - you will be healed of your current suffering, no matter what her response.

and its not too late by any means - i see this thread was started on the 2nd, so you've only been posting on it two weeks - thats nothing really - hopefully the cycle of your friendship comes up again, and you get another chance to tell her. simple as that.

its easy its easy its easy its easy its simple its easy its simple its easy! repeat after me!

 

Yes yes yes, I'm sorry. I'm a coward! :& But if what you say is true, which I hope it is, and I think it is...Then this weekend would be a good time to say something. My roomate leaves today for home, so will a few others, so it'll be pretty empty. Finally a perfect chance to be alone. So, I better just suck it up and do it, because as you can see, its driving me nuts! I have to know!!! But the fact that I don't know is pretty much my fault...Oh well. I'll fix it now. I just don't want this to ruin our friendship by being too awkward if she says she doesn't like me. Do you all think it will? I don't understand women, so I don't know how she would react. Thanks again for all the help, I'm so clueless about this!

 

As confused and shy as you sound about all this, I'm sure if you get the guts to ask her out, it'll come out with stumbled words and blushes and shit... that's a sucker punch for those nice girls; cute gets em every time! hehe... just pickin on ya a bit (but it's the truth too)!

You'll do fine, man! Just ask her! I agree that she might actually think you're not interested; I've had that happen to me before. Of course I wasn't interested, but the fact remains that I never knew that she was... lol

 

i think the chances of repairing a friendship are better if you were to tell her how you felt and have it go badly, compared to not telling her at all and then having an emotional carcass in between you that you both will always see but never admit is there. The second is not the hippy thing to do. the second is the western world repressed fuck up thing to do.

and like dangermoose said at the beginning - its a gamble man. if you win, you win big, and if you lose, you walk away with nothing. its like a proof of how much you care, being willing to lose the friendship. if you're not willing to gamble, then do you deserve to win?

but you dont REALLY walk away with nothing. because nomatter what she says you've laid a very nice compliment on her, which she will remember for a long time, and you can say to yourself down the road - "well at least i had courage and wasnt afraid".


but even if it doesnt go right, you'll probably be friends again in two weeks anyway.
go tell her - its easy.

 

Yeah that happened to me in Middle School kinda, I asked out this girl that was really nice and caring and she said she just wanted to be friends, and I wasnt really good with girls and didn't give her enuf space and she got pissed, but I got ever her and we became better friends after that, there was a problem in 7th grade involving a prank call someone pretending to be her became blown out of proportion, and she thought it was my fault until she was told otherwise but thats about it.

 

Damn. Still nothing. She ended up leaving this weekend. Blast! Oh well, I've got the whole week to say something, so I'm gonna try to build up my courage and finally speak. I think you guys are right that she's shy. She is pretty timid, and one of those extremely nice girls, so it wouldn't surprise me.

 

LOL But at least its a good soap opera, it sure keeps your interest, doesn't it? :H One day the season finale will come, one day...

 

Butters, I think your whole mentality needs a system shock. Stop thinking in terms of courage! Just DO IT! The less you think of it, the LESS YOU THINK OF IT!! Just see it in normal, ordinary terms. You're telling a girl you like her. You're asking a girl out. It's as simple as that... try and keep the romanticism for later, once you have her in your palm you know? Either way, don't get too hung up. Good luck.

Maybe go around town asking different girls out and you'll see how easy it is (in some cases, to be rejected but that's life!).

Cheers mate

 

Hey man, I feel for you...telling a friend you like them is one of the hardest things ever.

But stop thinking that girls don't like nice boys...All the guys i know in at my uni are right assholes (except for the few where we have been friends for too long, like years long to move past friends). Anyway, most of the girls I know would love to meet someone who is not just out to fuck them over - it's a great quality and you should be proud of it and of yourself.

I was also thinking - if talking is too hard, maybe you could try building up to it with undeniable flirtage -like touch and stuff. Y'know, playful 'how are you' kind of nudges and so on (just don't be too extreme )

But yeah, if she is shy, you have to make your feelings clear, becasue girls...argh, we over analyse everything, so even if it is mutual, she might think that you don't like HER. The easiest way to clear it up is just to say it, put the ball in her court and then either you might have something wonderful, or at least you can know you tried.

And you absolutley can still be friends if it's not mutual- it might be wierd for a while, but eventually things will calm down

Anwyay, good luck dude

 

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