I just need to vent, get this off my mind tonight --- I recently got divorced and the longer I'm away from "the jerk" as I've taken to calling him, the more pissed off I get about all his shenanigans. The Jerk basically lied to me from the moment I met him. AFTER we were married he let me "find out" from someone else that he'd been arrested 7 times for alcohol related offenses... then he got hooked on prescription drugs (was taken upwards of 30 pills a day) and I defended, supported, helped and babied this man through 18 months of "disability", he "borrowed" something like 15 grand from my parents which I now have to pay back to them somehow - not to mention I'm now finding out that he also "borrowed" sums of money from other people as well -- none of which I ever saw. Whenever I came home from work my first instinct was to check to see if he was still breathing --- and yet he said his drugs didn't affect me - whatever. NOW - The house we were renting, the landlady calls me last night to tell me that he moved out and left ALL of the windows open, when I went to shut them I talked to her (she lives next door) and she proceeded to tell me that since I moved out the neighbors to the other direction have had to call the cops on him numerous times for playing his music too loud and keeping them up at night. He keeps telling me all of his money troubles, he doesn't know how he's going to survive - dude gets 1200 bucks a month for sitting on his ass. I bust my ass to make around 900 (I'm going back to school in January - something he didn't want me to do, although he promised my mom before we got married that I'd be able to finish school) --- anyhow --- I just get so pissed off sometimes about the whole situation that I want to scream and cry and smash shit, so instead I'm just dumping it here. I mean, I bent over backwards to help him in whatever way I could - I gave up a job I'd had for five years to stay home and take care of him and he has the nerve, after spending a month in a drug rehab to come home and not only tell me that he thinks he married the wrong person, and he wants a divorce but he's not filing for it because "he doesn't know how"... Bah. Can anyone tell I'm a little on the pissed off side right now??? Sorry for babbling on and on, but really --- I just needed to bitch for awhile and now I'll feel better about the whole thing until tomorrow night. It's when I come home from work, and I realize that all the work that needs to be done, I STILL have to do, and that I invested two and a half years with this creep so he could up and decide I wasn't "the right person".... Whatever, living well is the best revenge right? Well, that's what I plan to do, while he whithers into his drug and alcohol laden future and continues to use people up and throw them away I plan to live quite well thank you very much. ENOUGH already, I need to go to bed so I can go to work in the morning! Thanks for listening, G.
*applauds* I'm glad you left him, this guy seems like a Grade A LOSER! I've watched my once-upon-a-time significant other deteriorate from the lady of my dreams into an honest to god demon, and now that I've escaped her, everything's so much better! As good as it is now, away from her, I definitely still feel the need to vent... she definitely gets the brunt end of my more vicious poetic rages, heh. So I feel ya and where you're coming from.
Thanks. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who ended up with a multiple personality ex. Sorry for what you're going through, I totally relate to it. G.
Why is that when a person gets divorced that people --- especially people who aren't particularly close to the couple --- think that you want to talk about the other person all the time??? My former landlady has been calling me every few days to tell me all about what my ex has told her, lied to her about, etc. I mean, she's 96 and lives alone, and I think it's partially cuz she's scared of him BUT it's partially because she wants to hear all the juice too --- I don't get it. Same with my former boss, he was always asking me questions about stuff that really wasn't any of his business. Ugh. People can be just plain rude you know? Gina.
I'm right with you there! I was never married though, but I'm constantly being updated on what my ex is doing, and my response is almost always the same... I Don't Care! From now on, I'm only going to date illegal immigrants, that way I can have them deported if things go sour.
