hey everyone again. sooooo i have a boyfriend, together 4 months, he's great. he's absolutely gorgeous, great personality, etc! whenever i see any good looking girl talking to him, i just get soooooo jealous. when he talks to other girls, i get jealous. when his exes talk to him on msn, i get jealous. at a staff party, a 40 year old decent looking woman kissed him on the cheek and i was ready to beat her ass (lol) . honestly though! i just get so mad with other girls. im jealous of just so many things. im jealous of him sometimes! just how he's so confident and can talk to ppl (i'm so shy) , and just, well, i dont know. im a jealous person. just wondering if anyone knows what i can do to be... less jealous? thanks!!!
I've found in my life that jelousy is a completely unnecessary emotion and it ruins a lot of things if you let it. So what if he talks to other girls? I have like a hundred girl friends (way more than guys) but my baby knows I'm coming home for dinner mmmhmmmmm I love her to death. if you guys are together, honest to each other, and with love then fuck jelously FUCK IT
You sounds like a nightmare, lol. Honestly though, chill out, he's going out with you, not them, why worry yourself over something that's so small? (trust me, it IS that small)
jealously is the root of all evil. Are you maybe jealous of his personality and not so happy about your inside ?? Fix yourself and know hes not going anywhere. If you mean a lot to him you'd be righ twhere you are . and you'll mean what you are to him. I'm a happy go lucky person. My hubby is a guitarist in a band and gets hit on. He had quite a few girls in his band and i'll tell you its not worth getting jealous over. I have helped organize and everything gigs. The singers got jealous because "he" was married. Be lucky he had someone to help clean up and stuff. I'm no jealous freak. I have absolutely no time for that stupid shit in my life
What u gonna do? Lock him up in the basement. If he's coming back to you , that proves your importance to him over all the others. IF he gets stuck into them - well then he wasnt right for you anyway. Jealousy is akin to fear.If what u got aint got any problems , you can get round the fear factor and make it better. You should both keep speaking to people of the opposite sex- its part of life and growing.And dont worry that the girls fancy him.Would you rather they hated him?LOL Good luck , and chill out!
You need to realize that jealousy stems from insecurity and not trusting your partner. The most important thing to keeping a relationship going is trust. Ask yourself why it is you are jealous - do you beleive he is thinking about these other girls? are you afraid he is going to leave you? you seem to be happy with him. what makes you think he is not as happy with you? odds are, you have no reason to be jealous. i understand where youre coming from though, i used to have some major insecurity issues which made it difficult to trust a man.
I used to be like that. Seriously psychotically jealous. Possibly worse than you, lol. If I saw my boy laughing with another girl, I'd about crap myself. But it probably didn't help that he would say stupid shit like, "I can look, but I can't touch," which is true, since I can't control his thoughts (and to a certain extent, we can't control every stray thought that happens into our own heads). He knew how I felt about things like that, but he didn't care. In that case, he responded to my insecurity by making me feel more insecure- something I'll never understand. Things got a lot easier when I started dating my current boyfriend, who has never, ever intentionally given me a reason to feel jealous. That doesn't mean I don't ever feel jealous, but I can handle it better now, because I know that the urge to jump on that pretty girl's face and eat it (lol, not really, but you know) originates in me and my female wiring, not because I am seriously worried about him doing anything. Once again, if I feel SERIOUSLY uncomfortable with something he's doing, I tell him. Basically, it's about respect and trust. If he respects you and doesn't want to hurt you, he's going to want to know if his behavior, such as flirting, is hurting you. Use your judgment. If it's something tiny, like him just talking to one of his female friends, it may be better just to let it slide. Come and bitch to us online or tell your diary. Nagging him and trying to seal him off from all female contact will just push him away. You can't make him choose between you and all other social contact.
thanks firefly, and ms.oh! yeah, i realy think i am insecure, because whenever i see other girls i always see it as "im not as pretty as them" or as "hot" as them, etc, and i just think he would rather have them instead of me. i mean, i know im not ugly, (not meaning to be conceited or anything) but im just like, body-shy, and i dont know. he always asks to take showers and im WAY too insecure for that, and i just think, why couldn't i just be Not shy for once. gad. But one thing that didnt help was the other day, i was giving him a bj, and he kindof kept groaning, he wasn't getting off. so i was like, whats wrong? then he said he "needed to picture something" and "needed to be watching a porn or something" . that was like a knife stabbing into me. i've never felt so useless in my entire life. and i know he didn't realize what he said, because i just started crying and he left me alone. he tried to ask what was wrong but i couldn't even talk. that was a pretty hard blow. it might sound stupid, but it really hurt. i want to tell him how i felt but im just too scared. i mean, i will sometime, when i bring myself to. anyways though, i really need a confidence boost, i don't know, maybe getting out of this small town will help next year. anyways though, thanx for everything!
u are too young..so i understand... please try to control it as u may loose him becaue of being unreasonable jealous....and u may never get over it... u must trust him......if he wants to cheat he will...if he loves u he will not....hope for the best and enjoy him.....u must beleive in urself...that u are good enough for him.....thats the key.......enjoy his social skills and learn from it maybe...so u can come out of the shell too.....good luck!
