Am i gay/bisexual? Serious questions

Ok, this is a really weird situation. Please be honest with me.

Let me start out by saying that I have come to the conclusion that I have a pornography/masturbating addiction. I do not exercise much (I am skinny, I just don't exercise like a regular person should) , so I find myself drinking, smoking, and just browsing the web. I can easily go 5-7 days without masturbating if I am busy doing stuff, but I'm just not active enough.

Anyways, the point is this: as of lately, I masturbate on average 2-3 times a day, sometimes 4...every day. I always use porn to masturbate (but I can definitely masturbate without it, when i have not had access to a computer).

This is the catch, and a weird one: I look at so much porn (mainly MtoF bj's, anal sex, threesomes, interracial, w/e you get the idea...straight porn)...I look at so much that I actually enjoy watching gay porn, and I have no problem getting off on it. Like, it's really hot.

But as SOON as I orgasm (when I am looking at gay porn), I get completely turned off right after. Like, for example, I generally search craigslist when I am horny (like tonight I exchanged a couple emails with a guy, told him to come over[didn't give him my address yet], but then i had an orgasm because I was really horny, and I was over him coming over)

When I am out in public, I have no attraction to males. I don't think about how I would love to kiss them or go down on them. It really does not even cross my mind to be honest. When I'm out I love checking out chicks.

Personally, I do not think I am gay. But I bet if there was a dick in my face I would want to play with it. I feel like I want to play with the most perfect penis (I am uncircumcised, and I definitely have a mild case of frenulum breve, it really hurts to have an erection sometimes, but I don't think I would ever get surgery)

Anyways, I am 21 and in college. I have never had problems getting laid from girls. Please give me some serious, honest, input. It would be greatly appreciated.

 

David, the biggest group of guys that get it on with guys is not gay or even Bi guys, its straight/married guys, running around having anonymous liasons at truck stops etc, so there is no trail back to family/friends.

Many of these are guys arent emotionally or physically attracted to guys on the whole, but they do worship at the house of Cock

There are many guys of the opinion that its only gay if you do certain acts or kiss and cuddle a guy

Are you gay? Depends what you call gay. Guys that get crushes on guys, or find guys look hotter than girls, thats a very different thing to guys that just like to have a mutual wank

Sounds to me like you're just a straight guy that likes cock, its not something even brought up in drunken buddy talk, but there are a lot more guys in that category than you think

 

You're not gay or bi. Neither you libido nor your romantic attractions orient you to other males. Many people will go through such stages early on in life because of an overabundance of sexual energy. Once that subsides, however, you're left merely with what you were pretty much destined for, which in your case is most certainly women.

Closeted gay guys who took up heterosexual lifestyles out of societal norms and expectations. Come to think about it, 50 years ago I would have pretty much been consigned to that fate. Or I would be so consigned in most of today's world's countries. Pretty scary thought -- I consider myself pretty lucky.

They probably don't appear as such b/c they only seek out sex.

 

Bi, but way more to the straight side since you're not attracted to them irl or fantasizing to make out or be sexual with them. Reason being, straight men don't get hard off gay porn nor would they be anywhere near another guys cock imo.

 

Bi? How is he bi? Why is it that we must more or less default to bisexuality and employ very tenuous criteria for its definitional minimum? The OP very clearly has no capacity to seriously fall in love with a man. Rather, these fantasies of his are transitory at best. If we don't apply that standard (full capacity to orgasm and love), we're left with a very unstructured and Kinseyian method of taxonomizing sexual orientation.

 

bi-cur at the most in my inept opinion

 

*shrug* is there some new category i don't know about? i just kinda went off knowing that there's straight, bi and gay. he said he had no problem getting off on gay porn and he wouldn't mind playing with another guys cock if it was infront of him. not sure if that explained it or not but i had to read your post a couple times, yes i know, im dumb, suck at english and life...=(

 

Sorry, dude. Just wanted to voice my thoughts.

But, anyway, he said he's really into porn. When you're as brimming with sexuality as the OP appears to be, it'll sometimes just spill over into homosexuality. But this isn't the natural domain of his sexuality, if you will. As he grows older and his sexual drive lessens, I'd wager that so too will these incidental homosexual inclinations lessen and eventually disappear.

Basically, the critical information here is the OP's lack of homosexual inclination outside of deep arousal.

 

Well it's possible that he is bi, maybe he just hasn't come out even to himself yet. Not everyone knows they're gay early on in life. But in my opinion i agree with ibie a-ta, he's somewhat bi-curious. Just wait and see how it goes...

 

Well, I'm going to cast a vote for the bisexuality ticket. Of course, there's a spectrum to this sort of thing, and you can really go back and forth from more heterosexually inclined to more homosexually inclined.

This sounds similar to my life when I was in high school. LIVED for porn, all over it. I was definitely more into heterosexual stuff, I had a girlfriend, all that good stuff. Every once in a while, I'd look at gay porn. It was kinda like the forbidden fantasy thing, but it still got me off as well as anything else.

And now, I'm in college, living with my boyfriend. I don't think it's anything you really need to worry about, just take it as it comes.

I think the best answer would be to keep yourself open-minded. Should the opportunity arise where you can fool around with a guy, indulge your fantasy. Who knows, you may learn something about yourself.

 

He's a porn addict....doesn't mean he's gay or even bi, just that he likes looking at other people getting it on. Whether that be a guy and girl, girl on girl, or even guy on guy, he just likes getting off on watching people get it on....for all we know he could get off on a banana shoved in a watermelon.....doesn't mean he'd do it in real life.

 

lol porn addict is pretty good until he fondles another guys package that is, then i'd say he's bi.

 

Been there done that.



When I was younger I would have sex with men and right after i finished i would become repulsed. I think it had a lot to do with being brought up that being gay was taboo/wrong. I think that guilt had a lot to do with it. Over time (few years) i have totally gotten over all those feelings. Give it time. At 21 you shouldn't even need a label just go out and have sex with men/women and see which makes you more happier than the other.

 

Thanks for all the honest answers. Greatly appreciated!