Just curious but if the guy asked you to have sex with him when you were sober would you still answer how you did? Alcohol brings out the wrong side in people. It may be fun to drink but i swear it always brings out the worst in the end. I have had many times where i regret acting and saying what i did beacause i had some shots in me. For real though would you want to deal with this if you were sober? You say "i am REALLY drunk, i flirt with him a lot over the phone" then "i get drunk, but pretty much stop flirting with him" stop flirting on the phone. Start something new or end the bullshit. Know what im sayin? Your post says a lot i dont know how to answer. One thing is that if you dont want to deal with drama never start dealin with it when intoxicated.
calling him an asshole for finding someone to date is out of line not explaining your behaviour in a sober moment (ie "i get really flirty, but never go through with it, im really really sorry just ignore me next time/dont assume itll actually go anywhere" or something along those lines) is more asshole-ish to me than getting a girlfriend shortly after wanting to fuck you and perhaps... drink less? loads of drama seem to happen when you do, perhaps its time to start cutting down?
I think it is safe to say that my husband was trying to get laid elsewhere about the time we met. There really is nothing wrong with what he did. You gave him the "green light" (so to speak) and then slammed on the brakes. So, why should he wait around for you to do it again? It is unreasonable to expect someone to be celibate because you "might" fuck them. Considering you really aren't attracted to him why be upset? About the drinking.... As a former bartender I saw lots of girls getting bombed and "flirting." I will tell you from a very sober view it is in no way attractive. Men sit across the room laughing and pointing at her until they finally send one of their boys over to pick her up. Why? Because the girl is hot? No. They do it because she is an easy score. Many will wait until the girl is wasted before they approach. That way they don't have to buy any drinks for her. It is a game that both men and women play. Anyway, I know you are just having fun but never forget to respect yourself. There are plenty of men that would still adore you sober. Go out, have fun....but stay safe!
