I feel horrible. As i write this the tears fall down my face. I just don't know what to do. I know I don't want this, I can't afford it, and many other reasons. But there's a large part of me that does want this. They say it is a blessing, but why do I feel so cursed. I feel so depressed about that i just can't even get myself out of bed in the morning. And it depresses me that I am depressed. I have no one. I feel like i can't talk to my friends about because they will judge me and i really do not want that. And some of them have really strong belief's against what I will be doing. I just don't know if i am doing the right thing. I don't know if i am making the right decision. The person I have talked about this about says it's my desicion and he will support me know matter what but i know what he wants to do deep down and i just am so confused i wish this had never happened. I am really hatin life lately
If you don’t feel comfortable having an abortion, then give the baby up for adoption if you can't afford to raise a child right now. Hotwater
Yeah, adoption really is the way to go... I know in lots of states you can actually leave the baby at a hostpital or fire station. I think when you're much older, you'll know you made the right decision to give your baby up, but let them live. Good luck with whatever you do.
If you carry the child to term, the chances of you being able to give it up for adoption are remarkably slim. If you arent ready to raise a yungun or have your folks do it, i would think that an abortion would make things simpler in the long run. Just my own thoughts
I think that's a horrible thing to say... and she would have to live with the guilt for the rest of her life. Simpler is not always better.
Wow, plenty of GUYS here telling this poor woman what she should or shouldn't do. mamahook, I know you wish it hadn't happened. Every woman that it has happened to wishes that. But it did happen and now you have to take care of yourself and do what's right for you. I'm so sorry that you have to go through it alone. I see that you live in a place that is not too supportive of a woman's RIGHT to choose. That's got to make it tougher. I wish that I could tell you what the right thing is for you to do, but that's just not possible. Nobody but you can know that (and that applies to those that have posted above me). You may feel bad afterward or you may feel relieved that it's over and you can go on with your life. Don't let yourself be pressured in either direction. Just know that many women have been where you are and take strength from knowing that you really aren't alone. Peace
Having many friends who have been in your predicament, I would advise abortion. It can be hard to deal with, but it's probably better off for the baby. If you're not mentally and financially ready for a child, then it is the child that suffers. Abortion is an option, but many people don't realize the extreme love that a mother has for her child. It is almost impossible for someone to give up their child without having serious regrets and/or mental scarring. Plus; there is a possibility that your child could go to horrible people. It's up to you, and since you're 22, I don't see a huge problem with raising a child, unless you truly aren't mentally ready, and judging by your post, you aren't. If you need a friendly ear and some advice on the subject, just PM me. I've known many people in your situation, so don't worry - life has a funny way of working out. Do what feels right to YOU, not your friends (or even me! ;P)
Juno ? btw i hate ppl that bring ppl in to the world and give it away, first of all its all your fault unless you got raped, so dont expect too much sympathy. being it your fault, why make it worse by ruining that child's life?? BELIEVE me having no one as a child (overnice forster parents provide, they dont give you what parents give you). basicly either get an abortion or keep it. this earth is overpopulated as it is thanx to the 3rd world, plz dont contribute to it. next time make him wear a condom, pull out or wear a diaphram. gosh unwanted pregnancy's would LOL me if it werent a serious matter, yet it is so instead of laughing im feeling rather pissed off.
pleaese dear dont make an abortion there is lot of things u can do as a solution u need to be rest minded in future and u will not be rest minded if u did the abortion pls again dont do that u do that only if u will die if u dont do the abortion
Jesus, Mr. Green, you're kindof an asshole. Mamahook, it's a tough decision and no one can make it for you. I know lots of girls who have had abortions. It's no fun, and it's something you'll always have to deal with - no one gets an abortion lightly - but they don't regret it. You'd be surprised at how many women have had one. I'm not advising you to get one - I really think no one can tell you what to do here. I feel for you, hon.
