My boyfriend and i have sex like once a week but sometimes i just want more. I want to turn him on but i dont think i can. We use to have sex a lot then our daughter was born and ever since then its like i dont turn him on and that he doesnt want to have sex anymore i just want to turn him on. any ideas
If you can relax him and have his trust try that. If you need to go further bring in erotic hypnosis. The mind is the most powerful sex organ
I really think I can help you, just try to stick this out if you're not too big on reading (like myself). The absolute key thing is that he should increase his stamina as much as possible both mentally and physically (search my posts after if you like, I made a pretty detailed thread on how to postpone orgasm - particularly for guys - and why it's so good, which I'll touch on here) and learn not to ejaculate, which will keep him horny all the time and he'll continue to get hornier the more times and the easier he can stop himself. It might seem crazy or counterproductive at first glance, but like I said he'll stay hungry and he'll just keep getting hungrier. Once that starts happening, together you can plan an evening or what have you (basically making it like your own little holiday together - make it even more special however you'd like) ahead of time in which he can finish, and by doing that you guys will know when he'll no longer be looking for lovin' and prepare for that by figuring out what to do to keep that bond around while he recharges. Now from the guy's perspective in this situation in may not look very appealing for the simple fact that he is withholding orgasm, but the important thing for the guy to understand is that once he's really loaded he'll be totally set physically and emotionally to, say, come home from work every day and have sex, feeling like a kid in a candy store all over again. Some other things for him to consider here is that while orgasm is much less frequent, the sheer amount of pleasure and intimacy that results from being so horny, bonded and together so often more than makes up for it. (A little side note: If the guy ejaculates, and if it had been a really long time and he was really loaded, when his downtime is over after that orgasm, the ensuing orgasm (the second one in particular, that is) and how horny he feels up to that point can actually be greater than the first time. This probably has something to do with the mind and body working with what is still another big load, while having been relieved of all the mental and physical tension that was building up throughout the time that he saved himself for the first one.) And lastly two more quick things I wanted to mention: If he takes zinc (which you can get in a multi-vitamin like Centrum) it will increase his semen production which would be a like a bonus move in the right direction. Also, if the guy is willing to do all of this it essentially forces him to be a better lover (which he'll thank you for later)... guys have a bad habit of seeking pleasure only for themselves. Anyway, that's it. Have fun. Edit: And if you have any Q's just ask.
without knowing your guy, its hard (excuse the pun ) to say what would turn him on, but you could try teasing him one day by sending him a message telling him you have a surprise for him later in the evening, dont be tempted to give any details, instead perhaps send him a picture of yourself that you know he will love, make him think about you all day long- phone him later to see if he has worked it out yet. he`ll either be thinking `oh great she`s bought a puppy` or `damn she looks great in that picture- i can`t wait to get home`, if you dont normally shave `down there` try it & send him a picture of a razor and a can of shaving foam as a clue or something simliar- it could be an empty wrapper and tag from some new underwear- anything that will get him thinking about you. as he returns home, greet him with the type of kiss that leaves him in no doubt that you have been missing him, whisper in his ear that you have been thinking of him all day long, let your hands wander, if he`s responding, and your feeling up to it, go down on him, then lead him into the bedroom ( or just lay on the kitchen table, floor- whatever) be direct, tell him to fuck you- no point in beating about the bush, you know what you need, if he responds to a little dirty-talk ( if you feel comfortable with it), the whisper in his ear and tell him exactly what you want. i`m assuming of course that its not the quality of lovemaking that is the problem, more the actual frequency....it could be that he is feeling a little low or maybe all the responsibility of being a new parent is bearing on his mind and he is so determined not to let you down that he is forgetting that you are not just a mother, but a beautiful woman that longs to feel close to him again. good luck, let us know if things improve.
just a thought... but could he be picking up on your insecurity because you don't think you can turn him on anymore? a lot of times it's like a self-fulfilling prophecy. spend a lot of time realizing FOR YOURSELF just how sexy you are, and feeling sexy!!! you ARE sexy, you just have to remember and feel it.
You ask most guys on here, they (me included) want it as much as they can get it..... Most of them are begging for their chick to "put out" for them all the time. I see you are 17 is he your age or younger or older?
It might be child thing at this stage....give him some time and if he is a normal male he will be wanting it as much as you, if not more.
