I want a fucking boyfriend

And doesn't everybody? (well, gay guys at least). But I'd be hard-pressed to substantiate in words the intensity of this desire. I fell in love three years ago; and though that ended badly, the more lamentable circumstance is my inability to find anyone! I assume my case is not singular for all those caught in the maelstrom of high school.

Anyway, the purpose of this thread is to gauge your outlook on relationships. Its creation is also certainly influenced by the fact that I'm very bored, lonely, malcontent, and wry.

Variables:

-relationships: open[1] or closed[2].
-partners (boys/girls)--most important quality: fun[1]/sexy[2]/loyal[3]/witty[4] (assume reasonable good-looks)
-your sentiments on a good, life-long relationship: it is paramount, indispensible to life[1]; it is of a high importance but not exactly paramount[2]; I am ambivalent or need time/experience to figure this out[3]; they should be avoided[4].

What's your combination? Mine is 2,3,1.

 

I was also going to put this thread in Gay Polls as a poll, but I found out that you could only include 10 options in a poll after I bothered type up all 32 combinations next to numbers 1-32 in order to include those numbers in the poll.

 

1,1,2

I've never been fussed about open/closed. I can recall at least one ex that was extra studly, curious feelings of pride extinguished jealousy. Where the thought of him being with another guy, or seeing him with another guy became about being proud i was with a guy so virile, my boyfriend was a stud and I was his No. 1

Thats just casual sex though, if we are talking about a partner forming a big emotional bond with another guy, then I start throwing household items

Partners - just that thing you get when you just click with a guy, relationships are more about best friends

LTR's - I Havent lasted past 3 years yet

 

1 or 2, 1, 3

I'm very open-minded when it comes to relationships. I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years now and we've spoken about being with other people. He was a little further behind me in pushing the envelope, but after we discussed and we both trusted each other, he was ok with it. Voila, our first threesome.

All those traits are great when you're looking for a partner. In my opinion, though, if they're not fun, if they can't mess around and laugh with me, then it probably won't last long.

When my boyfriend and I first got together, he was my first real relationship with another man. He had had many prior to me and was all about the life-long commitment. I was completely freaked out to begin with. Now I'm much more comfortable with the idea, also knowing that it's up to me in the end.

Finding a boyfriend is a heady task indeed. But, I don't think it's much more difficult than finding a nice relationship with anyone. Just go out there and go for it, see what you like, what works, and don't deny yourself the opportunities to get your feet wet.

 

2, 1, 2

If you are going to be in a relationship with ME...its going to be only me. And you have to be fun...I don't want to sit around and do nothing (I do that at work which is really just my couch but I digress)...and as far as a lifelong partnership being paramount....no. Plenty of good people have gone it alone in life and were just fine, but it is important (to me) for good quality friendships to be long lasting (not quantity but quality).

 

HELLO IF YOU ARE SEEKING HOT WEBCAM/CYBER SEX ADD ME EX_BOX_PLAYER@YAHOO.COM

 

2, 4, 1.

I've been in only one relationship thus far, and it was just a day under two months long. It was great, and I'm still very sorry that it's ended. I have known for a long time what I'd like out of a relationship, and I'm comfortable with it. I think my ex-boyfriend wants the same thing, but he was not ready at the time. Anyway, I would prefer someone to be witty rather than any of those other categories, just because I can't imagine dating someone who wouldn't be loyal anyway. I don't think that's even a consideration for one of my relationships. I would never betray my boyfriend, and I would expect the same from him.

 

1,4 and 2

I've been in two relationships. The second one much stronger than the first. Yes, there was a love that said 'forever' then. But now I think that I would rather be in an open setting, where things would be super transparent. In fact right now I'm looking for a part-time lover, you know the-ones-you-can-throw-outta-bed-at-6 am sorts.

 

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2, [1 3 and 4], 3

Yes, I am the jealous kind! he's for me and all me, until we get to the point where i can trust him and he trusts me/loves me enough.

If he's not fun, I can't be with him. If he's not witty, he's boring. If he's unloyal, I don't wanna trust/confide in him.

Too young to know for sure. Ideally, I'd like a pretty long, fulfilled relationship.

And most of this will probably change, I'm too young and inexperienced. This is all from what I imagine i'd like it(based on friends i like to be around)

 

I suppose my love for him would make him fun if he weren't already. But I doubt anyone is totally boring. I'd want him to be smart, but I'd actually like him at least a little scatterbrained.

 

2, 4, 2

I'm in the same position as you. High school sucks for relationships, and being gay doesnt help. My school is pretty liberal, but for some reason everyone freaked out when they saw a lesbian couple making out. It got pretty bad, and I know that if it were two men making out instead, the school wouldve been in a panic (though I'm not big on PDA's)

I havent had my first kiss because I refuse to be with a girl and lie about who I am. But there is someone I really like, its an unbearable infatuation.. And it hasn't helped my depression.

 

Ive found that the simplest (and most satisfying) thing to do is to locate a nice lampshade. You wouldn’t think it, but a very agreeable and meaningful relationship can be gained from spending time with just about any sort of fine lamp covering.

Ive been with Vivian (my one true love) for about 2 ½ years now. I stumbled across him (breaking my leg in the process) while probing for bird feed at the local corner market. We’ve been together ever since. I was so happy, you know, to have found him. I haven’t ever been able to keep pets or the like on account of my allergies, so he truly was a blessing.

Heres the 2 of us on vacation in Ukraine.

 

that picture only slightly creeped me out =P though I do I have to say, I love lamp shades, theyre great for reading... Which I do a lot of. I hope I can get the person I like to notice me... If only I could look good.. Well, okay, people compliment me all the time, I'm just not skinny, and I feel I can't get a guy unless I'm buff or scrawny.. Damn media -_- (even though I like men with a little bit f a stomach >_<)

 

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hooray for rambling and lack of self-esteem!

 

Of course! We're teenagers, it's natural and common.

I'm not scrawny or buff either, and I always worry about finding someone. If someone in my school was gay and looking for someone, they wouldn't look at me. >.>

 

This is a great place to rant. Besides, it's more active than any other place.

At times I've wanted to give up on the idea of love, but I can't find anything else in life worthwhile. The prospect of love is really the only reason I bother live my life.

 

2,2,1 for me

 

aesthete, I know exactly what you mean.. And I think I might have a chance the person I like right now.. If hes gay (which I think he is)