Ok so heres the thing. My best friend knows Im gay for a while now and we always hang out, but recently I told him my true feelings for him, that I do actually like him a lot. I know he's straight and I wasn't expecting much of a positive response from him, I just felt like getting it out of my chest so that I could move on but now I feel like I lost a dear friend to me, It feels like a part of me has died. Yet on the other side, my best friend whom Ive told everything about myself is moving away soon and I won't have anyone to rely on when I feel down or blue. At this point I feel it is extremely difficult to find a friend you can really open up to and count on. I don't know what to do I feel like that other part of me is dying cause my friend is laving soon. how can you deal with the loneliness if you know it's right around the corner.
Hey I'm sorry to hear about your friend and the situation. But I think you will manage to tide through. Take it in your stride. Also, remember its no crime loving someone, even if it is your best friend. Maybe he's just scared and doesnt know how to respond. You could try talking things out to him telling him how you want him as a friend(which I hope you do,since you say he is your best friend). So yeah, don't feel let down.
The response to your hurt seems a bit harsh. The reality is that friends move away and friends leave the planet. We are told that the burden lies on those who are left behind. You didn't state specifically that he rejected you or that he is no longer your best friend. You just mentioned that he's moving away. Finding friends is always tough. I don't think that people replace other people... in much the same way I don't believe you replace missing love in your life by buying a puppy or a kitten. I hope you meet other nice people whom you hold in as high regard as you did this guy.
I'm not into a flaming session, but as long as you're quoting me <out of context, I might add> I will elaborate as to the meaning of this. The burden left on the person who is left behind refers to the pain that this individual feels related to his feeling of loneliness. I don't think this young man was crying over his being victimized in any way. He was expressing his unhappiness at a time of abandonment. Throughout the course of human lifespan we experience loss in different ways. I don't regard loss as always being a negative thing, however in this instance the man was describing his emotional abandonment. I think empathy is a more appropriate response over the dismissive approach and posturing that you are taking in this instance.
