I'm a physically healthy 23 year old male. Over the past few months I've been having erection problems when having sex with my Girlfriend. I'm extremely attracted to her and can't keep my hands off of her...but we'll be in the middle of sex and I'll just lose my erection. Now this has been happening for a few months now and at first had no idea why it started happening, I attributed it to being nervous or something. But now, nearly everytime we start to have sex I start to think about and worry about it happening and it happens probably 4 out of 5 times we try to have sex. Has anyone had this issue before? Any advice? It's taken a huge toll on me and my relationship and I want to fix it asap.
How often do you masturbate? Are you having sex under the influence of alcohol or another substance? What is your mental state? Anxiety, depression, stress in life can be a large factor. Most times its a mental thing which can be solved with the help of a caring girlfriend. Although there are times when this is the symptom of another physical ailment or disease (High blood pressure is one of the main causes, but many others exist too.) Do you work out often? I've heard reports of boys who have had this problem and began working out for 1 hour 2-3 times a week and it went away. Crappy diet may also be a factor.
You say "I start to think about it". That is the problem. You screw with your brain and not the delivery system between your legs, so if you think you will lose your erection, guess what happens? Take a drink or some weed (not too much) to relax yourself, and build up slowly to intercourse. Have her give you a lot of oral or fondling, and then go for it. If you start to think about losing your erection, start counting to 100 silently and visualize the numbers as you count. Or think about the ejaculation you are about to have, with the cum flowing out inside her, and not the flaccid penis you are worried about.
What's going on is that your body is telling you it wants to go back to pussy and titty sucking. Or maybe it's just your cock's way of saying it wants to be sucked. Experiment. There are lots of fun things to do.
When that happens to me, its a sign that my body wants more cunnilingus. Its an opportunity for me to show her that her orgasm is as important as mine. And, once you get into it, the erection may return. Hard, soft, hard, ejaculate is a not unusual pattern around my house.
