This is upsetting...

I dunno what it is. It would be easy to blame it all on the media, but I think its more than that. When I look in the mirore, and at pictures of myself, I just see pale skin and chubbyness. And squinty looking eyes. I'm not even THAT fat (tech. only 8 pounds overweight) but I just see fat. I know I'll never be a model and don't really care, but I wish I could feel at least OK about how i look, but I can't, I feel really ugly most of the time. Doesn't even matter when people tell me I"m beautiful, cause I don't beleive it ever.

 

yeah, that sounds like an image of perfection that has been instilled in you from the outside and is clouding your perception of yourself.

 

Well, that's because you ARE.

 

i dont care if you all think this a cliche, but i honestly think you can find a bit of beautiful in everyone. And i personally think the inner beauty is way more important then the outter beauty, cos when you leanr to love someone from the inside, you see them as a beautiful person on the outside no matter how 'pretty' they are.
I personally think i am beautiful, if you beg to differ then so be it.
I personally think my mates mum is beaitful...[she has transformed a great deal while she is fighting cancer] but her inner beauty is shining more then ever, i think beauty is judged by the way you act and the person you are. And i absolutely do not agree with physiogonmy.
Everyone will feel insecure about themselves, its only natural, but be happy with what you got, and work it!
And in anycase, who was the person who said a certain look is beautiful?
Essentially the media has made this whole look of perfect looking girls can only be on the magazines and on TV...well girls look at the dove women they are all beautiful in differnt ways, they are all totally differnt to the 'normal' beauty advertisement models, they are REAL. so theres no point in people trying to be something/someone who they are not, just be happy with yourself, accepy the way you look, cos at the end of the day, the only person you are lying to if you want to change yourself, are the poeple you love, they are going to be with a fake who wants to change o be 'liked' in the view of everyone else...maybe its all about acceptence.
Arrgghh things like this make me so angry.
But bacically, be happy with who you are, be yourself, your all beautiful even if you dont think so [ if you ever need some confidence, just think oh yeahh that chikka on da forums said i was beautiful =D ], Just seriously find the confidence inside you to accept yourself and that way you will start to love the beautiful things about you =D
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Being beautiful isn't what life is about. It's about being happy.

You seem like a really great person, who knows how to have fun, who can make people feel better about themselves, and you seem to be very appreciative and grateful for all the things that have come into your life.

Why bother letting something like being beautiful get you down? You are beautiful. You don't realize it, but everyone that you think is more beautiful than you - was just born that way. It's easy to be beautiful. It happens at birth. It's more satisfying to work on being happy.

Best of luck.

 

i think i AM beautiful.

however, i do have many imperfections... so it evens out.. lol.

 

I think i'm very beautiful. But like everyone i have those days where i feel fat and disgusting.

 

Some people are good-looking, some people aren't. Just the way it is.

 

I have seen beautiful women look trashy, and plain women look drop dead gorgeous. It is how you carry yourself. If a woman is medias ideal but scream like a banshee at the waiter she is ugly. If she is what media considers average but has a smile on her face and treat people with kindness she is beautiful.

What the media tells us is gorgeous I find unattractive. Women are meant to have some curves, not bones poking out all over. I have a friend that is a plus size, but she dresses well (size appropriate) and always looks good. Nothing fancy, but aware of herself. I had a friend that was a size 4 and always looked like crap. She wore low cut tops to show off the cleavage she lacked, skin tight jeans she had no ass in, and a haircut that made her face look skeletal. Knowing what looks right on YOU is more important than a size label.

I consider myself beautiful when I want to be. Some days I just want to lounge in sweats with no make-up and my hair in a clip...beautiful I am not....but I am adorable as hell

 

If that is you in the picture I have 2 things to say

1.) Great hair color! Most people in my family have red hair (not me though)

2.) You facial structure is made to be photographed. You would look incredible in "vintage" poses done in black and white with those cheekbones and eyes! I think you would be amazed how incredibly pretty you are.

 

I don't believe 89% of woman think they're not beautiful. Atleast I myself consider myself beautiful. Ofcourse everyone has some things about themselves they like a little less, but for me its a lot more that I like then that I dislike, in fact, its only my nose and forehead i'm not so fond of, and possibly my skin (excema, its mostly the itch why I hate it, because its not that visible).
I think all woman should be proud of their looks and like their own apearance, because when I look in the streets, I'd say 98% is beautiful, instead of just 2%.

 

A woman is often not satisfied with her looks. I myself have good days, when I think I'm beautiful, and bad days, when I could spend all day finding faults with my looks.
I don't know how much it is the fault of the media, or of insecurity.

 

i kind of hate hte attitude that all woman should/must love themselves and if they dont theyre flawed/damaged. i mean, we are inherently imperfect and if one of your imperfections is a physical one that you and then you get guilted over recognizing and disliking those imperfections. yeah beating yourself up daily over how you look is unhealthy, but knowing that you arent drop-dead gorgeous/beautiful but rather between pretty and nice looking somewhere doesnt mean you have a problem

 

yeah, but al, YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL. personally i get sick of beautiful people telling me that they don't think they're beautiful. i get sick of skinny chicks tell me how fat they are. i get sick of women with perfect, pert breasts talking about how "too small" their breasts are, and most of all, i get really sick of telling someone they're beautiful and having them list reasons why they're clearly not. ugh. j

 

I have a great personality but i dont like how i look. I know i could change it, I think i have the potential to look pretty, not beautiful but seriously, looking good like they all do is hard work and im far too lazy! I mean even the girls who look like they dont do anything - i know girls like that and they actually do do stuff like plucking their eyebrows etc.

Its not always though, sometimes i feel so beautiful but then i look in the mirror and its like "bleugh", i think beauty is beauty, not everyones beautiful (me for a start) but they might be cute, or pretty, or sexy. I dont mind me much, i can make myself laugh, so id rather have my personality than looks.

Oh yeah and the amount of times ive been told im ugly *rolls eyes* and the amount of times ive been told im pretty. Its stupid... haha... Peoples opinion of whats pretty and sexy changes, ive had people call me ugly then pretty and then not sexy again, then sexy! So i dont care what other people think so much now... Which is the best way to be in my opinion...

 

So are we taking the literal definition of beauty? because it seems as though some are saying that most people are beautiful, which would suggest the definition is figurative. The term "beautiful" generally refers to the "top tier" of the good looking, so by definition, only a relatively small portion of the population can be beautiful (no matter what body-type one finds attractive). But if we're talking figuratively, sure, everyone's "beautiful," but a better choice of phrase would be "of value," or "special," or "a wonderful person," or something like that.

 

So far 74.42% say yes while 25.58% say no...

I look at the women today, expecially at my college, and I just see so many pretty faces, but I know when I look at them, I dont know what they percieve themselves as and I find it so upsetting that they may see themselves as anything other than beautiful.

I blame alot of this on the media, and magazines etc for giving them false views on how a woman should be looking. Its not realistic.

Beauty is a very individual thing, and I fear for my little sister, because although she knows that she is beautiful, even now with her sports, dance, etc she is still concerned about gaining weight. I dont want my siblings, cousins, friends, or family growing up with that.

 

veeeeeeeeeeeery good post

 

I think I'm stunning, although there's always room for improvement.

 

my problem is not with some women thinking they're ugly. some jsut plain are and there's no getting around it. physically, they're a train wreck. you work with what you've got. my problem is that this "poll" saying that 90% or some such garbage think so. that's just nonsense.