please please answer quick, need answers quickly!!!ill sit here and im not moving

It sounds like you are trying to not take it to the next level. In which case leaving your job, if kind of drastic, should help. Communicating with him probably would not help.

 

As far as drastic I just feel bad if you had to leave your job over this. Then I am trying to figure out what the trouble is. You don't want to be involved in an affair but are trying to communicate with him. Are you wanting to stay friends with him? Are you maybe having mixed feelings about him? If you are out of touch that seems to solve the problem, so why would you want to communicate?

 

Sounds like you really like him. You might need to just put it behind you. Good luck. :^)

 

I was married for a fair amount of time. And I have had some experiences... :^)

 

probably harder for him to have an affair now that you arent working at the same place as him
ive said it befor eand ill say it again - you need to stop with this man. he is married. neither of you ought to be messing with the other, even if its only emotionally at this point

 

Oh my goodness, sweetie! I think you are very preoccupied with him. You need to put it behind you if at all possible. Like get into a healthier relationship. I know that can be very hard to do. I have been through it. You might want to find a good therapist. They can be quite helpful if you find a good one, and if you find the right one for you. Probably you need a female one so some creep doesn't take advantage of your situation. Hope that does not hurt your feelings. I went to an analyst for 5 years myself.

 

Policy? Sounds confusing.

 

He may be mad that you quit your job

 

Why? It's okay. We can get consumed by attraction. I know of what I speak! :^) But if you need some help past this I hope that you get the help. Does not make you a bad person.

 

What is probably going through his head is "next" as in who can he flirt with now.

Look, if he cared about you or that you quit he would have said something. If not outright he would have left a line of communication open (sending jokes, brief emails, etc). By avoiding you he is trying to get you to fade away. Haven't you ever tried to get rid of someone by ignoring them?

Just move on....and in the future consider married men off limits. It may seem fun to play with them, but they are usually the masters at the game. They know to get you interested, and how to shut you out. A married man (or woman) that is willing to stray isn't someone you want to get involved with, in any way.

 

my main question is how old is the guy? I mean ur 24 and usually people that are married are older than 24 so im wondering why ur after perhaps an older married guy lol, plenty of young guys out there with no commitment it would seem.

 

u sound well confused.....u liked him but u said u dont want nothing more with him so u moved away..ur first instinct is good..trust yourself...getting in love with married man will cause u great pain...if he dont leave his wife(being the other woman) or even if he will(especially if kids are involved) so if i was u, i would stick to single men....be strong...its just sexual attraction...if he cheats with u he will most likely cheat on u..i guess that shoudl help
i think he let it go.....for the same reason......trust me........
and i dont think u wnat to be just one night stand or his affair to boost his ego? do u?

 

Sorry, but we can't fix your problem for you. But ask yourself this: Why do you need to "fix" this? Why do you need to analyze him (read that: ask us what we think he's thinking)? And why do you, after all this time, still hold on to this guy?

You may have left him, but you haven't really left him - you still carry him in your mind and heart. Don't you think it's time to really leave him? As in, not just physically but emotionally and mentally as well?