I think my friend is gay

Okay I am in High School, a gay male and in the closet (refer to other thread for my "story"...will be finally "out" after graduating Gr. 12)

Anyways I have this friend (who is female and 3 years older than me in 1st year university), and I trust her and told her I was gay last night on msn.

I have this feeling she is too..and you know it would be great to have a friend like that be gay too, as you have someone to relate to in your personal life (and no sexual tensions because she is female).

I mean her facebook profile (same as mine) has Gender: Female, and the "Interested In:" field missing (I do that too, I just ignore that field on facebook and leave it blank until I come out in a few years).

And when I told her on msn she was super supportive, and I talked to her about it and she said a few things that made me go "she might be..."

Like I told her how I am having religious issues with my coming to a realization I was gay (saying this on msn to her), and she responded to something of the lines of "when I was in Gr. 9 I became an atheist for awhile because......<goes on...can't rembmer>".

Then she said something along the lines of "And I cannot STAND this "choice" bullshit.

So you know you really wonder, when she says the those 2 things out of the blue. I don't want to go to her and ask out right as:

a) She could be straight and that would insult her and strain the friendship
b) She could be gay or bi. but confused and not like the issue pressured.

I sort of came out to her because I trusted her but I have had my suspicions before because I thought she was gay too. My brother over the X-Mas holidays, at a party commented to me that she seemed like a "dike" (his language not mine).

She is overweight and it might be a lack of confidence thing.

My intuition really makes me believe she is and is pushing it inside. Confused on what I should or should not do.

Rate now I am thinking I should leave it alone, and she knows I am, and if she is actually gay or bi. she would feel comfortable coming to me about it in the future if she is.

 

Well w/e man you know her better than us if you think it'd strain your relationship with her then by all means wait for her to come out. Personally, I'd just come out and ask but all my friends are kinda crazy anyway so I don't think they'd take any offence.

 

That evidence doesn't sound very strong, I'm sorry to say. You may be catching vibes that make it more likely though.

I agree with what you're thinking right now: leave it alone for a while, and she'll know she has a supportive friend if she is gay or bi, just like she was supportive for you.

 

i'd leave it alone imo. just be happy you have someone like that.