Why can't men ever tell me what's wrong?!?!

Seriously, the one thing I really really really really hate about men, they can't talk to you. I mean, they're not paying you any attention so there must be something that they're not happy with between the two of you. But why not just SAY instead of fucking ignoring me!! I'm a big girl, I can handle a discussion, and most likely I feel the same way. I mean, not necessarily with boyfriends but with guys you like....throughout my entire life, everything's great at the start and then they just ignore you, instead of just saying that they don't want anything serious, which is the same as what I want anyway!!!!
And I'd be all up for telling them, cept I can't get the chance if they're fucking ignoring me!!!!

What the hell is wrong with me?! Or is it just all guys?!?! Raaaa!!!

 

It's not all men, so don't lump them all into one category. There are a lot of good guys who actually care about what you have to say. A lot of times you need to build a friendship where there's mutual respect in order to have this though. I don't know, I just hate when people say "All guys can't communicate" or something like that. It's probably just the guys you've known. Don't give up on them all...lol.

 

You maybe a big girl and can handle a discussion but maybe he isnt so big himself and would rather avoid a confrontation or a problem.
That always happend to me with my ex, i'd ask him what his problem was and all he'd say was "nothing" or "I duno", gets very annoying after while. But in the end he'd always tell me what was wrong.

 

Same thing for me, I'm getting a divorce because of this and other things too. I don't believe all people, men or women are like that but it is impossible to relate or resolve anything with a person who won't talk to you. I think our society has taught men not to express anything that might indicate they have an issue or a problem. It's not a result of bad parenting or anything it's just in that Y chromosome for some of them.

 

Thanks for your replies

I guess he is just incapable of handling such issues maturely, so I'll say something to him about just being friends. It's just that I have to see him every day so I don't want it to be awkward.

I almost said something today, but it looked as though it was getting better, so I didn't want to ruin things in case before was just a temporary blip (pathetic I know ), but nay, I shall move on!

I know there are good guys out there (somewhere), I just thought I'd found one....it's just hard not to feel like you're a horrible person and boring and stupid! But oh well, I'm going to stop feeling sorry for myself and meet lots of new people.

 

He talked! It was amazing! Well, not so much talked as just told me straight what's going on, and now we're friends. And I know we're going to be good friends. I can't believe that in my whole life no guy has ever done that! I have finally found a decent guy, and it's not me, he just has ex-girlfriend issues, so I can move on happily now


(Still doesn't explain the guys in the past, but I think I'll let that one slide for now...)

 

And what about them damn women who say one thing and mean another.


"yeah ! damn straight"

*high5s himself*

 

Guys can talk about whats wrong. you just have to find the right guy

 

I complety agree with you girl