she called me and clued me in on what I always thought was going on. her boyfrriend is as fucked up and stalkery to her. He will follow her around, restrict who she sees, andif she isn't home the minute she told him, he'll go to her house and hide in the bushes(literally) until she gets home, then he accuses her yada yada. I odn't know what to tell her, not idea what advice to give. Here are the things that she tried and didn't work/ things to do that can't be done: she has tried to flat out break it off 7+ times physically fought to end it been cheated on, and still in the relationship he makes her visit him 4-6 times each day, or will call, and if she isn't available, he goes to her house and waits We can't call the fuzz b/c... well we have 'stuff' that can't be an entree to she can't just avoid/ignore him because he'll actually seek her I feel shitty that friend is in this situation, she isn't strong enough to end it (which pisses me off, I never let shit like that happen) and she calls me freaked out and afraid to end it because she says she thinks he's one of those guys that would actually freak out and attack her. I don't know what to do, she won't let me help- like talk to him- and truthfully I don't want to get involved with his shit. The above is the product of drunken lowlifes and their control over (no offense to my friend) but feeble women. Like I said, I don't know what to do, and sorry to drag you down, but I'd like to help her, and I was hoping the you out there might have some suggestions/ Thanks
well i would go with her to a police station so she can file a restraining order. if nothing else has worked then your gonna have to go the cops. It's better than her continueing with this relationship....that's the only thing i can think of right now.
Very dodgy. If i was her, i'd just have a go at the boyfriend, make him understand that he is a control freak and that if he ever wants a girlfriend to stay with him again then he should shape up his act and just chill out. Then say goodbye and tell him not to bother talking to "me" again until he has had time to calm down and stop bein so obsessive...jesus christ cant he see that he cant bully her into bein his girlfriend, it just doesnt make any sense. From what you've been sayin this might not help at first because hes just gonna try all his old tricks, like going to her house etc, but if and when he does go round there she should just give him the cold shoulder basically, and tell him again to go away and think about shit. Just a question tho, why does she go to see HIM if she doesnt like the way he treats her? Cant she just stop doing what he says and stand up for herself. The girl needs to be confident enough to pull this off and hopefully he will get the message. If shes worried and you think theres a possibility she might get hurt (you said something about being attacked) well then she should try to stick with her mates when walking home and stuff, but try not to let her walk with just one guy, cos theres more of a possibility he will get beat up instead. If he really doesnt fuck off then you need to tell the parents or cops or someone that can really help, and someone out there will be able to. Good luck !
I have a friend that was in a situation kinda like that... for her birthday this guy gave her full blown poster of himself! She finally broke up with him and he still came to her house constantly, followed her to school, even snuck into her classes... Eventually she started seeing someone else and he attacked her; he got charged and got released on probation. The girl had to have her name changed, drop out of school, and actually move to keep this guy from figuring out how to find her. She's now married and in another state, but it could have just as easily gone the other direction, and she could be dead right now. The type of personality you're describing seems just sick, to me. I realize I don't know everything about this guy, but regardless, be careful.
My baby's ex was like that. I keep telling her to tell me when he's in town so i can rip his fucking head off but she can't even mention his name... From what i know though, and i don't push it, he was just like what you write. Except he would hit her when she wanted to break up, he would proclaim himself suicidal in lame attempts to keep her, stalk her to her house, prevent her from seeing her friends... etc... I find it all pretty lame and sick. I mean, i can almost see where this kind of guy comes from as i find my girl very attractive; but i think that it's a sign of my love that i am not possessive you know? I'm a free bird and so is she and nothing can change that... i don't know, maybe it's just me... i have possessive tendencies sometimes, but then again so does she - we're both jealous people... sigh.. i digress Good luck, personally, i would fuck this pussy up and not look back except to spit on him. If you were a true friend i think you'd do that as well; how can you watch someone suffer like that? I'd straight up jump the little bitch and kick his teeth in. either way, don't let apathy kill ya... peace...
sure sounds like a bad situation. I would get a restraining order on him if you think it won't send this crazy ass over the edge. then if he showed up again I'd have him arrested. I'd move away if I could and get as far away as possible from that bullshit. That sucks!!!!!!
To me, it sounds like there's not gonna be much left for her to do because hes aggressive like that. Which is sad but, I think she has to tell it like it is and just keep tellin the desparate loser to stay the fuck away. Shits gonna be steamin but as long as you stay right by her side and get more friends and family to be there for her; aint no way you guys can lose. Good luck to you and your friend. Make sure you make an ass out of him too
