best friend betraying me

Heres the deal...
Me and my best friend got blazed almost every day in the summertime. He rescently was forced by his parents to quit. So last wednsday he said he had 40 bucks and wanted to get blazed this weekend. So I of course said okay. His mom took the 40 and ruined our plans. When I was at soccer practice he called my mom and was telling her how he has been clean for 3 weeks (which he has but still desires to) and has a job. He also told her that I have been smoking and he thinks im having a hard time quitting, and hes worried about me. Just 3 weeks ago I told my mom I was quitting (obviously a lie) but I just dont want her to be on my back and I can just live my life and have fun smoking. I am a fairly good individual but my mom thinks I am just ruining my life blah blah blah all of that stereotypical bullshit presented by the media. In my opinion, I think it was pretty messed up that my best friend would rat me out like that after he has been planning a smoke session for weeks. Im pretty pissed because now my mom is putting me through counciling and having me take weekly drug tests which in my opinion isnt neccesary AT ALL. After soccer was over I was planning on getting a job but now I have to plan everything around this counciling bullshit. Please tell me all of your opinions. Do you think what my friend did was wrong? Do you think my mom should be putting me through this bullshit counciling that is just wasting my time? Thanks everyone and PEACE

 

I definatly think what your friend did was wrong! Smoking isn't such a harmful thing to go and get all worried about! Did you comfront your friend about this? I would sink to his level and tell his mother about him planning smoke sessions. Even better, lie and say he did smoke. Weekly drug tests? Isn't that a little drastic? Thank god my dad is a deadhead and buys from the same dealer as I do, or else I might have to take drug tests too.


I used to smoke with my good friend all last summer too until his father found some hash we both chipped in for. We still smoke though, not as bad as your problem though. sorry if i didnt help at all im a little warped right now. woah thats an awesome word for being high.

 

No I dont think ill tell on him. I dont think I want to be friends with him though. I agree that smoking marijuana isnt a harmfull thing that parents should be worriend about. I think that his parents have led him to beleive that though.

Thanks I was thinking that was he did was wrong I was just wondering what anyone else thought

 

I think your mom is a total bitch for giving you drug tests. If you are a good individual like you claim, and she has no real big reasons to distrust you, even with that aside, drug testing is bullshit. Tell that bitch off, then kick your friends ass for being a complete asshole.

 

See my mom thinks that I need help becuase I constantly get pissed at her for being a total dumbshit litteraly. Her IQ is like 10 and its hard to maintain a friendly state with her because shes so stupid. I know I should be more understanding but there is no reason for someone to be that...uneducated. And she links my frustration to her to marijuana.

And I want to kick his ass but he would probably tell his parents becuase he tells them everything...then they would tell me mom and then give her another reason for counciling...
Damn this is complete bullshit, I cant wait until im 18 and out of high school then I can move the hell out and smoke everyday if desired.

 

another thing,
The reason that she is so worried about me smoking marijuana is becuase she used to do it and she said it led her to do meth so she thinks that im going to be a meth head too. And I dont think she should link her experiences to mine thats just wrong not everyone who smokes marijuana is going to do meth/haroin/crack like she probably did.

 

In my opinion, marijuana is in no way a gateway drug. People see a drug they think they would dig, and they try it. Anyway, you have to try and persuade her into believing you. Try showing her sites like NORML.com and concept420.com (personal favorites). If she believes everything the media tells her, and the internet is a form of media, then there ya go! And I would kick your friends ass if I were you. Then rob him.

happy smokingg,
TEC

 

Your right on....
I dont think ill rob him but I might kick his ass. I dont need to rob him I have his pipe he left at my house. "Im worried about him and want his to quit so I am not giving it back to him or his safety." If hes all against it now I dont think hell need it.

I dont want to sink to a low level about this though I want to keep some peace.

 

beat that back stabbin snitches ass fuck his parents show your mom pro-maryjane sites like someone already suggested and keep smoking tell your mom to quit testing you because theres no reason to if they are gonna come up positive tell her you dont plan on quitting and that your not gonna be a dumbass meth head liek she was
heres a thought

my friends and i have been smokin a while.. lets call them by initials...J(me), I,B,A,and M. M stopped smoking after a while because he stopped enjoying himself and was worried too much. B and A are twins. I and J tried X before we even tried weed. We both didnt like it at all. B said there is nothing he would do besides cannabis.Same for J and I. A has expressed feelings about tryin LSD coke and X but i dont think he will because he is smarter then that and knows how harmful they are compared to maryjane.
in retrospect of this the conclusion is this......
Marijuana leads to other things............
Laughing and Junk Food!

 

Kick his ass. Then purposly fail every drug test.

Then mumble stuff about killings and "Mother Russia" while your at the shrinks.

And play nothing but death metal around the house.

 

Walk up to him punch him right in the face but make sure you do it hard enough that he falls to the ground then say thats what grass's get then walk away. But watch your back he might get back up and come at you.

 

if your mom is close minded and stuipid then lie to her, you know idiots thrive off of lies. your friend sounds like a brainwashed fucktard. destroy his reputation, make it clear to everyone you know what he did is wrong, that marijuana is the answer, and that anyone who rats on their friends is a suggestible weakminded peace of shit not worth the waste of space. if you beat him up you protect your reputation at the risk of making all of us look bad by falling into the trap. if you make people realize how fucked up it is to live your life based on messeges from total strangers with hidden motives (media/"public service" announcements) and how weak minded it is maybe you can stop this from happening and successfully destroy your "friends" poisoned mind too with his any amount of reputation he still pretends to have. our battle is a battle for minds, we free as many minds as we can ,but thought forms are holding all the keys they are guarding all the doors and sooner or later one must face them down.

 

You know, every single person who's replied to this thread is portraying a very bad image of the pot smoking community.


Now, you say your mom use to do meth? That's why she's stupid, man. I know a few people who use to do meth; they're brains are completely and totally fucked. I don't think it's that she's uneducated, I just think it's because of her past choices. Which is probably she's so afraid of you walking in her footsteps; that is, smoking pot, and moving to meth.


My parents are the same way, man. They're so unreasonable with their fear that if I smoke pot, I will move on to alcohol and other drugs like they did, that they drug test me weekly. It's not fair at all, but there's something you have to realize. Right now, your mother is probably grief stricken that what's happened to her is going to happen to you; there's absolutely no consoltation or way to prove to her otherwise. I once tried to explain to my parents about why I used cannabis. The thing they kept bringing up was, "What happens when the high runs out?" They just don't understand; from their perspective, a drug addict's, they see that I'm using cannabis to be high. That's what they think my only reason for doing it is. That's what theirs was; and it led them to coke.

The problem is that people who've done drugs, people who've gone through rehab, or have quit... They can't think like normal people who aren't addicts, or haven't been through rehab. My parents are in AA, and so far, what they've learned through AA is that if you're an alcholic, you can become chemically dependant on any mind-altering or mood-alterint chemical. That is inherently wrong, but the "brain-washing" (for lack of a better term, I actually am thankful for AA, and don't wish to offend any members) needs to remain constant in their mind for them to stay sober. That's why they can't even consider for themselves using cannabis responsibly, in a manner that won't lead to other things; and that's why they can't imagine it for me.


However, the other side of the story is that no matter what paper will tell you, most people will stand by their experience and form strong convictions out of those. True, these people may be acting in ignorance when they do this; but it's a belief, and like it or not, you can't change it for them. Your mother will never be convinced that you won't move on to meth, because it happened to her, and she's too worried. She won't even take the risk. Each person is different; I agree on that. Your mother just sees that she may have been doing it the same way you have started, or she believes that sooner or later it will lead that way. There's no convincing her otherwise.


Now, your mom's not a misinformed twat. She's smoked pot; I'm pretty sure she knows that most of the government information is bullshit. The differnce is that she doesn't think you know, so she wants to "trick" you into thinking it is. She's in a desparate situation; to her, her son is destined to be a meth addict if he doesn't stop smoking pot, and telling herself otherwise will negate her sobriety from it. Afterall, if you say pot is okay for one person, then you're probably going to wind up considering it for yourself.


Bottom line: Your mother probably loves you, and she's probably doing this out of unreasonable fear that you'll fuck up. There's really nothing you can do about as long as you live under her house except just put up with it. It does suck, it really does, but that's tough. However, I'm aware of a lot of ways you can fool drug tests, and since I'm a pro-ponet of the herb, if you want information email me (SagaciousKJB@spymac.com) or AIM me (SagaciousKJB).


Your mom's fearful right now; it's unreaonable fear, however. But, just like when you were a little kid, and you got an unreasonable fright from lightning, your mother had to understand and console you. The difference is there's no way you're going to change her convictions, that were influenced by experience, and convince her otherwise. If your mom gets on the internet a lot, though, and you want some good information about pot. Tell her to read The Emporer Wears No Clothes, by Jack Herer. It's available for free at http://www.jackherer.com/

 

The ironic this maybe ironic isnt the word to use but he has no other friends. I am his one and only friend and has no reputation. He doesnt even go to high school he goes to some retard school. And everyone already doesnt like him.

 

I really like what SagaciousKJB2 had to say. For being my age (15) he has a very advanced thinking mind. And he was right on with my mom, I think that is excactly how she feels. Its hard to respect her through all of the moronic things she does. I dont want to sound like an asshole but its just hard.

Now SagaciousKJB2, since you give such good advice, what do you think I should do with my friend. We were best friends and I dont know why. He has add and addhd so he is one of the most annoying individuals I know. But I think the reason I hung out with him is becuase we have the same rare interests that no one else has around my area. So I think that thats what has kept our friendship together despite all of the frustration torwards him.

LOL I love everyone elses responses also please keep giving me your ideas....

 

Well, I had a friend like that for quite a long time. The roles were somewhat reversed, however; I was the unpopular "geek", and he was the popular dude with all the friends. The reason we had a "friendship" wasn't really because we cared about each other in any way, but because we had very much in common, and that made us get along very well. I stopped hanging out with him, but we're still pretty close acquaintences; the main reason being that in one instance, I had gotten into a fight with someone, and instead of trying to help me when this popular person was kicking my ass, he was one of the people ridiculing me.

So, I think there's a pretty fine line between friends and people you can hang out with. Even if you have the same interests as someone else, you may not like them as a person. You say your friend is very annoying; that probably means you don't like the characteristics about him that make him that way. And the mere fact that your friend was able to get you into trouble to save your own ass (because that seems like what has happened), I doubt he has very much reverence for you as a person.

Anyway, I woudln't really do anything about it. I've always been against violence, and I've always also felt that severing any tie is a loss in some way. You don't need to get revenge; keep him around. Although a lot more evil-esque than simply kicking his ass, later down the road when you want a free smoke, you could use him for money. When people cross me, I don't sever connections, because it's always useful to have an acquantence with people. But it really depends on what you want to do.

And if your mother thinks highly of him, because he seems to care about his friend so much, inform her that he was spending $40 for the smoke session anyhow. The way I see it, an eye for an eye; and even if not, I woudln't want my mother holding some snitch in such regard.


Just my $0.02

 

Wow you guys are going a bit crazy.

I'd ask him about it man, then go and smoke with him.

Your mum is only worried about you, don't give her too hard a time, however drug tests and shit are a bit crazy though.

 

ok dude, i think you should first talk to your friend about it and just straighten shit out with him first. then go to your mom, this may be difficult becuse you had said she had drug problems before to (i know the feeling, my dad was a herion addict and is very anti-pot) but i think you should sit down with her and have a serious talk abou it, try and make a deal with her or something, or just flat out say, "look you may drug test me and do other things but the bottom line is im not going to do other drugs, and by you doing all of this, this isnt going to make me quit, you cant force me to quit doing something that i dont find is wrong" or something like that...you can say whatever you want really...just an example...but you should deffinatly be honest with your mom about some stuff...not all...only the little stuff...any major shit dont tell her the whole truth about that. but if you need any more advice my AIM screen name is daydreamnationtg... hope i helped.

 

you cant change the past, only accept it and move on, come back to the now, the eternal present moment, cuz thats all there really is... just go with it, keep flowing and be good

 

Thats what I do in any given situation!