need "pain killer" for 1st anal sex?

hello newbie girl here,

start trying anal sex with bf.
first time for both of us.

use many lubricant (silicon base) and started with small but plug.
The plan was to start with butt plag, once I got adjusted (does not hurt anymore) then increease the size and finally have my bf penetarted anal style

BUT I got so much pain just with the butt plug!

It started tolerate-able pain then pain is gone, when moved position, the pain is too much, hence we stopped and after break, we did vaginal sex.
(as comparison, I do routine full brazillian wax, once a month without tylemnol!)

Any suggestion on how to proceed? Is there such thing as "pain-killer" for anal sex, maybe some cream or something?

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It's all about being relaxed, if you don't really want to do it your body will tighten up and it's going to hurt. Get your boyfriend to give you a massage or something first.


As for pain killing lube, there is numbing lube that stops guys from getting off too quickly but you dont want to use that because normally pain is your bodys way of saying stop.

 

pain is how your body tells you theres somethign wrong. to try and treat that pain with meds for something like anal sex is risking some serious damage to yer butt, probably not something you want...

 

I second what they said. You can damage your butt having anal sex, so if your body's telling you something's not working, the last thing you want to do is shut it up.

And like Sarah said, if you're stressed or nervous about it you might clench up, and then all the lube in the world won't save you.

Do you even want to do this? Because if you don't, you shouldn't.

If you do...keep trying. Most likely, eventually your body will relax and it'll get better.

I like that you're starting slow and easy, though. That's smart.

 

once you do it for awhile it really doesn't hurt anymore.. it hurt me for the first couple of times but after awhile it felt great..

 

Thank you for all the replies and input!
I'll continue try SLOWLY. We do the small butt-plug and we'll go from there.
Maybe anal-sex is not for me.

Just curious, once adjusted (relax & no more pain) hows the pleasure of anal-sex from girl's point of view? Can you "come" from anal-sex?
My bf has never done but surely he wants to at-least try (duh, big surprise!)
Honestly, I also want to try to see what pleasure it gives

THANKS again gals

 

It seems intuitively correct for you to attempt virgin anal sex after you're all relaxed from orgasm, doesn't it? At least, that's the approach I've used in the past when luring my sex partner into anal. And speaking from experience--it can be painful for the guy, as well. (Think of sticking your dick in a vise. Oooppss.)