Ok, so my boyfriend loves giving me anal sex. It's not tops on my list, but its ok so I let him do it every now and then. In turn I wanted to give it to him too but he is to scared of the whole thing. I don't know if its the idea of it or he just thinks it will hurt a lot. Many things I read say guys love the feeling once they get over the idea of it. The other night he let me just take a finger and rub his asshole and he said it just hurt/was uncomfortable. Is there anything I can do to ease that to possibly make this happen? He is a very sexual person and I know he would love it if he found a way to get past this. Any suggestions?
Unfortunatly, it's not something that is really easy to get passed, if you dont like the idea of it, it can make you tense up to the point where it is painful. I know I wish more men liked the idea, but if you think about it for the most part most men have it very in there head that they are ment to do the entering, and it's hard to get past that. All you can do is get him on the forums to read what other guys say on the matter, for the most part they seem to enjoy it when and if they get past the "this makes me gay" bullshit. Good Luck!
I think he's just saying that it hurts so he won't have to do it I'm sure you've read to take it slow and use plenty of lube although I've never really felt the need for it I wish I had a girlfriend, I'd let her penitrate me any time plus it doesn't always feel good usually but sometimes your all tense and it doesn't feel as good but you should probably get past the psychological aspects first so he can relax I't rarely hurts for me but maybe thats because I'm normally a pretty layed back and relaxed guy if you want to talk more about this or other topics any really it doesn't have to be sexual I'm quite knowledgeable on lots of topics
Part of me thinks he is saying that just so he doesn't have to do it too. Like you said, I have read up a lot on it and doing whatever it takes to make it easy and comfortable for him. I wouldn't do anything that would hurt him what so ever. I think if he could find a way to get past the idea of it and the idea that a guy isn't supposed to take it in the ass he would like it. I always said that I do it why won't you? And he replies with...but youre a girl. Maybe I need to get him reading some of these forums to realize that a lot of straight guys do this and love it.
Yeah I don't think one finger would hurt any guy. So he is prob just saying that so you don't proceed with more ideas. He should read up on it and if he still refuses to be open-minded, that sounds less like an anal problem and more like a communication/equality problem.
pfff, one dry finger is uncomfortable and slightly burny for me. seroiusly (to the OP), invest in some lube for this. hell, even suck on your finger and then use it, but some lube is far far better than none
