Being so new to this site, it may seem weird that I would begin posting on such topics. However, I need help. I am sick and tired of the crap men put me through and lately I have been thinking about women. However, I don't know if I am thinking about women because I actually like them or I am just trying to escape reality (I do that a lot!)! It is a burden on my mind every day because I am not sure who I really am or who I really enjoy being around more. Feel free to comment on this, some help would be appreciated!
A way to understand is if u look at movies or anything in the media- R u turned on by how a girl/woman looks? Do u imagine her in erotice ways? Does that idea turn u on? Would u be willing to be best friends with a girl and then be lovers if she was attractive? If u answer yes to some or any of these questions-u very well may be-Just make sure u are honest with urself-u have 2 be if with no one else. Hope u find the answers u r searching for....
Disliking a few men is a really shit reason to become a lesbian. Ask Aileen Wuornos. If you're attracted to women, go for it, but if you're attracted to guys more/as much you shouldn't rule us out, some of us are quite cool (admittedly only the gay ones, but you never know, you could come to some arrangement!).
Hey Lavendar Girl... I know how you feel... At your age, I too had a hard time coming to grips with the way I really feel about my attraction to men vs. Women. Over the years, I've wasted too many years in relationships with men while secretly being undeniably more attracted to women. More than anything, I had a raging battle internally about what was morally right vs. wrong. Now, a divorced mom, with a small child, I regret all the years I spend denying my true self. But it's never too late for love. I accept who I am, and I know now that God loves me no matter what my sexual preferrence is, and I intend to find happiness with that special someone someday. I have a suggestion... If you have a genuine attraction towards women, don't waste your life (like I did) trying to convince yourself there's something wrong with you because you are. God made you what you are, and loves you just the same. I agree that having bad experiences with men is not a reason to 'test drive' the other side; you'll do yourself and others a grave dis-service, and it's not being honest. Take sometime to yourself, without being in a relationship with anyone, and observe your own behavior. Your heart will lead you in the right direction. Good luck in your quest for happiness, Little Sister...
Please le me play devil's advocate a little while. How is this different from World of Dan's quest to expeience gay sex. If that is how Lavendar Rain goes into it. I relaize that she said that she sounds like she is completely swearing off men but maybe if she as you suggested sits back & has a look at herself & life she may want to reevaluate this in as an all or none decision. Lavendar Rain, what do you think about that? Do you really think that this has to be a complete change or if you still are thinking about women after you have cooled down from whatever brought you to this conclusion you go into it without any expectation for The Big Picture but more as an experience to further your knowlegde of who you are & what you like?
I honestly did not expect an answer from anyone on this subject, so thank you very much. Frankly, I think that I should take pieces of advice from each one of my replies. For instance, I think that I should be alone for awhile and observe my behaviors as Qita Wita said. I also think that if at that time I am still not sure, I should try experimenting. Livingwater posted some thought provoking questions for me and the answer was yes to many of them so, in conclusion, I am still confused but I am headed in the right direction! Thank you.
Well Lavender, I am happy that u are on the path that u desire. I am glad my questions stirred something within u as well. Sometimes issues of emotionj-take time. This goes for finding your way as well. May you find the way you desire to be a natrual and fun one.
To be honest, I'd recommend bisexuality over full homosexuality any day, even if only as an interim. It'll give you a chance to compare the two, shop around, other crap analogies, and really understand what it is you prefer, if indeed you have a preference. One of my regrets is that I didn't at least try being with a women, I think I'm too far gone now to want to do it, but I dunno.
