Hi everybody! I'm Kai 20 years old, living in Finland. I don't drink neither smoke Never dated or even kissed Going to write my "story" just to let it out of my system. If anyone got same kind of experiences I would be happy to hear. You can tell me what you think if you want (all comments are welcome). Are you ready to start reading? I met this girl on the Internet. She is from Thailand. She is 25 years old. We have been chatting with each other about 7 months now (at yahoo messenger). We both got webcams, so we know what the other person looks like. We chat allmost everyday and we have also sent some letters to each other. This all began at one dating site. I wasn't looking anything serious then just one day she sent me a message at the yahoo messenger. First time I saw her at webcam, I felt something. I didn't realize it then but now when I think it...it was something special. We just began talking all kinds of things and it just went deeper. Then we got about 5 weeks pause (without seeing each other) because she was moving. That time I noticed that I was thinking of her a lot. I made a couple of videos for her (with my digital camera) where I was telling her how I feel. Then she told me that she has been thinking of me too. I also remember that she used the word love much earlier than I. I have never said the words: I love you, to anyone (because never felt even close to this feeling). Then I sent my first letter to her (if I remember correctly it was October). It content was: 1 hand write letter, 1 picture of me and 1 half heart (I got the other half) the heart got text: I love you, then our initials). Also on October was my birthday and she did birthday card for me. When she got my letter she was so happy (I just love to see her smile and her eyes...something magic). Then came December she had a birthday, so I sent her letter. She also sent me one. Days went by we chatted and I realized how much I really care for her. Couple of times have been crying when listening some love songs because immediately my thoughts are in her. I get her mail at the end of December. She had been talking about sending her T-shirt to me with his "smell" (as she told me). When I got it, I was pretty surprised because it wasn't "smell" it was scent (and very good scent too). Then the year changed. I sent my T-shirt to her + letter. I also called to her for the very first time. She was so surprised and I was so nervous (as usual). I record our phone call and now that I have been listened it couple of times I like her voice. At first I was surprised because I thought she would have different kind of voice. Maybe it's because of accent but my English isn't so good (my spoken English is so terrible). So that is also one of the "fears" that I have. Because we both got different languages and sometimes we don't understand each other. Now we have been chatting almost 7 months. I know our feelings are real and so strong. Of course you don't know other person that well by meeting on the Internet. That leads to my biggest problem. I'm unemployed and got very little money (and living with my parents). So I can't travel (I don't even have to courage to travel but no money also). She has job but the pay isn't that high. She works hard and try to save money to travel here. In December she told me that if I could wait. Then I asked her what she meant. She talked something about 3 years and saving money. She also live on her own. I just feel myself so kid, not an adult at all. Still I know that this is something special because she is so sweet,funny,pretty and I can talk with her about...well everything. Sometimes I'm mad to myself to fall in love with her (and that she have fallen love with me) because I'm afraid that I can't offer her what she deserves. I have told her that also and she said that she doesn't care about my money or anything else like that. She just care about me. I believe her and I have also saw her emotions through webcam. This all just feel so wonderful even though our distance is long. No one can't predict the future but I try to live day by day. Maybe one day we will meet...Time will tell. If you read all that, thank you and have a nice day
Once upon a time there were two pandas. One from Europe (the Nordic to be little more accurate) and one from Asia (South East Asia to be little more accurate). The Nordic panda was different than all the other pandas in that area. He liked to be alone (he was shy and quiet). He liked to just eat and sleep. He wasn't happy even though he liked his boring lifestyle. Other pandas didn't mind him and he didn't mind or cared other pandas (expect his friends and family). In other side of the world the second panda was living her life. Lots of pandas around her and her life was so much different than the Nordic panda. These two pandas didn't know about each other and both lived their life on their own way. Then one day the wind was blowing differently. It bringed different kind of air. The wind was whispering. In that whisper the Nordic panda felt something. He decided that he should answer the wind calling. So he whispered and hope that someone would hear his voice. Other side of the world the second panda heard the wind calling. He decided to answer it. The wind was moving around the world... ...But somehow it found the Nordic panda. He felt something but couldn't believe it. He whispered back to the wind and hoped that the same kind of wind would come back. That same second panda heard it and whispered back to wind and hoped that it would deliver her message to someone who was out there. One of many choises the wind decided to come back to the Nordic panda. He was surprised and little bit of cautious but whispered back. The South East Asia panda get the message and so it started. The whispers turn into talk and day by day more sweeter. South East Asia panda was more into it but also quite busy. The Nordic panda began to like it and this was his first time. All around them the world was different but they felt something. The Nordic panda was more of an thinker and tried to take things easily. But even he wasn't able to resist the feeling what the other panda had awaken in him. It was something like never before. He didin't want to admit at first but then he realized it... It was love. As crazy as it sounds the panda was fallen in love for the very first time. Months passed and the feelings growed more and more stronger. The Nordic panda couldn't get the second panda out of his mind. He saw her in every different panda. Every day when he looked up to the sky and watched the clouds. When he was watching the clouds he formed image of the second panda from them. Every night when he looked up and watched the stars. He was watching the stars and formed the picture of the second panda. Somedays the wind took little bit longer to reach the other panda. But even with couple of days silence they still didn't forget each other. They couldn't see each other but they felt something very special... ...The Nordic panda thought the possibilities. He thought and thought all day long. He wanted to stay positive but the reality was little bit different. He told his feelings to the second panda. She didn't want to think about it. She just wanted to live on the moment and worry later. The Nordic panda was so different and thought all the things that could go wrong. He would wanted to live at the moment also but his brain thought the realist things. He tried to live day by day but the feeling was so strong. He wished every day that maybe someday he could see that second panda. But what if he would see the second panda. Would they feel the connection between them also in real or would it be just an imagination. The Nordic panda just got one thought... What if... Part 2 (Two roads) Road 1: Wind was still moving their messages. One day the Nordic panda just wanted to let go. Not because of his sake but because of her. So he told to the wind that he wanted to let go because he loved her so much and only way he knew that she would be happy. The other panda didn't want to believe it. Next time wind delivered the message to the Nordic panda he just ingnored it. Everyday second panda tried and tried but no answer. Days turned into weeks, weeks turned into months. Soon she forgot the Nordic panda. Her heart was broken but she found someone much better. They loved each other and raised a family together. But she didn't know that the Nordic panda couldn't forget her. He just thought her everyday and night. Slowly he began to die. He still couldn't get her out of his mind. He felt that his last moments were at hand. He took a deep breath, opened his eyes wide open. Then he watched straight ahead...what did he saw? He saw the love of his life front of him and thanked the feeling that she bringed. He close his eyes and let his breath out. He didn't felt any pain...just happines. So he went to eternal sleep...somewhere better place. Road 2: Months went by. Then the magic day comed. The other panda got transfer to the Nordic. After the Nordic panda heard this, he was so excited. It only took couple of days and then she was there. He was so nervous but also happy. When the day finally came and he saw her. It was something special. He didn't know what to say or what to do. But luckily the other panda did. Very first moment they saw each other they knew it. The Nordic panda saw that special look in her eyes for the very first time in real. He had some dreams about it but even the dreams weren't half the truth. Days passed and they felt more and more love towards each other. Time flew so fast. All what they were dreaming becomed in real. Soon they started family of their own. As the saying goes: They live happily ever after.
Hmmm Finland is far from Thailand lol. Well you can always save up some cash and get yourself a good prostitute from Russia to ease your stress +). Then maybe not I dont know if they are prevelant in Finland, you would know tho.
that sounds insane. i've had a similar experience - i was in an abusive relationship at age 15, and dealt with terrible things for 10 months. i met a guy much older than me at my sister's wedding - he was 18, i was about to turn 16. i was still with the abusive guy, but something about this new guy caught my eye. he lived 2 hours away in a different city, and was engaged, but we kept in touch on aim, just as friends. soon, we became so close, and began to fall in love - alot like your story - i was afraid to trust someone else after all i'd been through, but i felt so much for him, and i wanted out of the hell i was in... i was also nervous about all that he'd be giving up for me if he moved to my town... and i was afraid he wouldn't like having my parents interrupt our relationship. there was alot that would get in our way, and so many risks. my ex threatened me and obsessed when i broke up with him. it was scary, but we took a leap of faith, and it has been like a fairytale ever since then. we've been together for a year, and we just got married two months ago =] he has shown me what real love is, and i've learned to put him first in my life. you may be nervous that you're not enough for her, but it's not about being rich enough, or handsome enough, it's whether you're willing to try your hardest to give her the world that counts. do your best to give her the life she deserves. she'll see your love in your efforts. i know because i'm the girl in a similar story. good luck and God bless.
i think if you're very serious about being with this person, then you should work or get a job to save money to either see her or help her see you. is there a reason why you're not working? i guess you just have to think how important this is to you. if it's important enough, then you'll do your part to make this possible.
Kai - you are 20, never dated or even kissed before, are unemployed, have little money and live with your parents in Finland. She is half a world away in Thailand, and is 25. You have seen pictures, talked on the phone, and "smelled" each other's scent. Are you a student? What is her background? This sounds like a nice beginning of a relationship, but you have a long way to go before it can be consummated by marriage, if that is where you are heading. You don't have the money to visit her in Thailand to see if you are really compatible with each other. Your cultures and races are very different. I have been to Thailand a number of times, and the people there are very nice, but many of them are poor. I have made love to Thai women and they are very passionate, and they seem to like Caucasian men a lot (Thai men are often very small). This is your first romance, and you are in uncharted territory, so proceed carefully. Take it slow.
Heipsan, ma oon kanssa Suomesta joten vastaanpa sulle suomeks. Jos oot edes puoliks tosissaan sen tyttosen kanssa, niin miks et hommais duunia ja saastais rahaa ja sitten vaan hyppaat lentokoneeseen? Sullahan on hyvat mahikset pistaa vaikka koko palkka saastoon kun kerran asut viela vanhempies kanssa. Thaimaaseen saa jopa Suomesta suhteellisen halpoja lentoja. Etta rohkeesti vaan, eihan sulla oo mitaan menetettavaa. Sitpahan naat mita tapahtuu ja jos ei muuta ni ainaskii paaset lomalle aurinkoon!
Yikes! Great language! What else can I say? I'm impressed with your ability! Care to translate? I wanna impress a Thai girl or another...
That was written in Finnish so I dunno how many Thai girls you'd manage to impress with that.. But anyhoo, basically I was just saying that he should get a job and save the money for a plane ticket if he's even half serious with the chica, and even if it doesn't work out with her at least he gets to go to Thailand for a holiday.
the best thing you can do is be honest with her, and with yourself. If you know you dont have the money be open about it, most people are truly understanding only if you are willing to be honest. I wouldnt go all out and sound like im a lazy sloth living with my parents, but by letting her know, just what you told us would be the best possible thing to do, maybe you two can save money together and one can give their share to the other to make the trip possible..that is what couples do, they share with each other. If you cant find yourself being open and honest with her, your relationship is going to end very fast.
Are you sure this girl is for real? A lot of girls in poor countries like to IM guys get them to fall in love and sent them a couple of grand for airfare or immigration and then they never hear from them again. The way she sent you the message first that usually how it works they sit around for hours everyday and IM people until one responds and then they try to make them fall in love. I always get spam messages like that. Happens a lot…It is kind of like Nigerian mail order scams. Go look at http://www.romancescams.org Life is poor in these countries if they spend 4 hours every day chatting on the Internet and get a $2000 a year out of it that is a very good living. I hate to say it but it sounds like a scam to me bottom line it is going to cost you some money if you want any of that and you will most likely get ripped off. Why don’t you just find a girl close to home?