Not Sure If My GF Had An Orgasm

Was fooling around with my gf yesterday, this went on for quite a while. I was fingering her and all of a sudden she started moving A LOT, she couldn't keep her arms still, she was breathing really loud and deep, she pulled my hair a bit, and one time I'm positive I heard her say "fuck" in one of her breaths. She's not the type of girl to get loud either, so this was pretty new to me. This carried on for about 10 mins until she finally told me to stop, and she said afterward that it was just too intense. I was working her gspot and kissing her neck/chest the entire time.

What I'm wondering is, did she have an orgasm? Or did we get to her climax and she told me to stop, before she had the orgasm? I don't really understand how it works for women.

She also said it felt like she had to pee at times, but she just went before we started.

 

Maybe.
It can get quite sensitive for you down there after an orgasm, which might explain the "intense" thing.

Also, I congratulate you on finding her G-spot as her reactions indicate you definitely did. The feeling like you need to pee can happen if your G-spot is being stimulated very nicely. This is good. If she says this, keep doing what you're doing to her G-spot. She isn't actually going to pee but she might have a very earth-shattering orgasm and experience the very pleasant experience called 'female ejaculation' or if you prefer as it is referred to in our vernacular 'squirting'.

She may be self-conscious if this is the first time for her and she's never felt that before, she might not realize the connection between the "need to pee" feeling and her G-spot. She might really think she needs to pee and be therefore self-conscious. Just encourage her. Please perfect this technique, she and all future girlfriends will appreciate it.

Thinking about it she might have stopped before she had an orgasm because of that feeling, I remember the first time it happened to me. I wanted to stop because I was worried I might actually urinate -- thankfully I was tied up and couldn't really protest. The key is to ignore that feeling and keep going

 

You could always ask her

 

And here you come with common sense!

Pun intended.

 

Ya she realizes she doesn't actually have to pee, I think that's why she always goes before we start nowadays. Her exact words were "when it feels good it feels like I have to pee, but I don't actually have too". I just told her it's supposed to feel that way, so she didn't get worried.

Haha, I know, but I don't like being that guy...

"Did you have an orgasm?"
"Am I big enough?"
"Is everything ok?"

I don't worry much about whether or not she cums. She knows I'll do whatever it takes to make her happy, so if she's got a problem she can let me know.

 

One other thing to add to the original post. While she was going crazy when I was fingering her, her vagina contracted and squeezed my fingers about a half a dozen times.

I thought for sure that meant she had an orgasm but I could be wrong...

 

Sounds just like my orgasms, those pulsations/contractions during orgasm are the best. I'm usually more vocal and its pretty obvious though.

Try to make her squirt next time

 

asking doesnt make you "that guy", it means youre willing to communicate with your partner on a very important subject (sex and her pleasure)

 

Very true. Sexual organs don't come with operators manuals so you can only learn 2 ways. 1) Trial and error or 2) Be taught.

You've been doing 1 with some success and coming on this forum is kind of like 2 but really the expert at what pleases your GF is your GF. I'd think it was sweet if my boyfriend came to me like that and wanted me to teach him how to better please me... I'd give him a hands-on lesson right then.

 

Gently kiss her around the neck, "really gently" and watch her skin to see if she gets goose bumps ...

And then lick the outer part or her ears with your tongue ...

Rough sex is not very good, like ramming your finger in there vagina, I've never got a chick off like this.

If your using porn as a guide then your deluding yourself.

Use a lot of foreplay first, for example kissing very gently and passionately - ask yourself what is the goal ?

Your needs or hers ?

Do you find yourself racing to ejaculate ? This should not be your goal.

Do something totally different, just practice kissing her till her pussy is really wet, and leave it at that.

No penetration at all.

Tease her like that for a week !

Ok then maybe you can move on to the caressing of her body ...

 

lol, you are my dream girl! seriously though, i do remember the first time squirting being very scared i was about to pee on my girl's face. and then i was surprised as hell when it actually happened, and it wasn't urine at all... ahh, good times!

to the op, i very much agree that asking your woman is the best thing. it's not a matter of stroking your ego by saying am i good in bed, big enough, etc. if it's a genuine question of, "i want to know what signs you make when you're getting happy," your girl will totally appreciate it. sounds like you were doing the right thing and you got her going pretty good though! yay for you! but yeah... your girl can tell you more about what works for her than we can. rock on!

 

Ok, I got a new story now...

Tonight my gf was on her period, and she never lets me touch her vagina when she's on her period, until tonight. She left the tampon in so obviously I couldn't penetrate, so all I did for about a half hour was rub her clit and around it with the head of my penis while kissing her at the same time. Then I went down on her and only licked her clit, and after doing that for about 5 mins, I just rubbed it in circles with my index finger for about 10 mins. For these 10 mins, she was motionless, so I was thinking that it must not be too enjoyable for her, until all of a sudden her hips began to raise, then her legs squeezed my head, and she couldn't sit still. She told me to stop...so I did...and a couple minutes later I asked why, and she told me that her legs went numb, then she got light headed and couldn't see, and that has never happened before and it scared her.

Did she have a clit orgasm? Or did she make me stop before it happened?

I'll get it one of these days dammit!

 

It didn't scare her in a bad way though, she was laughing about it. She was even laughing when she told me to stop, so I asked if it was tickling her and she said no. I think the laughter was mostly from shock, as she's never felt anything like this before

 

Damn! You sound like a kickass lover!

 

Hmmm, well thats sounds good Swass, I think you did good.

You gotta make the kissing part so sexy and erotic for them, be really gentle and so very slow at kissing them - damn it get that pussy wet !!!

Just keep teasing them ... and teasing them ... and teasing them.

Kiss that neck so gentely watch their skin for the goose bumps, that means it feels nice for them.

Get those nipples hard and excited, keep kisssing them around that neck.

 

damn that sounds like some good loving... I think it's so important to take your time. everyone seems like they're in a rush these days, that it's all about the end result and not about the journey.

Can a man change his style as a lover after he's been conditioned to do it a certain way for many years? How do I get my man to slow down and tease, tease, tease...?

 

"You can get much further with a kind word and a gun than you can with a kind word alone." - Al Capone.

:jester: he he he

Seriously, well some people will never change, its whether he wants to change.

I guess I'm a softy, some people are born that way.