I rarely have any peace and quiet in my home. I don't think I ever really appreciated it much before. Now I am just looking for some Peace. Do you have a lot of alone time? Do you appreciate it or do you wish your life was a lil' more busy?
on tuesdays and thursday i wish i was busier. i only have 1 class on each of those days. so i'm in my room by myself for most of the day. its so boring. its nice to have some alone time, but its just to much alone time on those days. i get irratable.
yea, been wicked busy. keeping up with school work and then practice with the swim team, plus the corps of cadets...its almost like 3 jobs. i'm not complaining tho, i'm having fun and doing good in classes so far. gotten sick this past week, damn freshman. sickness spreads like wildfire up at school. i rarely have time to post...so yea, pretty busy.
im pretty busy during the day with classes, but by the time i come home i get a bit of alone time before my house gets annoying and loud. i know what its like to have TOO much time on my hands so im not complaining about my new schedule, its a pretty good balance i guess.
I love to spend my time alone. That's why sunday's are so special. But i have to go few kilometers from my house to be alone...
To Peanuts original question/post. I don't have much real-real time alone because my wife and I are always together - we work at the same place too. While at home though, I can do anything I want to yet, I'm very rarely completely alone - sometimes she'll go shopping alone but it's very rare. Sometimes it bugs me but it bugs me so little that I don't mind. We don't have kids. We used to have a nice dog - Frank. He passed away though in January of 2002 -well like 2 Januarys ago - I always get mixed up in dates... He was 14...
I don't like kids, my wife doesn't like kids. So, why do kids that we don't want? I think we're the greatest parents in the world for that. Some people do kids to have kids - yet, they don't know what to do afterwards.
I really respect you for that. As much as I love and adore my children this has been the most challenging job I have EVER had. Granted I felt a lot differently about children before I had them. Once I had them I found a love inside myself I never knew was possible. Having children isn't for everyone. I'd rather see more people who don't really want them not having them so the child doesn't suffer nor does the parent.
Hey Peanuts, you know it's amazing how many people don't realize what a work load you take on when you become someone's parent. I have found it to be exhausting at times. They bring so much joy it makes it worth it for me but I agree it's not for everyone and that's ok. I have a sister that decided not to have kids. At least she was smart enough to know she couldn't deal. At the same time I think how could anyone not love a child? Any child, anywhere. Oh well, just some thoughts on the subject. I have to have alone time or I will go crazy. That is when I process my thoughts, in quiet time.
I don't have any alone time. I always have someone with me, talking to me, needing me for something. Sometimes I really feel selfish for wanting some time for just me. I think everyone benefits when I do get some time away. I smile more. I am more appeciative towards my family. I know my time will come. Right now my boys are young. They need me like they need air sometimes. They love me and I know this. They appreciate me too which I am thankful for. Some children want nothing to do with their parents. Mine can't get enough of me. (this is good and bad at times)
I live alone, so I get to have alone time whenever I want (thank God!!!). But I have discovered that having a serious boyfriend takesk up a lot of time and I kind of miss all of my alone time. Not that I would go back or anything though.
I know how that is, when my boys were younger it was exactly like that. Don't feel selfish for needing alone time though. I really think it helps you be better at mothering when you've had a bit of a break. You seem like a great mother, your boys are lucky.
Thank you very much for your response. I am just as lucky as they are, if not more. They are very good boys. Granted I have had to work off almost every one of my last nerves but my efforts show on them. Funny we have an issue right now about crossing the street. My oldest son is only 5. He wants to cross the street without holding my hand. It gets crazy on my street walking across with two lil' boys. One wants to go that way and the other wants to go this way. Here is an email my husband wrote to my oldest son this morning. It tickles my heart. Hi Billy I'm working hard on all my problems. I wanted to remind you about your problem crossing the street. You have a choice. This morning in your bedroom you told me that you chose to hold mommy's hand when crossing the street. That is the correct choice. You're a smart guy. Don't forget what you're going to do when you get off the bus. Have fun at school and be good for your teacher. I love you Daddy Right now my oldest son wants independence. Sometimes it's really hard for me to let go. For now I will hold on for as long as I can.
I value my alone time, but like other people have said... having a significant other makes for less alone time. (not that i mind ) But I can't ignore the fact that I do need time to collect the fallout from all these crazy days. Some things need to be looked at and reconstructed and evaluated and implemented, etc... I need some private time to be alone with god (i'm god, you're god, we're all god). Peace and quiet simply to rest my ears on silence, and to rest my body in stillness. So when I can find the time for it, I enjoy every second
I agree. It used to be that all of my time was spent alone. I was a hermit for awhile. And back then I enjoyed that time and yet was lonely. Now I live with my great grandmother and I have a signifigant other and my alone time has dwindled down to a few hours a day. And those few hours are the time I really should be doing housework, but I need my alone time to just goof off too! But I wouldn't give up a second spent with my fiance. I guess its just difficult to find a good balance. I think things will balance out more once my fiance and I are living together. I mean, we're in that stage where we're high as a kite we're so in love and we spend every possible moment together. And when we're together we do things together. So, that ends up leaving little time to take care of responsibilities and for hobbies and such. I've been told by people who've been married a long time that eventually love changes and grows deeper, you're no longer in that high as a kite stage but you love the person very deeply. And they said it has to be that way otherwise you'd never get anything done! And I know what they mean! I really value this time with my fiance and I know we'll look back on this as the good old days. But at the same time I'm looking forward to settling into our lives together where we can find a balance between everything.
I do and don't have alot of alone time, this time of the year seems like there is always something coming up that needs to be done. like right now, i go to high school but only for two classes a day, then i go to night school for four hours two nights a week but then there is the half hour on the bus each way. and i work every weekend always the same hours, 8 hours on saturday and 5 1/2 hours on sunday and the bus ride there and back is an hour each way. so i do alot that way, but when i get home i don't do anything, internet, tv, art, hehe sometimes i do homework, as little as possible though. when i need alone time i kick mike out of the apartment and put on my music really really loud so i am not bombarded with the neighbors noises and i can sink into my own world.
