ok heres my situation: im in love with one of my good girl friends sister stacy. shes only a year younger then her sister who im friends with. all my friends talk to stacey and want to help me out. my friends told me that she might and she would hook up with me if she was drunk (what she said). i text her and talk to her online a lot. i guess you can say we possibly flirt (she says she misses me and wants to hang out) more than in person but thats because i live in a rural area and its hard to see my friends a lot. I went to the sisters house today. i was really high in the morning because i smoked with staceys sister and my friends. i walked in and found out stacey was home. i knew i had the perfect chance to be alone with her but i didnt have the confidence to go into her room earlier. ( i get like that when im high and only seem to have the couarage to approach women when im drunk) after i sobbered up she left for a while and came back. oh and before she left i saw her leaving and said hey and she said hey back and all my other friends who were there in the morning said she was blushing and she walked out of the room when they noticed. i saw her when she got back and it was really awkward because her sister and my friend (who is always flirting with staceys sister) were there. when she walked in we said hi and there was deff. a vibe or something between us through out the night. i cant describe it but something small was there. the whole night though it was my so called friend who was talking to her and not flirting with her but focusing on her more than i was. and it was weird because her sister was flirting with me and i felt more comforable with her because shes my close friend but i wanted to be with her sister who i liked instead. as i left she walked me out and started hugging me and i told her i really liked her sister (first time) and thats when she was like dont worry ill talk to her. during the night there were times i didnt seem to be myself. like the way i talked or responded to things. i think it was because i was thinking about what she would like to hear or what would make me sound cool or something to her. Heres the thing, i had no idea what to do or how to get alone with her. like what should i say or have done. should i have walked in her room and sat down with her and talked. what should i say about wanting to hook up with her. thats wat some of the tension was. im not good in these situations as you can see. what could i have done different and what can i do in the future. thanks for any help.
Well it sounds like the two of you should hang out and chat first. Just try and be yourself at all times. Trying to be different and cool will probably just confuse her. Don't force things man if shes around have a chat with her... but just keep it cool and relaxed.
ok just talk to her naturally and dont get nervous. theres not a whole lot of advice for overcoming low self confidence, just be your self dude and itll be all good.
Hold on a sec, the only way she would "hook up" (now does that term mean sex or dating..nevermind doesn't matter) was if she was drunk? Hmm, and this doesn't faze you in the least?
you and i were thinking the exact same thing god if shed only be into you if shes drunk she aint worth the effort her sis seems to like ya just hang out with her sis n have fun..if the other drunk chick gets drunk enouigh someday something might happen between yas but sounds pretty worthless to me you dont need confidence for this chick, u just need a bottle of vodka get some self confidence and find a girl who doesnt gotta be nearly passin out before shed let ya be near her
