Issues...

Alright so here's my deal. I've been with the same girl for almost 4yrs, it's been great we have a lot of fun together. There is one thing though, we havn't been able to get her to oragasm during sex. Now I know people say only 25% of women can or some statistic like this but its tough. I feel bad for her, i really want to give her that.

I can barley get her to orgasm at all, the primary way she can orgasm is through fantisizing by her self. After some work I am able to get her off if i rub her clit while she closes her eyes and fantasizes but that is the only way she has ever had an orgasm. To say the least it sort of frusterates me because when she goes off into another room to go masturbate by herself it feels like shes doing that instead of us having sex because i cant get her off.

It does take her a good 15min or so to get off by her self (or with my help). Now I may be over reacting because no guy has ever gotten her off before me but it still feels sort of like a blow to my ego. By the way, when we do have sex it is good and we get creative and we both have fun with it, but just no orgasm on her end. Anything input would be much apreciated. Thanks (sorry so long)

 

Only 25% of women can have an orgasm ? Wow maybe I had them all. Have you tried oral sex, gently spread her lips and lick around and suck on her clit, not to hard. that way she can still close her eyes and go off on a little head trip while you work on her. I hope it works for you it must be frusterating for you both. Good luck.

Peace

 

I agree with silverhippy....Oral may be the way to go....

 

tried that with my hubby and nothing works including oral or even toys never mind him i just can thave them at all so it seem/feels like. i dont have any sensations at all goin g on, zilch nada!

 

Do you get off when you masturbate yourself ? If so maybe you could try doing it together and if that works try oral again, work your way up slowly. Did you ever get off with another guy ? Don't give up.

Peace

 

i dont masterbate i have tried a few times but its totally boring rubbing for the sake of it,

 

ive never been with any other guy either just my husband for the last 27 years

 

Did you get off when you were a teenager by masturbating, if so try getting high and doing it, it could be some kind of inhibition.

Peace

 

nope i didnt ever masterbate then. and i dont do drugs

 

Sorry about the get high remark, do you get sexually aroused at all from anything, if not I don't know, I never ran into a woman that did not get off from some kind of sex. My advice stinks. Maybe this is out of my league I am a guy and it's like, oh goody sex. Maybe some of the Girls on here should give you some advice. Keep trying.

Peace

 

whats aroused then idont really know what that is

 

Did you ever try any toys ?

Peace

 

Let me try, It's like when you are making out and you're really into it and you're pussy starts to get wet and you're clit may start to swell up a bit. Just thinking about sex gets some people aroused.

Peace

 

ok as far as i know then none of that happens not that i can tell anyway, i have to rely on him telling me if im wet or not as i dont feel anything happening down there

as for my clit that never changes at all

yes we have tried toys but they just buzz a bit, and if i cover my ears then i cant tell if they are on or not!!!

 

How about you're nipples they should get hard, you would know if that happens. Do you drink at all, if so a little wine or something may loosen you up maybe watch some porn together and have him play with you while you watch.

Peace

 

weve done and tried all that ok they get hard but they do that when cold and during sex if they do then its because im cold!!!! they have no other sensation from them at all, yes i drink but that makes no difference, dirnking dont make and sensations suddenly appear, porn just bores me, makes me feel useless, and as for him playing with me while watching then thats out as we dont do that together at all, and your implying that i have to ask him to play with me then? i cant do that at all about anything connect with sex i dont ever ask him to do anything at all he decides what and when he does that

 

No I am not implying that you ask him to do anything ( it did sound that way, I did say have him play with you). As for drinking wine it may help relax and get you in the mood. Dress sexy have a couple drinks cuddle up and maybe try the porn. He should respond to you. If he does the deciding all the time you may not be ready, so maybe take things in you're hands, maybe try going down on him he will respond and do the same to you. If he is the only guy you have been with try to spice things up a bit maybe you are in a rut and need something kinky to break things up.

Peace

 

sent u a pm if thats ok

 

It's fine I think I sent you one back, if I did it right.

Peace

 

I think what i hear was that not many can orgasm from sex alone. She does masturbate...frequently. But sometimes i think she chooses masturbation over sex, which sort of hurts our sex life. I just want to make her feel good, we've tried oral before but it never seemed to work out. I will have to try this again though.