When it comes to sexual things, I'm definitely a giver. I'm a very empathetic person, so knowing I'm causing a loved one great pleasure makes me feel great. I do things for my partner without being asked. Of course, like any other normal person, I love receiving as well, but it's not as important as giving. In my last relationship (and several hookups I've had) the guy seemed to always worship my body. He would never ask me for a blowjob, and he wouldn't hesitate to go down on me. My current and boyfriend and I love each other very much, but lately I've realized that he's not really much of a giver. He's very submissive. He asks me for head, and just likes to lay back and enjoy it. We're usually short on time/in a weird sitution, so I hardly ever get anything in return. Granted, it takes me long to cum, but still. It's been bothering me, so I asked him why and he said I never ask. I also told him to stop asking me for head, because if I'm in the mood to do it, I'll do it without being asked. Well, if you love someone, shouldn't you want to please them out of your own desire, without being asked? That's how I feel about him, anyway. This is also part of why I haven't (and don't want to) have sex with him yet. He assured me that he likes going down on me, but why doesn't he? Ugh. I've never been with anyone like him before.
It seems like this is a communication issue. He tells you what he wants and expects you to do the same. You don't need him to tell you what he wants and you expect him to know what you want w/o you asking. If you have differences in communication, address these issues. This situation really isn't about sex but how the two of you communicate. Peace and love
Sounds like your concerns are not part of his consciousness. I suggest taking his concerns of of your own consciousness and see if you still have a relationship. If your description is accurate it is an anomaly for you to find a self centered partner which is the opposite for everyone else.Maybe your own motivation to give fellatio is to create the feeling of responsibility for your partner to give it back.You love a guy that the only sex you have with him is when he asks you for a BJ or if it is self motivated by yourself? I'm totally confused.Are you short in time because he is committed to another female? Maybe you are subsidizing the relationship he has with his wife? What a guy is willing to give you is what you are worth to him.Only your blood relatives are worth the effort to rehabilitate for a relationship.Move on. I wish you the best of wishes in your next relationship.
When it comes to oral sex I am a giver. Usually, since I am a very persistant giver, I get my payback quite often. When I give though, I do not hesitate to ask. I unzip, and dive right in. If you are constantly having to ask, it sound like he isn't much of a giver. On the other hand, I like to be asked too. I just enjoy hearing the terms "Can I suck your dick" it might just be a man thing though. Because, I have yet to meet a female that likes me to ask or tell her "Can I lick that drenched pussy" regularly.
oh im a giver all right. i enjoy attacking my girlfriends with kissing or other sexual things until they say control yourself! of course this is in private. still i love giving, if not ill stop. hehe
Narco, your boyfriend needs to snap out of it. Especially because you in particular are really cool and amazingly pretty and could probably get with anyone you want. I'm a giver (duh). It turns me on to give, so foreplay is pretty focused on him.
He sounds like a taker, he is more into his own pleasure than yours, once you get him off he is no longer interested, which also makes him lazy and crazy not to want to return the pleasure to you, pleasing a woman to orgasm is the best part of sex especially if you do it oraly. Peace
No no there's no other woman. We're both in high school with extremely demanding schedules. We've both been so busy that even though we're together all the time, the only alone time we get is when he drives me home. I'm sure once all of this passes, it'll be much better. We literally have not gone past kissing in 3 weeks. Damn AP classes. It does bother me, though. When there's time, I guess I'll assess how he treats my body. Now that I think of it, though, it's not that big of a difference. He's gone down on me maybe 3 times, and I've done it to him 5 or 6 times.
