So.. I have a question that i need opinions on.. My best friend is a guy and originally we sort of dated and we have had sex before.. But not in a long time.. And now we talk about everything, including sex with other people.. But i know he still likes me like that, although i dont feel the same way. And I know he would jump at the chance to date me again.. But he knows that isnt going to happen and talks to me about his "prospects". Anyway, the moral question is.. He has a friend that i would like to hump.. But not date.. Would it be wrong of me to do it? Just wondering.. I more than likely wont.. But i was just wondering how guys would feel about that..
of course that would be wrong. your breaking a friend ship unless they can care less which imo is wrong. Thats like saying he can go sleep with your best friend withut you knowing . Wrong
well it isnt his best friend.. and i am not completely sure he would care that it is his friend.. Obviously he doesnt like the idea of me sleeping with anyone at all [other than him].. And if i had a friend that he would want to get with them I would say go for it.. But i feel differently about him then he does about me..
You must ask yourself the question if this was done to you, how would you feel? And when you're done, please send me some pecans. x
Because the last time I was through there I bought a big grocery bag full on the roadside. They were about the finest I've ever tasted. And that was 30 years ago. x
If I were in love (or lust) with a friend of mine and he wanted to sleep with one of my friends I would be hurt. Then again I would not be friends with someone I was in love (or lust) with unless I saw a definite future in it. I couldn't stand hearing about his escapades or watching him fall in love with someone else. It would be better to "hump" outside of his circle of friends. JMO As for morals.....depends entirely on yours.
I think you should do it. It'll upset him...but it seems like you're leading him on a little. He's made it pretty clear that he doesn't want to be just friends, and you've made it clear that you don't want to be more than friends...Without a sincere agreement on the nature of your relationship, how can there really be one? As it is, you have no reason to factor in his feelings when making a decision about your sex life. You don't owe him that, and a friend would never ask you to do that. It's time to let him go altogether and get on with your life. Doing this would be a wake-up call, an end and a new beginning for both of you.
I'd say ask him about it. Tell him you are fond of his friend. Make sure he knows that you care about his opinion. If he feels uncomfortable about it. Than don't do it.
I am with Standingseated. You don't feel the same way about him as he of you, even with him being your best friend and all. You don't have an obligation to not hump his friend just because he likes you. Hope that made since. Just make sure your best friend knows where you stand on "you and him", so he isn't confused if you go through with it. One last thing tho, just think how you would feel in his situation,knowing what you know and just reversing it. Now is it possible that this deed (if your friend finds out) could end your friendship? Then again this shouldn't threaten your friendship because you aren't being deceiving to him and he shouldn't be able to threaten your friendship because you want to see other people. I guess it's just something to think about. My 2 cents!
Thanks.. I dont know that I am ready to lose him completely.. And with the loss of him goes all the friends I hang out with bc they are all mutual friends that he introduced me to.. Idk.. I think I may just leave his friend alone.. It would be easier that way..
