Can anyone give me some help with this? I have only done it a few times, and just wondered how i can improve my technique so it is better for the girl. Please reply
She has never tried masturbating herself so she cant show me really. What i can say is she doesnt really like it when i penetrate her with my finger, she says it hurts. Understandable since she is a virgin and doesnt use tampons so most likely is still intact. She is really tight as well, i cant even get two fingers in. Is this because she cant relax very well? Also she says it tickles when i rub her clit. I havnt got her to orgasm yet, she gets very wet down there though. I thought the clit was the best place to stimulate? She likes it when i rub the area between the hole and the clit, if i do it anywhere else she doesnt like it. Help please?
best way to do it, start making out, kiss her neck, her earlobe. caress her breasts. start heading towards her pussy, make it slow but not too slow. play with the band of her jeans, skirt, undies whatever. just touch lightly. do this while kissing her. she will go wild. then undo her pants, slip your hand down her undies and gently pry apart her lips and start rubbing her clit. feel your way down and massage her hole. stick a finger in gently and just move in a clockwise motion. if you feel she is wet and spreads her legs for you, push your finger in deeper. alternating from a clockwise/counter clockwise motion to an in and out thursting is awesome. if you are not going to give her oral, just keep up with this. when she is tired of it she will either cum or fake it. who knows for oral, start the same way. get down ther and gently seperate her and rub her clit with your finger. begin opening her up with your finger. go slowly. it hurts to be jammed with something, especially if yuo arent wet lol start licking her clit, you can do this a number of ways. suck gently, roll your tongue, flick it, be creative. penetrate her slowly and first with one finger. thrust in and out and do the circle thing as well. every woman likes something different. try stuff. maybe she likes you licking her hole (i know i hate it!) a good rule of thumb is to have your mouth on her clit and your fi9ngers in her. eventually bring it up to two fingers, maybe three. gl
Thanks for the reply. I havnt licked pussy yet so i want to perfect my fingering technique first before starting that. She is always wet because we make out a lot when we are together. I read that it can be really painful to touch the clit itself, and its best to stimulate it by rubbing near it but not itself if that makes sense. I can get her to moan and breathe heavily just by rubbing in between the clit and hole. I want her to orgasm though. She never has before, a lot of what we have done have been her first time. Like, her first blowjob was with me, her first handjob she did with me. And the first time she has been fingered was by me. Maybe she is still getting used to it all as well. Its frustrating not knowing how it feels for her as well. She doesnt like me to push my finger inside her because she is a virgin so it hurts her. And rubbing her clit "tickles" so i dont really know what to do lol
Fingering is an art. There are a few things you can do to make it right. 1. If she has a hood (flesh covering her clit), then you can touch it directly without worrying too much about sensitivity (until after she cums) 2. If she doesn't have a hood, be very, very, gentle. Touching all around it will provide a lot of stimulation in itself. 3. Pay attention to her breathing and body language. If she begins to get turned on, her clit will engorge with blood and you'll be able to feel the difference. 4. Use what works. Stroke up and down slowly sometimes, stroke in little circles sometimes, and stroke side to side sometimes. When you find a technique that works, stay with it a lot and come back to it often. 5. Concentrate on her pleasure, not yours. If you get pleasure at the same time, thats a bonus, and is how it should work, but if she's not pleasing you right then, go with pleasuring her. 6. Once she cums, her clit will be very, very sensitive, and you may not be able to touch it again for a while. Just hold her and rub her elsewhere. 7. Signs she is nearing orgasm: her clit may swell, she may get wet, she may begin breathing heavy, perhaps moaning, her nipples may become erect, she may point her toes, she may spread her legs, she may lift her hips to meet your touches. 8. So far this has all be for clitoral fingering. If she wants you to go internal, then slide one or two fingers in her, palm side up, after she is well lubricated. If necessary, lube up your fingers with kx or some other water based lube. Once inside, you can slide them in and out some, but the best way I've found to do it is to move your fingers like you are saying "come here" right over her g spot. Its a bit spongy feeling. If she's having problems with a clitoral orgasm, the g spot o can be the ticket. Again, go slow, and you'll know if you're doing the right things. If she's a virgin, just one finger, but be very careful not to hurt her. There are ways to stretch her hymen so it won't break, but that's for advanced classes.
I get my share. But that's up to her. I concentrate on her pleasure, and if I do it right, I'll get mine, too. I always consider her before me...thats how I believe it should be.
