Almost no faith left in humanity, conflicting interests, being a shut-in.

How do you go out, and live life, when you are very much scared, and angry at human beings as a species?

I've hardly gone out in YEARS because my fear of other humans, I'm not joking, I avoid the things I love, (being outside, walking in stormy/rainy weather, going out at night, SOCIALIZING AT ALL have any form of friends in real life), because I am so deeply afraid of humans.

I hate staying inside all day, and night, I sometimes want to take long walks at night, both for physical, and mental health reasons, but I can't push myself to do it, because a deep fear of humans. I want a very long hood, and huge sun glasses to hide my eyes, just so other people can't look at me.

I can't even pay for something at the store, because asking the clerk for anything, let alone starting a conversation makes my heart race with anxiety.

I wish I had friends, I am a very hyper person, and WISH I could use that off the wall level of energy I have, to also make myself more healthy physically, ideally by going out, and walking more but... PEOPLE HUMAN BEINGS ARE OUTSIDE, they scare me. The older I get, the more unique, and of an individual I become, I'm scared others will notice, and hurt me for not being a drone.

How does a person, who has a chronic fear of other human beings, yet a love of going outside, manage to have SOME AMOUNT of friends, even buy food from the store, and get physical excersize from going out?

I've seen the brutal things humans do to each other, over the most ridiculous reasons, I've seen an extreme amount of ignorance, everywhere. If more people didn't seem so dangerous, and ignorant I wouldn't be like this.

For those of you who lost your faith in humanity, how do you have any friends at all, how do you get physical excersize taking walks, when you do want to go outside, but don't want to cause your scared of people?

I suffer from chronic loneliness (Yeah EVERY form of it there is), as well as feeling trapped from the outside world I wish to see so badly, because my fear of humans. Is anyone else like this? How do you live with this, and not end up completely alone, basically living the rest of your life in a house, trying to escape from reality?

 

Hey

remember for all the negativity you might encounter outside, you will experience the positivity too.

might sound a bit cliche but try changing your outlook a bit, take things one step at a time.

 

I wish it had a total 'net' value to it at the least.

While it's true not everyone running around is a lightsaberless, superpowerless "Sithlord", a single look at world history, politics, and the human condition as a whole, reveals a lot of pretty depressing, scary stuff.

Every brutal event in human history, and even to this very day... Look at the reasoning behind it. Also try and observe how often someone will make a blanket assumption about someone else, and act intensely off of it, without even having much proof.

Assaults, theft, bigory, murder, and blah blah blah hard to see so much of it, and not feel scared going out. And looking someone in the eye, and talking to them, with the possibility they are one of those people, kinda takes the serene feeling out of a relaxing walk for instance.

As an isolated random example: "OMG this guy lieks the color red he must like violence!". Peoples assumptions about things they don't know can be very headache inducing.

Maybe it's related to a lot of bullying in the past, and just having a confusing personality, most people irritatingly misread.

Thing is there are people of ALL sorts, who realize all these things, and are also very disappointed with the human species, yet they still have friends, a job, forms of entertainment which don't require escaping reality, and such. If someones fear, and disappointment is extreme enough, how do they live with it, without becoming a hermit, especially if they don't have the type of personality, to bear being so alone?

 

hello... but excuse me.....you dont mention your sex, and that right there tells me your in a disociative state......im a male.....what are you?...and we'll start from there and develope a human contact.....regaining your personality or letting go of one that is making you dissociate is a start...

 

the best way to overcome your fear is to expose yourself to that fear. eventually you will learn how to deal with it.

 

Nair,
I totally know where you're at.I am that hermit!,intimidated of the worlds sickness the violence,hate etc.all the really negative side of the world.Even on a individgual basis the ignorance,bigotry,all the drones wreking havok,assumptions,selfishness,greed,lack of integrity,lies,conspiracies,oh I can go on!I'm in pretty bad shape at this piont.I used to be 100% different lol,I was one of those negative people walking around out there.I've seen too much needless human suffering in the world espicially in my own life and in others I've known,eventually something cracked.My entire life has changed.It may totally suck but I start where I am trying to find happiness in my small world the way things are now.I really have no advice beyond that.I have the anxiety just buying a cup of coffee,a sandwhich,just having to talk to anyone I don't know on the seldom occassion of going out for groceries or something.The people I know are few.My family all live far away.The few people in my life are like life preservers.I read,play a little guitar etc..I don't see a way to solve any of it.I try to be content with the smallest things and live a very simple life.I laugh when I can and try to think positive as much as I can.Hang In There,..Best of Luck,.
"I used to count in millions,now I only count in ones"
Try to keep it simple
.. J*

 

y'all dwelling on the negativity

 

Hey Nair,

I feel for you man, I have a lot of the same problems that you do. For a long time I have feared other human beings like you have, I have trouble getting close to people, and trouble really being myself in front of others. I even dropped out of high school due to this and some other reasons. I will agree with you there are some really ugly people in this world I've seen many and I'm sure you have too. People have committed some terrible acts; one need only look at history to realize this. What you always have to remember is that there are some very beautiful people in this world. Try not to focus on the bad and negative, but the positive. For every terrible person out there there is a ton of good people, I have met many myself. You don't even have to know good humans to realize this. Like before look at history and you can find some great people doing great things, such as Gandhi. Gandhi stood up to so much adversity, yet had to the courage to fight for good. He even stood up to an Empire! This is how I gain strength to confront the world and live in it. Whenever you doubt yourself remember some fellow human beings who stood up to amazing adversity. You always need to focus on the positive. Try to also have compassion for your fellow man, I have learned that a lot of the times people act mean out of insecurity and there is always some reason someone is bad. No one is a bad person from birth, look in a babies face and you will realize this. Human beings have so much potential to be good, if only we could lose the ego. Try to learn why a person is saying what their saying and for what reasons and forgive them for this. Well enough ranting, my advice to you, my friend, is to try to find some beautiful people. Go outside, with courage, and find people who are kind and good human beings, there out there, you just need to find them. If you can't for some reason, read books about good things human beings have done. I also suggest you to read a book that has helped me a lot in my life, and taught me a lot, it is The Once and Future King by: T.H. White. It’s a book about King Arthur, but it teaches such a good message. I have also found that eastern philosophy has helped me a lot with my problems. If you don't already meditate, I would suggest you do so. The meditation helped me a lot with dealing with my anxiety issues. If you ever need someone to talk to, Nair, pm me. You ARE a good human being, hold on for the sake of that and always remember that. Just for realizing all the injustice in this world and realizing something’s wrong, you are already on the right path. Just have the courage to walk that path, and trust me you’re going to need a lot of it. You can't lose your hope in humanity, because once you lose that you lose hope in yourself. For no matter how much you hate human beings you will always be one. Surround yourself with the positive, my friend.

 

Don't feel too alone. Agoraphobia is relatively common. Contact a psychologist - it really will help in the long run.

 

There is no reason to have faith in humanity. There are a very select few people I feel are worthy of my time.

 

I think the message we often get from society is,if were not completely social then we must be doing something wrong.I think it's better to have a few good people in our lives in comparision to 1000 people we can't get along with, don't like and will let us down.I agree with CrazybutLazy,I feel the majority of people are not worth my time and effort,and don't have the qualities I'd be looking for in friends,relationships etc..With this relazation I feel more like the black sheep I am and I guess choose to be.This can be intimidating and lonely at times but I spend time with the people of whom we can count on each other and I feel are worth it who feel like I'm worth it also.I have those people in my life without them I'd be lost.It's still can be tough with the social conditioning to feel like I should be or have more.The world is intimadating since most of the time I want just to do my own thing without any type of social pressure.Either to conform to be someone I'm not or try to be.Of course it's intimadating also because of violence,war,ignorance,world hunger and so on in the world.I have not lost my faith in humanity altogether and look to better alternatives for my faith ie Native American culture,Eastern philosophy,Self help and so on.Although one may feel down (and I do) about the world and it's people,the responsibility to find your own way that works is on the individgual.Saying the world sucks then doing nothing about it is just a waste and a cop out.Making a positive difference in somebodys life is doing something about it,not everyone's gonna end up winning the nobel peace prize or something lol.I try to keep it simple.I still wanna save the world lol,and this can be a problem!lmao.I'm glad this thread was started it got me to think more about this.
J..

 

You're probably overvaluing your time.

 

Wow, you're pretty funny.

Nothing is more valuable than time, for it's time that allows for you to do anything you've ever done, anything you're doing, and anything you ever will do.

 

when around others, their ideas will permeate your mind and body.
therefore, always caution who you spend extended time with.

exceptions include work, family, etc. etc.

and even then,
everybody needs their space.

Try, wearing caps and sunglasses most people will only notice a nervous appearance(if you have one) very slightly.

Also, I find this step helps TREMENDOUSLY with anxiety::::

When you are walking outside, always, Always have a destination in mind. This will occupy excess thought energy that normally you use to think anxious thought.
So, i would wear sunglasses, caps(or hoodies). and always have a destination in mind.(even if u want to meander, you Will have Less anxiety if you have a destination in mind---If you fear strangers, that is. This way, if a stranger does look at you.... she or he will see that you are headed someplace and probably won't bother to think much else.
If you are walking, on the other hand, with a nervous demeanor looking around to see if people are thinking about you , etc... then They will think about you.
It;s like a law of life you are attracting the energy you fear.
Therefore to help counteract , If you do go outside -- my advice is to have a destination
Always have a desination. Also, if u dont want people to see your face clearly just cover it with caps hoodies and glasses.

(btw, even your parents and close friends are strangers. You are a stranger even to yourself, let alone others.)

 

i started hating feeling empty inside

and made a point to always fill it with something... even if thats awkwardness, unknowing, whatever.... I just hate feeling only my skin