alright... first off sorry if this is the wrong room... I really didn't know if it should go in here or where..... Alright, so I have been chatting with a friend online and he’s 28 and in love and engaged with an amazing woman. He has recently asked me to make a post for him because he has become a bit confused over the last 3 years. He says he is confused because of a few things…. He becomes sexually aroused by a penis….. he enjoys anal stimulation with dildo/fingers….. he likes the taste of his own cum. So, he’s confused because he is starting to wonder if he could be bi –but at the same time he can’t see ever dating a guy, yet at the same time will think if a guy is cute and then wonder how big he might be- If there is any response I can get to pass along to him that would be appreciated because all I can tell him is that it is an option that he could be bi… or he is just a freak lol --because he does like the female body— Also if he is bi, he is trying to figure out a way to tell his fiancé this…? From what he has told me she has fingered him in the ass before, and has tried to get him to suck on a dildo and has tried to insert it into him.
First off, your friend needs to hang onto that fiancee of his at all cost. If she's fingering him in the ass, and TRYING to get him to suck on a dildo, then I'll bet you a six-pack she's already been fantasizing about your friend taking a ride on the real thing. And, if he's over there being aroused by all the things he says he's aroused by, then he and she are a match made in heaven. The value of him having a partner who shares his kink is something that can't be overstated. Next time the fiancee comes at him with that dildo, he needs to open up and say "Aah", because it's already something they both want. Let it become part of their sex life, complete with all the dirty talk about what's turning them on, and see where it goes from there. Speaking from personal experience, it may turn out that the gender-bending role playing is all they need, without having to turn it into a reality. But if, once they've talked about it - sober, clothed, and with the lights on - they both really and truly want to go out and bring in another guy, then they should go for it. Just tell your friend to make sure that all of his fiancee's other needs are being met, as well, to keep the positive of this shared kink from becoming a negative.
at the age of 28 he should probably know for sure. maybe he is just in denial? however he could simply be - inclined towards sexual experimentation and currently enjoying the idea of gay physical interaction. -going through some sort of phase. -responding strangely to the idea of marriage. considering the fact that this has only been something that he has recognised in the past three years alone any of the above possibilities are quite credible.
I don't think that that statement leaves much to guesswork. Your friend is sexually attracted to at least some men, and he's probably jerking off to them at least some of the time when he's alone. He's not into dudes enough to do more than get his rocks off (either in his fantasies, or in reality at some point in the future), but the impulse is there, and it's not going to go away. That's what he's got to recognize, and get comfortable with. All the studies have shown that what gets you off is what gets off, right up until it doesn't. Where this guy is lucky is that he's about to marry a woman whose kinks are right in line with his, and if they go about it the right way, they can explore it together and bond over it. All that really remains to be determined is what the boundaries are.
