Well im not realy sure where to start. Sorry if I ramble on. Im 22 and gay only ever told 1 person who I no longer talk to, I knew my feelings were diffrent during my last year or so at school. Ive been wanting to come out to my family and close frends for a long while but every thime I come close to it I chicken out. Last night while out with my friends something strange happend, one of my friends who ive know about 3 years came out and everyone was alright about it. I think I was the most supprised of everyone there. But a strange thing happend when talking about it another friend said good on ya for coming out then said my name by accident before changing it to the right name. Also another of my friends said to me later if you ever need to chat call me. So I think they have at least gussed im gay. Im sure they would be supportive of me as they have been to our friend. I would love to be open an honest with them and tell them the truith but first I want to tell my mum and dad but I just cant bring muself to do it. My mum keeps saying thing like on I would love grandkids in a few years, I said its not happining to which she replyd your not queer are u. I dont know which way to turn as I would feel like I had let my famil down if I didnt tell them first but I dont want to upset my mum. But then again I suppose she will have to find out some time and till im out theres no way I can start any kind of relationship. Not realy sure where to start but I feel better getting that off my chest.
I don't see a problem with telling your friends (who you are sure will be fine with it) before your parents (whose reaction you are less sure about).
If your friends seem cool about it, then tell them first. Wait till you have a good support group to back you up before you tell your parents.
I told the friend that said call me yesterday, not quite how I wanted but was over MSN made it a little easyer. She was realy cool about it, infact said she thaught I would have come out ages ago she had already figgerd it out. Im going to tell my parents after we have been away for easter I think, still realy nervous about it but at least I got someone who I can talk it through with first now. Thanks for helping me get the currage to tell her, its like a weights been lifted off me telling someone
I'm glad to hear that it went well. Keep us updated when you come out to your parents. I hope for the best.
It's good to have support from friends before you take the big leap of telling your parents,I mean if it don't go well with your parents you have someone to talk to about it with.Another thing,why the rush to tell your parents?You could wait until your more comfortable with it.Sometimes time can help.Anyway,Best of Luck to you.
The Reason I want to tell my parents is I dont whant them to find out from anyone else, Ive always been quite close to them my mum exspecaly. I kinda feel I owe it to them to tell them before all my firends. But im hoping to tell my very close frends this week we shall see. Just telling one person if a weight off my mind
