hey, so my bf and i have started exploring anal a bit. i purchased a small toy a little whiel ago and we used it for the first time today (with a condom and some silicon lube to boot). it felt great when he was pushing it in, but felt less than stellar on teh withdrawal (so it could be thrust in again). how do i lessen than unpleasantness?
Why use a condom on a brand new toy? Besides the fact they go on a dick, if its a small toy... the rubber could be gettin in a bind perhaps. I suggest tellin him real directly what feels good when hes doin it. Dont put the whole thing on him to bring up doin anal and then just let him figure out what he needs to do without your input. Also, dont be scared of the dick. Dudes goin to do everything he can to make it a good time. You will feel much more loved up than usin the toy.
condom because... 1)im a hygiene freak 2) its got an almost tacky texture which is not conducive to sliding in nicely 3) it has a suction cup on the bakc so we may want to pop it onto the wall to, erm, fill my mouth while hes doing me from behind sometime and 4) condoms are free on campus for us i did tell him afterward that it felt great when he was pushing it in, just not when it was coming out. were starting out small with the toy because, well, hes not exactly small and i wanna make sure im decently comfortable with it first
MORE LUBE. no joke. too much lube is almost enough. pull it out SLOWER and apply the lube as you're pulling it out. remember not to clench. it's easy to forget to not clench once it's in. just take your time. it takes practice, and once you get it right, it's awesome.
yeah, just a little. take your time, go slow, it'll take a couple times for some people before they really get their thing just right.
I will agree with going slow, especially when you first start. Concentrate on relaxing and inhaling slowly when he is pulling it out. It's important to be turned on when doing anal. Rub your clit while he's playing with your butt.
