I am a 16 year old girl in California. I think that gays and lesbians are probably the most misunderstood people in the world. I don't know whay, i think that every one should be excepted for who they chose to be, but nooo society is too "cool" for that. If you ever just want to chat, i am here. Plus, i would love to have a gay friend to go to. Gays always understand me the best for some reason. XOXO BluBird PS...i am looking for a really hot guy to go out with, so if you know of any who live near me...you know what to do
hey there, i'm sure you have good intentions in wanting to socialise with gays and make some new friends... however be sure that you don't turn into one of those status seeking slut whores who exploits and uses their gay friends in order to look cool and insure that they have a shoulder to cry on, because i promise you, as a masculine bisexual, we don't all conform to that "fairy"/camp/vulnerable stereotype and i personally HATE it when young ditzy girls try to socially take advantage of me and hit on me in drunken fits of desperation and try to talk to me about guys. sorry if this all sounds a little aggressive but i'm sick of seeing gays fucked about by young girls. what i'm trying to say is treat them as friends and not as "gay" friends (which girls just love to do) and don't consciously try to befriend them just because they're gay if you don't actually like them or having nothing in common with them at all. and don't just use them by keeping them on standby until you need the innocent comfort/reassurance which only a gay guy can provide. good luck!
hey there, i'm sure you have good intentions in wanting to socialise with gays and make some new friends... however be sure that you don't turn into one of those status seeking slut whores who exploits and uses their gay friends in order to look cool and insure that they have a shoulder to cry on, because i promise you, as a masculine bisexual, we don't all conform to that "fairy"/camp/vulnerable stereotype and i personally HATE it when young ditzy girls try to socially take advantage of me and hit on me in drunken fits of desperation and try to talk to me about guys. sorry if this all sounds a little aggressive but i'm sick of seeing gays fucked about by young girls. what i'm trying to say is treat them as friends and not as "gay" friends (which girls just love to do) and don't consciously try to befriend them just because they're gay if you don't actually like them or having nothing in common with them at all. and don't just use them by keeping them on standby until you need the innocent comfort/reassurance which only a gay guy can provide. good luck!
Just thought you should know, i already have friends who are gay, and they don't mind being called gay friends. Plus, when i need a shoulder to cry on i go to my friends who are girls because they can more relate to me personally. Also i don't appreciate being called ditzy, and honsetly your little rant, makes me feel like you are not comfortable about being gay, so if i am wrong then pipe down. You have no right to tll other people if they are doing something wrong or not by the friends they like to have. I also have had more guy friends in my life than girls, and most of them were striaght and completely comforting, so...i am not sure what you are concerned about, but i think you are more stereotyping me as a shallow bitch, well excuse me for wanting more friends.
If you ever need someone to talk to or just want to chat, I'm here for you. My msn is tad_dude69@hotmail.com
I'm sorry about coming across as offensive, and as personal as it sounded I wasn't trying to attack you. And I don't believe in stereotypes which I think I alluded to in my last post in this thread. It's very true that I am not comfortable about being gay* partly because people are selfish enough to think that it concerns them. As for my caution on yourself becoming one-of-the-many-girls-I-have-experienced-in-my-lifetime type you did say things like, " i would love to have a gay friend to go to. Gays always understand me the best for some reason" but then in your next post you said that you "already [had] gay friends" and that you "go to [your] friends who are girls because they can more relate to [yourself] personally". so evidently you have contradicted yourself twice and by concluding your introductory post with possibly the most "shallow" epitome of the heterosexual teenage girl idea "i am looking for a really hot guy to go out with, so if you know of any who live near me...you know what to do" you may understand why i am to a certain extent confused. and also, you're "not gay", so who are you to talk about society's prejudices and shallow judgment, the social constraints of being an out and about homosexual and the oppressive nature of bigots? perhaps you could rephrase what you originally wanted to express being totally honest with yourself...
and saying that you want gay friends for the sake of diversity and the cool contemporary liberal vibe that is these days attached to the idea of homosexuality is like me saying i want to befriend more people of African origin because they so clearly express my ideals and bring a colourful foundation to my friendship group (i'm not racist) how does that sound? pretty annoying huh?
blubird, nothing wrong with wanting to meet new friends. But I know where franzde is coming from. That thing, when some girls (I stress some) find out your gay, they get that look in their eye like they've got a new toy, they think it's going to be like Carie and Stanford,shopping and sipping lattes while talk about boys, sex and shoes Really annoying. Sorry for the cynicism, but we've been through it too many times before, a girl actively looking out for a gay male friend, its just about always self serving
"you're "not gay", so who are you to talk about society's prejudices and shallow judgment" Well, truth be told, i think i have a damn good right to. I may not be gay, but one of my gay friends was killed because he was gay. That's more than enough expireince with prejudicing then i would like.
