Kissing VS. Sex

I had an interesting conversation with my stepdad the other night... very long, wont go into detail, but, he told me at one point that he personally feels that kissing is more intimate than sex. I think this may have to do with his younger single days... he was a marine out of highschool, and single until he married my mom at age 29 (i think) my mom on the other hand, who was married feb. of her senior year of highschool and pretty much her whole life since.. thinks sex is the most intimate thing you can share with somebody.

I'd like to know others' opinions on this if anyone wants to share... which is more intimate to YOU?

 

Normally I would say sex, but since most people on here aren't virgins, I'll throw that out the window.

 

ideally, i'd say sex is more intimate, and that the intimacy is what makes the sex good. but, a lot of people tend to separate the two. i used to. for a lot of people, they can kind of just let the lower halves of their bodies grind, while the upper half is counting ceiling tiles or whatever. when people get to be that separated from their own bodies, let alone their partner's, then yes, the kissing is far more intimate, even frigheteningly so.

i've had in my young and stupid days lots of one nighters that were "no kissing" sex: our bodies could fuck and get off, but kissing implied a closeness that niether of us wanted to go near at the time. it implied an opening up, and letting someone in, a certain trust that at the time i was just not capable of.

nowadays, to be quite honest, i much prefer kissing over empty sex. as bad as i need dick (how do people live without sex??? it's been months & i'm going to explode!!!) i'd still rather have a really tender, intimate kiss with someone special than an empty body thrusting mechanically into mine.

 

I would say both can be intimate, it just depends on how much effort and emotion you put into them.

Take sex it can be a very quick, wild event with very little emotions involved , with someone you just met or it can be slow, taking hours with lots of foreplay, hot bubble bath, massage oil, candles, glasses of sparkly, soft music, with someone that means alot too you.

It is all really a state of mind.......

 

I completly agree its all about the state of mind. When I first met my boyfriend we had our first kiss in the forest and it litterly took my breath away, i have never felt like that before in my life. So i defintly think both can be equally intimate

 

kissing to me is more intimate. i could fuck a hooker, or a drunk girl or just some horny girl and have it done with...but kissing signifies something far more special to me....i would be open to an open relationship where my girl can fuck who ever she wants, but if kissing was involved i'd wouldnt be so open to the concept.

edit- i'd also like to point out that this is comming from a virgin, so you can't say im only saying that because im a lil fuck slut, because im not. im a lil flirt slut.

 

lol, okay.

 

hey, how YOU doin, baby?

 

is that you being a lil flirt slut?... you know i can't resist your charm...

hehe, now back to kissing....

i haven't decided what i think totally.. i think both should probably go hand in hand.. but i have had sex without kissing and i thought it sucked. unfulfilling. kissing is soo necessary... sooo intimate, and sex has just become so.. i dont know, common? in society, in general. but kissing.. hey. touching your toungues together... tasting and smelling each other at the same time... holding hands is kinda along those same lines too... or playing footsies.. hehe. how sad... but i think those "little things" are driven by different desires than our sex drives. hmm.. i'm sure i could be more articulate if i wasmore awake. blah, i'll prolly post again later

 

I'd have to say that kissing is more intimate. (let's reference Pretty Woman where she won't kiss her tricks) For me kissing is far more emotional and sensual than sex.

 

I've heard this argument before: the main point that I like is that kissing (lipkissing, anyway) is about the only act of physical intimacy that you HAVE to do face-to-face. Quite convincing really. But then they started talking about the mouth looking like a vagina and other tedious Freudian bollocks and I lost interest.

 

I agree wholeheartedly, Kitty...

 

Kissing is definitely more intimate.That's why whores won't kiss people.

 

Kissing is more intimate to me. Sex is to easy to give to a person... course I've ended up screwed over by this... besides the point.


But when you kiss someone, you are doing it mostly because of the fact that you have some sort of feeling for them. They aren't just a body for you to ravish. Plus the right kiss with the right person can normally move to something else...

Ugh, now I've gone and depressed myself all over again... meh

 

I agree

yep you have depressed me as well

 

I think in general, men find kissing more intimate and I would have to agree. As has been said previously, kissing is done face to face. For me, the best stimulation is mental, so to have brains, eyes, mouths, ears (everything involved in communication) next to each other as one, is the best. Maybe that sounds lame, but I can't think of any other way to describe it.

 

sex I can't remember everyone who I've kissed but I've only slept with two people.

 

It totally depends on the act... It isn't strictly kissing vs. sex...

To me, there is a difference between fucking and lovemaking. One includes intimacy, the other does not.

Kissing is more intimate, to me, than fucking. But, kissing is not more intimate, to me, than lovemaking.

Also, for me, making love always includes kissing. Fucking can include kissing, but doesn't always...

 

while sex is very interesteing in some cases, it is highly overated, been there done that, had fantises and did them, had desires and fullfilled them butto have a perfect lover share a unique warm heartfilled kiss and see stars and dream is overwhelming and much more than any sexual passage....

 

An ex of mine told me once that she'd had sex with guys who she did not kiss. Hearing this actually disturbed me at the time. For her kissing is definitely more initimate. But for me, I can't see myself having sex without kissing. Sex includes the kissing (or is reached by a path that involves kissing and other foreplay), so therefore must be more intimite than kissing alone.