hello everybody... i really need anybody's help, please. i am in a long distance relationship... we have been dating for what would've been 9 months TODAY but we broke up yesterday... so last year in october-ish, i was going to university, i only went for a semester. i was ridiculously drunk and kissed a guy for about 10seconds, that's it tho. it was a quick stupid thing, he was a friend of a friend and i haven't seen or talked to him since, and there were NO feelings what so ever, i dont even really remember what he looks like. anyways, i told my boyfriend because i wanted to be honest with him... i told him when he came to visit...and he said that we would work through it. ever since he left 1.5 weeks ago we started drifting...it seemed like he was never excited to talk to me anymore or anything...so i confronted him about it saturday night...and he said it was nothing but i had a feeling a break up was coming...and surely enough, sunday morning it did. he said he hated thinking about it. and he ended it. we stayed on the phone for a while and talked like we were friends and it was okay, but every now and again i'd burst into tears. i feel like he isnt even upset, but he says he really is but doesnt want to show it. i need him back...ive grown to love him so much more than i did back then,and i would never ever cheat on him again. it was a stupid immature thing i did, and i know cheating is DISGUSTING...but it was so stupid. and i need to know what to do. please, no insults...i know what i did was so wrong and i'm really feeling like such an a-hole and i'm extremely depressed...i know i deserve it. i just... i need him. i cant stop crying. please help. thank you. also, he is now saying to wait for him because he still wants me to be there and in the mean time he will try to get over it... he said that maybe after that we could be together again... do i wait or do i move on?
Iam in an LDR too .. and the most important thing in this kind of relationship is trust..You gotta be trustworthy..no trust = not worth it. Only thing you can do is try to establish trust again and talk to him about it, its up to him to take it or leave it.
i've told him that we should learn to work through it and that he should know i would never do that again...but he said we should break up, and he wants his time to try and get over it. and then once he is, maybe he will want to get back with me. but also, maybe he wont....so ill be waiting and what if he says he doesnt want to? then i pretty much get broken up with again.... i can't do that again, im not strong enough...
Let him have his space then, in the mean time dont put your life on hold and just keep doing your thing.
