child support.

Let's try this again...

I think my last post was deleted.

Anyway, I finally got a support check from my ex-husband. Courtesey of the state, via a contempt hearing.

 

umm congratulations.

why did you guys separate?

 

How can a woman expect some guy to want to love his child, now OR in the future, when he is forced to pay money and not get the time he wants with his child? Child support is not fair to the non-custodial parent. And no, the child's best interests are NOT served in that situation. I have seen so many friends get shafted, men and women, through child support. People who ask the government to force someone to pay is creating a slave, and a slave parent will NEVER willingly contribute any love to a child's life. It has to be a choice or it will not be genuine. If you think about what a child learns from this setup, it is not responsibility. It is slavery.

 

i like you

 

Oh it was indeed!

Pursuant to
this sticky the title "Ahahahaha..." seemed to miss the description threshhold a tad. I did hesitate on the possibility that somewhere in Hip Universe there may well be a curious web surfer entering "Ahahahaha..." into a search engine. I took a moment to reminisce the numerous times that I've fervently looked for "Ahahahaha..." but the occasions escaped me- then it occurred that I had in fact never performed such a search because there is no current gap in my field of knowledge for "Ahahahaha...". At that point I deleted the thread.

Congratulations on getting your child support.

 

i don't regret a single dime of the child support my father was forced to pay. he was a heavy fisted, mean-mouthed, alcoholic, selfish neglectful bastard. fuck him.

 

deleting posts makes you happy.

 

No- actually it doesn't. I'd rather not but if maintenance didn't get performed then the man who set this all up would take the forum we all like to use away. I was attempting to get the point across without being a total ass about it but of course someone is going to read something else into it.

 

off topic!!! lol. just kidding. well, only kinda. since it IS technically off topic but i never really thought that mattered. don't ban me.

 

The issue was alluded to in the original post and, realizing that threads will just disappear without explanation I'd use the occasion to refresh awareness about the webmaster's desire to have descriptive topics for his database that we are all contributing to... and that much that pushes boundaries is allowed. I recall not too long ago when his patience reached an end and would like to avoid that. I'm sure that all who enjoy frolicking in this verbal playpen will appreciate my risking the appearance of power trip is in fact pursuant to keeping this forum.

Now, back to topic

There are some rather bold assumptions about the father here. Odds are that at least some of them are correct. However, bringing up children takes money. If a guy helps make a kid, he's written into his next 20 or so years. The problem with the legal process from my observation is that in divorces, the fathers are often treated as defendants regardless of circumstances... this will turn a relatively amicable split into something more nasty should a skilled divorce attorney encourage his client to essentially loot her ex's finances. It does happen. OTOH, there are countless deadbeat assholes out there that dignify this legal practice. The big lesson is not to make kids with someone you're not committed to being with the rest of your life because once she gets knocked up you will be linked for a couple decades regardless of whether you get along.

 

oooooo! child support doesn't bother me so much, when one parent has sole custody. what does bug the living shit out of me is alimony. WTF?!! i know about the whole community property stuff, and i'm totally okay with that. that's some shit you signed on for. but alimony? my stepfather has been paying alimony for 22 years! my brother has a time limit on his at least.

dave, no he did good. by the time his lawyer was done with his exwife, she owed HIM money.

 

What?

No seriously, I think I must have heard you wrong.

My deatbeat ex-husband has not contributed anything financially to my son FOR THE ENTIRE 19 MONTHS HE'S BEEN ALIVE. He hasn't even seen him, THROUGH NO FAULT OF MINE. He doesn't call, he doesn't write, he doesn't e-mail. I could understand if he couldn't pay, but the man doesn't even call to see how he's doing. Everytime I suggest bring him up to see him, he is always busy.

I have been up to my elbows in poopy diapers for the past 19 fucking months. I have wiped his snotty nose, had trips to the emergency room, went through teething, stayed awake at night with him with no help from his father. I have layed awake at night wondering just how the fuck I'm going to make rent.

And you think child support is a bad idea??

 

I was going to jump in for you secret agent

glad you did so on your own. I have no clue where that chick is coming from

 

Holy shit...child support payments are to feed, clothe and put a roof over the head of a child. They are FOR THE CHILD. Love has absolutely nothing to do with any of those.

She must have a boyfriend who whines about how paying child support makes him hate his child.

 

lol. HIGH FIVE, GUYS!!

 

whoever she is, she is really annoying

and Seattle absolutely sucks, i don't know how i stayed there 3 years

 

dim bulb is likely just a guy pretending to be female. that happens quite a bit in these arguments. you never see them otherwise.

 

"Ahahahaha...". stinkfoot!

 

What the hell? My dad still loved me when he was forced to pay child support. Sure it pissed him off because it cut into his booze money, and he couldn't spoil the whore that demanded he pay her rent. How about you shut the hell up until you have a kid you have to raise alone without any financial support.

One good thing about my dad having to pay child support - he gave up the whore so he wouldn't have to give up his booze and then was thrown in jail for raising hell. The judge was sick of him and sent him off to a place that forced him to get sober. haha And my parents remarried.

 

I pay $170 a week in child support, which I have no problem paying at all. I know the money goes for my daughter, well for the most part. If you have a child, no matter how old you are, it is time to be an adult and take some responsibility in your life!



~namaste~