But I've been seeing my current boyfriend for about 4 months. He's pretty much one of my best friends. Now seeing as my past relationship were mostly sexual relationships, I wanted to make sure we had some type of foundation other than that (which was successful). Problem is sometimes he calls me names you just don't call a girlfriend, and causes me to wonder what I am to him. Those two names are buddy and ladyfriend. He already knows that buddy bugs me, but sometimes it slips and I feel myself backing off. Another thing is that we have had a couple unsuccessful tries at sex. He'll be fine, but the moment the condom is on his penis loses it's erection. We talked about maybe going on birth control, which I'm kind of fine with, but our relationship is still young, and I'm also afraid that maybe the condom isn't the problem. Sometimes I want to put the blame on myself, maybe I'm not doing something right, or not desirable enough. I just don't know. So I'm on my period again, which reminded me that we haven't tried having sex again in over a month. Now I'm a very sexual person and I have needs, but I don't want to pressure him into making another attempt. I was kind of waiting for him to maybe bring it up, but I just don't see that happening and it's driving me nuts. Like we'll fool around and my body will get all excited, and then nothing happens, and strangely I feel like that's taking a toll on my body (and my mind). My friends told me that maybe I should break things off with him and find someone who can fulfill me in all areas, but as I said he's like my best friend, and I don't want to lose him, and cheating is not an option. How do I bring this up without pressuring him? Because pressuring him is only gonna make his problem worse. Also I have yet to go on birth control again, so this would mean we'd have to try with the condom, which will probably lead to the same outcome, but I feel it's neccessary to start successfully there, before putting harmones into my body.
Ok first off it could totally be the condom, if he is a bigger guy. I dated a guy who had to wear magnum comdoms casue regular sized comdoms were to tight and there for made him go a lil limp! But if that is not the case, and he is average size, maybe you need to talk to him baout how he really feels about this relationship. Cause it might turn out that you guys are jsut better friend, and not meant to be lovers
that's what I was thinking, but the first time he tried he was really frustrated, because he said had been waiting for that moment for a long time. the whole condom thing, he's average and was wearing a magnum, I believe , and so I kind of don't believe that the condom was that tight I mean lovers we are, but maybe physically we're just not fit for each other? that makes me sad.
lots of guys have trouble with condoms, even average-sized ones. Ever watch Seinfeld? But seriously, it's very common. And he probably hasn't asked you about sex because he's really embarassed and doesn't want to screw up again. It takes a big toll on your perception of your own masculinity when something like that happens.
yeah but at some point he's gonna have to. I feel like our relationship just stops at the skin, yah know? and theres other things he could be doing to satisfy me, but he hasn't
He's definitely attracted to you. That isn't the problem. You say you've been best friends a while. He's probably loved you for a long time. He probably knows a lot of your past relationships and maybe personal details. I'd say that he is pretty terrified of not performing up to the standards tgat he thinks you want and have had. One chance and he'll blow it in his eyes. This happened to me twice with getting together with a friend. It's so hard to make the move. Twice with me she finally pushed it and twice the sexual relationships worked out the best they had. May surprise you.
Don't give up so easy. Has he been erect at any time when with you? Does he pleasure you other ways? If not then tell him what you'd like him to do. Once he's licking your pussy or tits he'll be super hard. Let him fuck you right then with no condom talk. 1 morning after pill will give you your answer whether you're good fit for each other. I made my wife pregnant first time, lol. She had a minute and half ish of my 7 inch curved cock then 9 months later squeezed out our 9 pound baby .
He calls you "buddy" and hates condoms. really? that's it? where is the problem part? did i miss something?? don't project ur "i used to be a whore" insecurities on the guy.. if that is the worst thing that happens, we call that a win. #doyouevergetthatnotsofreshfeeling
