try for the first time.

I need a little advice.

I am 15 and have just become sexually active this year. Some oral sex to boys and intercourse for the first time just this past weekend (It was GREAT! ).

I have never done anything sexually with a girl, not even a kiss. But a couple of time when I have seen girls skinny dipping or showering in PE I have these "urges". I want to touch them and kiss them.

Since I like buys I guess I would be considered hetrosexual but I may be bisexual.

What I want to know is how do get to be intimate with another girl when i don't know any who are either gay or bi. I think this one girl I am interested in might be, I have seen her looking at my body in the shower, but she turns away when she sees me looking at her.

How can I approach her?

 

That covers the majority of gay flirtation.

Luckily for you, women are generally more open to this kind of thing, and if you're a genuine bisexual girl you'll never want for guys (although I wouldn't date any of them, you'll never hear the end of it). They can also be a lot meaner though, so tread careful. I don't like to advise using the internet, but it might be an idea. You should try and meet someone in a "safe" environment, so you can be sure that nothing bad will happen. I wouldn't advise letting everyone know, I was out in high school and I don't think it did me many favours.

Take yr time, try and catch the girl's eye and you'll probably see there whether she was looking at you Sapphically or just wondering what you were staring at. It is difficult in a straight environment, but with time you can recognise the signs.

And if all else fails:
a) get someone drunk
b) go out with a guy and ask him to find you a girl (not advisable, but probably would work).

 

SelfControl, you've been a huge addition to this forum. Good advice and insights all around. I agree with your post.

 

But, is there something that I can do that would tip her off if she were interested, but would seem "innocent" if she wasn't?

I'm sorry, maybe I'm nieve but Although I have done a lot of things this year, it's all really new to me. I have these feelings and urges and some things i have seen in some movies one of my girl friend had turned me on. Bit everybody laughed when we were watching it, spankings, anal sex and girls doing each other.

I would just die if things got out at school that I liked girls (I think). I live in a real small town and I don't know of anyone who is gay.

 

Firstly, i'm not very good a wooing girls, probably because i'm not that attractive, but i don't do horribly either.

I would say that the best "innocent" way to do anything involving an object of affection is to invite them to do something that people do anyway. Some of my favorite dates have just been hours of sitting in a coffee house talking. The sort of thing that groups do, but on a personal level. and since it sounds like you are primarily interested in how sexually open they are then you can eventually steer the conversation that way (i'm sure that it's alot easier for another woman to bring this up with a woman than it is for men.)

As for being turned on by things like anal sex and spankings, you're going to find that there are lots of people who aren't open to any of it. Even people with very liberal upbringings sometimes tend towards sexaul repression.

 

There isn't any place to go for coffee where I live. No place to go for anything. We got one little general store/gas station in town and thats it! Nothing to do here except backpack, kayak/canoe, camp and SEX!

But everyone is straight (or at least seems to be).

We all kinda hang together in large or small groups. Seems there is never just a two of us.

I want to give her a hug and a kiss and get our clothes off and see what goes from there, but can't figure how to break the ice. We have seen each other naked, in PE, skinny dipping (in a group), but never just the two of us alone.

 

Well then invite her over to your house to listen to music.

It would really help if you have a reputation for being a joker, then you can play it off like a big joke if things don't go well.

Where there is a will, there's a way. And as a 17 year old guy it is my will that i help you be a bisexual

 

She came to me today in school and told me that she liked the way I look at her!!

Then later she called and invited me for a sleepover this weekend.

Should I take pj's or just panties and a tee shirt. I have a thong thingie but would that be too much?

I guess she's expecting me to make a move of some kind and I don't really know how.

Should I just give her a kiss and (and what?)

Maybe someone with experience can pm me as how to approach this?

Two newbies!

 

Why thank you dahlin. I do a music course with very very sporadic lectures, so I'm on-line about 12 hours a day at the moment, often having had a few. Most other forum peeps think I'm a bit pretentious.

 

When she said that she liked the way you look @ her that was your first big clue (the fact that you 2 have been ogling each other for a while was actually the first) Her inviting you for a sleepover soon after is an even bigger clue. Now remember this is my take on this but it seems to me that she is certainly opening the door for possibilities.

As to what to wear I am going to be of limited value here, I can tell you what would work for a guy but women may have different perspective. I would suggest something that is cute but not going to freak out her parents, I assume you will have to interact with them somewhat. Hey, ladies, would a baby doll work here? Maybe something like a long shirt but not to long or maybe a short nightshirt. I am likely thinking too hard on this matter & maybe you are too. If she & you are ready to play, what you had on earlier could well be superfluous. It would come off anyhow.

As to how to proceed, I would be willing to bet that the same way you let a guy know you want to move on is very similar to how you would tell a gal (please correct me here if I'm wrong, ladies) I assume that you can flirt about the same way with either gender. Give her compliments & encourage her advances. Show your best features as much as possible. Laugh & smile a lot. Don't be afraid to touch I suppose start with her forearm or the back of her hand. If she doesn't pull away with that another somewhat neutral but a little more intimate like her knee or maybe brush her hair off of her face with your hand. By the time, you have gotten that far you are going to have a pretty good idea where she stands. I wouldn’t necessarily jump to trying to pull her shirt off but she may herself depending on how she feels. I don't know I don't believe in scripts for these things. You have to go with the situation & how you feel & her reactions. Hugs are quite safe. You can tell how she hugs back probably. What about small kisses, ladies? Would you accept them soon into something like this when you were 15?

There is a distinct possibility that she is thinking exactly the same things you are or then again, she could already be experienced with girls. You said you don't know if she is queer or not. She may be. Could her turning away in the shower was being coy or maybe not wanting the other girls in the shower know you two were looking @ each other?

Any way you are most likely going to get to know her a lot more this weekend than you have before. Have fun, let things flow. Please let us know how it turned out.

 

isn't that awsome?! yay!! something will deffinatly happen, you'll see. If things are the way you discribed then you've got it! probably more than kiss since it's a sleepover... )

 

YUMMY

 

I'm glad that the overnight with your friend went well. Congratulations on taking the leap of faith or whatever kind of leap it was for you. I hope you & her can have many good times together in the future.

 

Thank You,,it was a wonderful leap!:X

Boys are for fun......

Girls are for real!!

And the adventure continues.

 

you go girl,, winks.

 

Well, story! what happened?

 

yeah you cant keep us guessing like this! do tell.

 

Tell Us!

 

CUUUUUTE. I love stories like this.

How did it go? you don't have to tell us details if you don't want too... but I'm sure we'd appreciate it...

 

YEAH.. i want a story! LOL