Time to pull the plug?

So here's the deal. I dated this guy for about two years...this month we've been broken up for about a year. Problem is that I'm still completely crazy in love with him.

Despite the whole living together fiasco and what not- we have managed to stay friends. Well I guess technically we are FWB's. Anyway, that's even fine. My biggest concern is with the way he's been towards me.

Every time I meet a new dude and start moving on- he pulls me back. He tells me that he loves me and that he made a mistake in letting me go and that he still cares and thinks about us getting back together. All of that just sucks me right back in...because I do love the guy- more than anything or anyone. So then after I can the new dude- it goes back to the same. We're just friends who have sex and drink beer...and this lasts until I meet a new guy. It's like this never ending emotionally/mentally draining cycle.

Obviously I've surpassed the point of just looking like a fool. I fall back in every time and end up getting hurt. I'm wondering if it's time to pull the plug on him...or to keep waiting? I'm looking for some opinions on this because I'm torn. My brain is telling me that it's time to pull the plug but every other part of me says to wait it out...that maybe he'll be serious.

Of course who knows...when I saw him the other night I got really bombed and I think I might have cried about how much I love him (of course I don't have complete recollection of this...I just have the feeling that's what happened)...not a good scene and I'm sure that certainly isn't the way to win him back over

Any input would be awesome! Thanks

 

Sounds like he's a master manipulator. drop him, he really needs to grow up or get the fuck out.

 

I know exactly how you feel. I am in the same thing. I have not dated someone, Yet. But my tells me if date someone else we are over forever. But it was ok for him to see another girl while we were fiancees. GO figure. I can't say much, Just that you have to be happy, If your not happy , then why want on him. Your young, Go out and have fun. Life is to short. I love mine still. He wants to work things out, as do I. But my heart is healing and the hurt is not as bad now. But i don't know howhe feels. So maybe in time I will date. I don't know. You never know who you might meet.

 

I think you need more male friend~

you can forget the lasted ,and fall in love the new one~

 

I don't think it's possible to be friends with an ex unless there's been a period of distance (not interacting at ALL). The rule of thumb is one month for every year. Since it's technically been 3 years on and off I would suggest getting him COMPLETELY out of your life for at least 3 months and then see how you feel from there.

If you interact with him at all during the 3 months you have to start over because it doesn't count. Even if it means completely avoiding places you both hang out at. This is the way to break his spell.

 

tell him straight up
y dont want the fwb crap u want it all or nothing, relationship or freeedom
u dont gotta ebnd the fwb thing if thasts all it is untill u meet guy2 but u cannot let a fwb guy keep u from meeting a real guy..

fwb has no strings, he has no right to ask u to be only with him unless hes committed to u
i dont think hes ever gonna be who u hope for so might as well look elsewhere

 

The man's a puppeteer-don't be his puppet.I don't think a relationship like you describe can ever be one with mutual respect,equality ,love and loyalty.